The Shit People Say: Transgendered edition

[markpkessinger]

Had this exchange with another reader in the comments to an article on Raw Story about Bruce Jenner:

AbigailTea

Honest questions for those who support transgenderism:

1. If you are a hetero man would you have an issue with marrying and having sex with a man who tells you that he is now a transgender woman?

2. Or for the hetero woman would you have an issue with marrying and having sex with a woman who tells you that she is now a transgender man?

3. Or if you are a lesbian woman would you have an issue with marrying and having sex with a man who tells you that he is now a transgender woman?

4. Or if you are a gay man, would you have an issue with marrying and having sex with a woman who tells you that she is now a transgender man?

If you believe that a man can turn into a woman 100% or that a woman can turn into a man 100%, then why would you have an issue?

markpkessinger

Gender is a much, much more complex issue than one of mere external plumbing. I am sure that each of the example scenarios you spell out above has occurred at one point or another. And actually, one of my dearest friends fits your example number 3. She is a lesbian, and her partner of seven years is a transgendered woman (fully transitioned).

But the point here is not whether you, or I, would be comfortable in any of those scenarios you provided. Unless you or I are one of the parties involved in the relationship, it isn't up to either you or me to say what the parties involved are, or should be, comfortable with. It is for them, and them alone. Tell me, is life in your own bedroom really so uneventful that you must obsess about what is going on in other people's bedrooms?

Oh, and the friend to whom I referred (who occasionally posts here on DU) chimed in as well, as you can see if you follow the link above to the thread!