The Apparently Immoral Shoulders of My Five-Year-Old Daughter

[KamaAina]

http://blogs.houstonpress.com/artattack/2015/04/the_apparently_immoral_shoulders_of_my_five-year-old_daughter.php

Last Monday morning was a little colder than I expected, so I made sure that there was a warm change of clothes in my daughter's backpack in case she wanted to change. She'd had her heart set on wearing her rainbow sun dress since the weather warmed up so I finally acquiesced and let her. Still it wasn't too surprising to me to see her walk out of school that afternoon with her T-shirt on over the dress and her jeans on under it....

"No," she said a little crestfallen. "I had to change because spaghetti straps are against the rules."

I'm not surprised to see the dress code shaming come into my house. I have after all been sadly waiting for it since the ultrasound tech said, "It's a girl." I didn't think, though that it would make an appearance when she was five years old.

Five. You get me? She's five. Cut her hair and put her next to a boy with no shirt on and she is fundamentally identical. I guess you could argue that a boy would not be allowed to wear a shirt with spaghetti straps either, but the day they sell anything like that in the boys section of a Target I will happily withdraw my objections.

Warning: NSFW.

[lapfog_1]

1. Our insane "by the rule book" society, especially as relates to children - n/t

[randome]

2. Unimaginative administrators behaving like robots, not human beings.

[hr][font color="blue"][center]I'm always right. When I'm wrong I admit it.
So then I'm right about being wrong.[/center][/font][hr]

[Sienna86]

3. Are these rules sexualizing our daughters?

Food for thought.

[riderinthestorm]

9. Yes. No question about it nt

[truebrit71]

4. Wow. That's really fucking stupid.

[graegoyle]

5. One of the things I think of...

...when I see stories like this is the attitudes of, "Just go along to get along," and, "There are reasons for rules." Some people will see this as a moral or religious view being overbearing or boorish; I see it as those concepts--morality and religion--as tools for control.

[abelenkpe]

6. LAUSD is the same

Or at least my kids school. Last year when it was over 90 outside I sent my daughter to school in a sleeveless dress, leggings and a jacket. When I picked her up she was still wearing the jacket. She said her teacher told her she couldn't take off her jacket because she was dressed inappropriately by not having sleeves. It wasn't spaghetti straps, just sleeveless. Her face was flushed and red, she was so hot. This was second grade. Personally think it's ridiculous. I guess it's better she pass out of heat exhaustion than wear a sleeveless dress. The nurse could revive her....O, wait. There is no nurse. The school doesn't have the budget for a nurse.

[Nay]

7. She couldn't wear a sleeveless dress?? God. In the fifties in 2nd grade I wore a sleeveless

dress for my school picture. Nobody acted this way back then. I'm glad I'm old.

[Maedhros]

8. Christian burkhas are next. [n/t]

[HockeyMom]

10. Come to South Florida

Five year olds????? lol Try full figure HS teens not only wearing those spaghetti strap tops, but shorts so short they look like they came to school in their panties.

KamaAina, your entire school district would have a massive coronary.

[KamaAina]

11. That's not mine

though it might be ScreamingMeemie's (Houston area).

[lpbk2713]

12. Zero tolerance BS in the school systems.

The use of common sense was pronounced unacceptable by official edict long ago.

So sorry this girl had to deal with such stupidity at the hands of "adults".

[MineralMan]

13. What a Trollop!

Cute kid. The school is incredibly stupid.