30 Shocking Domestic Violence Statistics That Remind Us It's An Epidemic

[sheshe2]

The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during that time was 11,766. That's nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war.

Women are much more likely to be victims of intimate partner violence with 85 percent of domestic abuse victims being women and 15 percent men. Too many women have been held captive by domestic violence -- whether through physical abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse or a combination of all three.

their lifetimes.We are inundated with news stories about domestic violence , from athletes beating their significant others in public elevators or in their own homes to celebrities publicly abusing their girlfriends. This problem is not one that will go away quickly or quietly.

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Domestic violence is not a singular incident, it's an insidious problem deeply rooted in our culture -- and these numbers prove that.

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The number of women murdered every day by a current or former male partner in the U.S.


38,028,000

The number of women who have experienced physical intimate partner violence in their lifetimes.

Read More http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/23/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776.html

My husband had a gun. I found it under the mattress one day when I made the bed. He had a vicious temper as well. I left, didn't take me long. I left.

[trumad]

1. K&R

They"ll be along shortly.

[sheshe2]

3. I know trumad.

Clockwork.

Tick Tock.

Perhaps they are tired tonight, Also TBH, some are not here tonight.

[napkinz]

45. just came across your thread sheshe and yep, they're here!

nt

[sheshe2]

46. Surprise, huh...

napkinz?! Thanks.

[napkinz]

47. kudos to you ... keep posting, keep fighting!

your posts are always informative and moving!

[sheshe2]

48. hey sweets, thanks...

you as well. no stopping, not ever.

[Lyric]

2. IBTMRAs

K&R

[trumad]

4. LOL

Tricky little F'ers. ...they may see the 1st couple of posts and go into hiding.

[geek tragedy]

10. Nope. nt

[Quantess]

5. Thanks for posting it.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

6. KICK REC. yeah, I'm SCREAMING

What, we're so indoctrinated into passivity that we shouldn't scream?

Why the fuck is this so much less of an issue than hate crimes against ANY other group?

[geek tragedy]

8. Because it is so depressingly common nt

[BlancheSplanchnik]

17. yeah...it's the norm. n/t

[sheshe2]

49. Gotta love you Blanche.

Well said.

Why the fuck is this so much less of an issue than hate crimes against ANY other group?

[Archae]

7. Women being a victim of domestic violence is wrong, period.

But men can be also.

I used to know a woman who had a quick, violent temper.

I have no idea where she is now.

But she put 2 boyfriends in the hospital, and went to jail both times.

[geek tragedy]

9. As predicted up thread. nt

[Archae]

11. What it looks like being "predicted..."

Is those who make excuses for guys beating up women.

But is it all right for a woman to beat the crap out of a guy?

Obviously, no.

[geek tragedy]

12. What is predictable is that in every thread about violence against women some

men's rights guy comes in and tries to derail the subject by making it about how men are victims of women.

Every fucking time. Just can't stand to have a discussion about violence against women. Always has to be about men.

[Archae]

13. No, this is not "men's rights" bullcrap.

It's simply stating that it's not always women who are the victims.

The numbers of men to women being victims is no doubt very lopsided, with far more men being the victimizers.

But violent women *DO* exist.
Or are you saying the woman I knew doesn't exist?
That her two boyfriends went into the hospital with self-inflicted injuries?

[The2ndWheel]

18. The title of the thread/article does say simply domestic violence

Even some of the numbers in the body of the article include men. Up to and including gay men. Not even just a straight thing.

If it's just about domestic violence against women, it's a poorly worded title.

[Oklahoma_Liberal]

19. So dramatic...

This is a public forum. The thread is about domestic violence. The folks who try to censor which posts are allowed in which threads remind me of the little children who build a clubhouse but refuse entry to other children for arbitrary reasons.

If you dislike her point about men also being victims, then dispute it with facts. Don't cry and whine about the existence of the post in the first place.

[geek tragedy]

20. 'Welcome' to DU

[Oklahoma_Liberal]

25. Thanks amigo :)

[Lancero]

32. Jury results, #15

(Jumping it off of your post to (try and) keep it closer to the hidden post)

On Sat Mar 21, 2015, 11:34 AM an alert was sent on the following post:

Start your own fucking thread then.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=6394243

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

This post is the definition of over the top. This poster constantly bullies anyone who posts anything he disagrees with.

JURY RESULTS

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sat Mar 21, 2015, 11:49 AM, and the Jury voted 4-3 to HIDE IT.

Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: This post doesn't rise to the level of a "hide". So I vote to LEAVE IT ALONE.
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: It's a discussion board. Not a "my opinion only" board.
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Unecessary use of ott language.

The topic title, nor linked article, mention women specifically so this topic by merit cannot be labeled a 'thread about domestic violence against women'. Archae's comments about male victims are well within the topics purpose of being about domestic violence.

If Geek Tragedy wants a specific topic about domestic violence against women, then they should consider starting a thread specifically on that subject.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Hijacking a thread about violence against women to talk about violence against men is trollish. Expect to be shouted down. I agree with geek_tragedy here: start your own fucking thread! -Dr.H
Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Geek Tragedy accusing someone of trying to change the topic? ..... That's rich.

[smirkymonkey]

59. Oh god, ffs!

What a bunch of whiners!

[smirkymonkey]

61. Yes, it is.

Just stop it.

[LeftyMom]

14. It's like somebody posting about needing safer cars, and then a poster telling about

their friend who died in a tragic unicycle accident.

If you tell them they're bullshitting you're an asshole, if you tell them they're threadjacking you're an asshole and if you tell them to stick to the topic at hand sure, car accidents are a bigger problem, but nobody even keeps unicycle death statistics and why don't you care about unicycle safety?

In other words it's cynical threadjacking by people who want to distract from the serious issue at hand.

[geek tragedy]

16. Or the gun trash who gleefully cite incidents where a knife was used to kill someone

as if that means guns aren't inherently dangerous.

Or any object used to kill someone. If it's a candlestick, the inevitable "well, I guess we gotta ban candlesticks now. Nyuk nyuk nyuk."

[Cha]

58. Whoa.. that was a Bad Hide.. OMZ.. you said "fucking"!!!!111111

[smirkymonkey]

22. +1000

I'm so sick of this shit. The MRAs always threadjack these topics and no real discussion can ever begin

[BlancheSplanchnik]

55. +2.......Trillion. n/t

[smirkymonkey]

21. +1000

Yep, always. Never fails.

[lumberjack_jeff]

27. The subject line of the OP is gender neutral.

Domestic violence is bad... for everyone involved.

[geek tragedy]

30. the great majority of the actual harm falls on women, and an even greater majority

of the harm is at the hands of men.

enough of the false equivalence. while on an individual basis certainly for those men who are battered there is an equivalence, society-wide it's not even close as to which gender bears the brunt and which gender deals out the suffering

[lumberjack_jeff]

33. Even disregarding "actual harm" to men from domestic violence...

... reciprocal domestic violence is the type most likely to result in injury to women. So even if your interest in the subject is limited to women only, IPV directed at men is still an important topic.

We can't reduce IPV toward one sex only. It is a cycle of violence and must be treated as such.

[prayin4rain]

35. "Reciprocal domestic violence is the type most likely to result in injury to women"

WHAT? ? Where did you read that? ? Or did you just make it up on the fly?

[lumberjack_jeff]

36. It's one of the most repeatable study results in the DV business.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=half+of+IPV+is+reciprocal

Here's just one.

Or this.

Men were seen as hopelessly aggressive by nature -- predatory, and controlling. Many men reacted by joining the cause and becoming the “enforcers”--outdoing women in their zeal to protect womanhood and rid society of batterers at all costs. Other men reacted passively, unaccustomed to being adversarial toward women. And still others reacted sympathetically, but were outraged by the attack on civil liberties and constitutional rights such branding of men as batterers entailed, often with minimal due process. (“Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience” said a Vassar College Assistant Dean of Students). Many men felt themselves, as a group, being degraded and bashed, much as blacks had been a generation before-- when, if you were black, you were a priori deemed capable of any crime, any aggression. Men felt themselves discredited--many of whom had fought for years, and through their families, for generations, for equality and justice for all.

In this climate, there were always a very few who did not view DV as gender specific at all, but rather, as part of the difficulties in relationships that develop in life, especially when we are most vulnerable.1-3 But their voices were muted and unheard, and their influence small. And then, with one monumental and very well conceived study, everything changed. For in May 2007, in the American Journal of Public Health, a well respected and peer reviewed journal, a study appeared by Daniel Whitaker and his colleagues Tadesse Haileyesus, Monice Swahn, and Linda Saltzman.4 In this beautifully executed study, the authors sought to examine the prevalence of reciprocal (ie, perpetrated by both partners) and nonreciprocal intimate partner violence (IPV), and to determine whether reciprocity is related to violence frequency and injury. All in all 18,761 respondents were studied.

The results showed that almost 24% of all relationships had some violence, and half were reciprocally violent. In non-reciprocally violent relationships, women were the perpetrators in more than 70% of cases. Reciprocity was associated with much more frequent violence among women, but not men (adjusted odds ratio 2.3 for women and 1.26 for men). Regarding injury, men were more likely to inflict injury (adjusted odds ratio 1.5 and 1.1), and reciprocal intimate partner violence was associated with greater injury than was nonreciprocal IPV, regardless of the gender of the perpetrator. The authors discuss a recent meta-analysis with the finding that a woman’s perpetration of violence was the strongest predictor of her being a victim of partner violence. And included in the conclusions of the study was the very important finding that the context of the violence (reciprocal vs nonreciprocal) is a strong predictor of reported injury. As one of its conclusions the authors state that prevention approaches that address the escalation of partner violence may be needed to address the reciprocal violence (Italics mine). The authors further state they were surprised to learn that with violence that was not reciprocal, women were the perpetrators in a majority of cases.

[prayin4rain]

37. Reciprocity of IPV does not necessarily mean that the frequency or the severity of the violence is

equal between partners.

This is why the other posters said that if you want to talk about male domestic violence, then start a thread. This thread is about the fact that over a thousand women each year are killed by it.

The fact that hundreds of thousands couples engage in what could be considered domestic violence is barely relevant.

There's certainly a difference between a woman getting beaten to a pulp daily, and a man getting slapped every few years.

I'm not condoning any violence to either party, but a slap and murder are different things. Apparently, lots of couples push and slap eachother. ...which, i must admit i did not realize. But talking about that type of general domestic violence in a thread talking about the number of women murdered by domestic violence is ridiculous to me.

Also, that google thing you did was cool. ..how did you do that?

[lumberjack_jeff]

39. The factors that increase women's injury in a violent relationship are a topic of this thread.

Slap and murder are different things. I may be alone in this, but I think the point at which to intervene should be closer to "slap" rather than "murder".

And if you read the studies I linked, "a woman getting beaten to a pulp daily, and a man getting slapped every few years" is very much not the typical IPV relationship. Among unilaterally violent relationships, 70% of the time the female is the perpetrator... but it's "just an occasional slap"

...until it isnt, at which point he goes to jail and she goes to the ER.

[prayin4rain]

38. I figured it out. Funny!

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=how+did+he+do+that

[liberalhistorian]

57. Don't even bother

with this one, there's no point. He believes that child support is "male enslavement", among other misogynistic gems.And he always pops into these threads whining that no one ever talks about male victims of violence. Somehow I doubt that nearly twelve thousand men were murdered by their partners or ex-partners just during the past thirteen years. And the beat goes on. Sigh.

[smirkymonkey]

60. +1000

[smirkymonkey]

62. Yes, it is tragic for everyone involved.

However, this thread is about violence against women. Please do try to keep up.

[LanternWaste]

64. I imagine in conversations regarding cancer, there's often going to be the petulant whine of the

I imagine in conversations regarding cancer, there's often going to be the petulant whine of the dullard asking if "so it's all right to suffer from a stoke?"

[TexasMommaWithAHat]

24. Partner Violence is Wrong. Period.

Men against women. (Obviously, the most prevalent as death statistics prove.)

Women against men.

Men against men.

Women against women.

Gays and lesbians don't like to talk about partner violence in the general public because they already have to put up with so much crap from homophobes, but - make no mistake - partner violence is a serious issue for everyone, and in years to come when the LGBT community has gain more acceptance, you will hear about quite a few violent women. Maybe, then, female against male violence won't be so ignored.

My mother sent my father to the hospital. Cracked his skull because he was sitting quietly in his chair and ignoring her as he usually did when he drank too much. Gentle drunk. Violent wife. It certainly wasn't the first time she became violent. Certainly no charges were ever brought, because that just didn't happen in the sixties.

Yeah, I had a gentle, quiet, alcoholic father who drank at home in front of the tv and then fell asleep in his chair, and an unhappy, sometimes angry mother. Loved them both because they both did their best as parents (and actually were awesome parents in many ways), but there is no doubt who was the violent parent. After the stress of raising kids was behind them, I think things improved quiet a bit, but I will never know for sure.

[brer cat]

23. "Shocking" is correct.

"A woman is beaten every nine seconds in US." Mercy!

I am glad that you were able to leave, sheshe. So many (too many) women are trapped by fear they will be killed if they leave, or lose custody of their children, or become homeless.

K&R

[sheshe2]

40. Children weren't a factor for me...

We were only married a few years, thank goodness. I was lucky on that one, I know far to many that stayed together for the reasons you stated. I have also stated this before, it is a silent crime for many, sssssh don't tell. That is sad, brer cat.

[Oktober]

26. I'm getting real tired of the comparison of Afghanistan/Iraq war dead...

... as compared to whatever pet cause folks may have.

10s and 100s of millions of people are not comparable on a per capita basis to the 100s of thousands that served...

Car wrecks, gun deaths, murder, left handed ginger beatings... Whatever it is... They just aren't equally representative and it's intentionally emotionally manipulative to try...

Same gripe applies for comparisons against the number of people killed on 9/11...

[boston bean]

28. WTH?

Women, don't get to discuss issues that affect them, because of war, car deaths, gun death and "left handed ginger beatings"???????

You should be ashamed for typing that out... Maybe we shouldn't discuss war, car death, guns etc because women are dying... Your logic is a complete fail and you ought to be embarrassed... Never mind your casual/allegedly humorous throw away of "left handed ginger beatings???? What is that all about...

Here is a suggestion, try to recognize that there are many issues out there that need discussion and understanding. Speaking of one does not negate the absolute imperative of discussing others.

[geek tragedy]

29. so domestic violence is a 'pet cause?' Thanks for MRAsplaining that to us nt

[sheshe2]

41. "Pet Cause"??????

Glad your post was hidden. Violence against woman is a pet cause to you, we are beneath your respect....got it!

[prayin4rain]

34. How appalling that anyone can read that 1,000 women a year are murdered

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by domestic violence and then complain about how the message was delivered or the much less severe cases of slap and push. The women haters on this board really make me wonder what their personal lives are like and shudder.

[laundry_queen]

43. It is pretty scary

I get first hand accounts of certain things from my SIL who is a cop (with a psych degree) that deals now almost exclusively with DV cases. She's one of the most fair minded people I know, and in addition to that, my brother's friend was the victim of DV himself (a case my SIL actually was called to several times) so my SIL takes all cases seriously, not matter what sex is involved. But when I asked her about the statistics, she said probably 5% of her calls are for women abusing men and in the vast majority of those cases, there is very little physical injury as compared with calls that are men abusing women (Which often needs a trip to the hospital). In addition to that, she works with social workers and trying to get women out of the situation is usually far more difficult, as they are usually dependent on the man for finances, or they are scared to leave because there are kids involved and they can't afford lawyers for a custody battle...etc. She said men have a much easier time leaving a DV situation. Women DV victims GENERALLY suffer so much more in these cases.

So, the "Yeah, but..." crowd is being extremely disingenuous. We should be able to talk about violence against women without having to qualify every single post on every thread. It's really ridiculous. And it makes me wonder, too.

[niyad]

42. a heartsick k and r for those sickening statistics.

[raccoon]

44. Thanks for posting this. After centuries, only in the last few decades has

it been talked about.

And of course, some people out there still don't want to talk about it.

[sheshe2]

50. They just want to derail the conversation, racoon.

[napkinz]

51. you posted these last year and I'd like to share them for those who missed that thread ...

see http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025618824

[sheshe2]

52. The Woman Who Walked into Doors.

Woosh~ I forgot about that one, or not. Always an excuse for the bruise, always an excuse and seldom the truth. The silent crime. Thank you for reposting that, we can never forget....however much we want to.

The very title of the book belies the secrecy and denial permeating the novel. As any social worker can attest, ‘walking into doors’ has been so often used as an excuse to explain evidence of abuse that it has essentially become a euphemism for domestic violence.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025618824#top

Tears napkinz~

[treestar]

53. Holy cow, that's a sobering statistic!

And to you. Glad you left that husband!

[sheshe2]

54. Me too treestar!

I have been better for it.

You~

[Thinkingabout]

56. Domestic does not know economic boundries. It doesnt have to happen.

We own our houses, we do not own our mates.

[Cha]

63. This is so unimaginably sad, she.. thank goodness we have a President who is speaking out

about Domestic Violence.. and many others including you! Mahalo

For the second time in a week, a live primetime event showcased a message against domestic violence. On February 1, it was the NFL’s PSA during the Super Bowl on NBC, and tonight it was President Barack Obama during the Grammys on CBS. In April last year, Obama joined Vice President Joe Biden and Hollywood folks including Daniel Craig, Steve Carell, Benicio del Toro, Seth Meyers and Dule Hill for a PSA aimed at protecting people from sexual assault.

http://deadline.com/2015/02/grammys-obama-anti-domestic-violence-ad-1201369253/

So grateful you got away before it was too late, she