When a few headslaps mean you care

[boston bean]

[Oktober]

1. Too little too late...

[boston bean]

2. Really? What makes you say so?

[Oktober]

3. He's a grown man...

Maybe she should have tried it as a child...

I think I learned to keep my hands off of things that weren't mine in kindergarten.

[boston bean]

4. He is a juvenile... I'm sure you were the perfect little sweetie and never

did nothing wrong... right? Cause by your post it sure seems that way.

[Ms. Yertle]

8. How do you know he's a juvenile?

His face is covered.

[boston bean]

9. It is reported that way and he is carrying a back pack

and the Baltimore police said it was school age children and asked parents to go find their children and bring them home.

[Ms. Yertle]

10. That's still a lot of assumptions

My 31-year old son uses a backpack.

I doubt that it was only school-age children on the streets. Could have been people of any age.

And lots of parents still treat their offspring as kids, especially when they are acting inappropriately.

[boston bean]

11. You think this woman went out and found her 30 year old son to bring him home?

Let's use some common sense, please.

[Ms. Yertle]

12. I probably would have

If I had thought my son was in a potentially dangerous situation I would have gone looking for him.

[Oktober]

15. Short of some severe mental handicap...

... he is old enough to know to keep his hands off of other people and their property. He sure seems to be aware enough to attempt to hide his face so that he can get away with it. Seems to be an excellent indicator that he knows that he is committing a crime.

Very few teens claim 'perfect little sweetie' status. Most of them, aside from the degenerates, make it out without looting or arson. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

The lengths some people will go to to justify criminal behavior is amazing to me...

[justiceischeap]

5. Studies show that most people view black youths as older than they are

Case in point, your post.

http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/black-boys-older.aspx

[joeybee12]

35. I'm sure she did do it as a child...lots of times...

The Adrian Peterson method of child reaaring...violence begets violence.

[ann---]

6. That looks like

abuse, to me.

[boston bean]

7. I see a mothers fear for her son and the choices he was making...

He wasn't hurt by her, but he could have ended up dead in the back of a police paddy wagon.

[Bonobo]

14. So if a man hits some woman he loves, it is okay if she is not hurt.

Got it. As long as it is to protect her (as he sees it).

[LanternWaste]

16. There's the irrational repose we knew would arrive in the form of righteous indignation!!

There's the irrational repose we knew would arrive in the form of righteous indignation!!

[Bonobo]

17. Why it irrational to point out a glaring double standard?

I'm not outraged about anything in fact. If a father had clouted his daughter like that, it would be fine. Right?

[geek tragedy]

20. Because parents discipline children, but husbands don't discipline wives. Derp nt

[phil89]

27. So beating someone

And smacking their face is discipline? Sickening.

[Inkfreak]

32. That poster never responds.

That poster never responds.

Just a snarky response and on to the next thread. They've elevated drive-by posting to an art form.

[Major Nikon]

18. Pointing out it's wrong for a child to be beaten is "righteous indignation"

Unbelievable.

[Major Nikon]

19. You don't even have to go that far

If this were a woman hitting a female child it would have never been posted, or if it had the title would have been different.

I have to wonder about the mindset of anyone who would post this thinking it's OK and even cheering it on as if everyone should be beating the shit out of their male children to show them they "care".

[ann---]

24. Violence

breeds more violence. There must have been a reason her son chose violence.
He probably experiences it at home. The mother certainly didn't choose a better way to handle conflict.

[Gormy Cuss]

25. It looks like abuse to me too

but it also looks like a mother's fear for her son.

[NOLALady]

26. I am sure you are correct.

I protested during the sixties while in my teens. I had specific orders to NOT get involved. My Mom was scared to death that I would be harmed/killed by the police.

[eShirl]

21. Context is everything. n/t

[Bonobo]

13. Oh shit...

You honestly don't know how much of a double standard you have, do you?

Would you react that way if it was a father to a son or a father to a daughter?

Yes, same power of slaps... Would you? Would you really?

Violence is okay if it is from a woman. Got it.

[NuclearDem]

22. Laughing my fucking ass off at the "OMG MISANDRY" posts.

[phil89]

28. Don't expect to be

Taken seriously of you laugh at double standards.

[Eleanors38]

34. ^^^.

[ProudToBeBlueInRhody]

37. How about "OMG VIOLENCE"

It's funny how an institutional or at least tacit acceptance of female on male violence has been routinely dismissed or ignored by many here, including the OP, as a strawman concocted by "MRAS!!!!".

Well, Ray Bolger has arrived in Technicolor for all to see.

I feel for the mother in the OP. I'd like to know her story. Has she been slapping this kid her whole life though? Has it gotten through? No? Or is this the culmination of 15-20 years of frustration boiling over?

I just think it's interesting who posted this OP, and with zero hint of self-realization.

[Bonobo]

40. It is pretty funny in a grim sort of way. nt

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[lumberjack_jeff]

23. Spread the word

[seabeyond]

29. whole lot of stories in that. i am not jumping into this one. everyone knows i am not an advocate

hitting another. that certainly includes all children.

and i also know how imbalanced my perspective would be if that is the only thing i saw in that video.

i guess that is the best i can say, on this.

there is a lot of stories in that video. and all of them deserve their due.

[Yavin4]

30. She's teaching her son that it's okay to use violence to get results

That's what you do when you hit a child. You teach them that using violence is an acceptable means of getting the right behavior. Don't be surprised if he uses violence on others in his life to achieve these same results.

[brooklynite]

31. Are you suggesting they should sit down on a park bench for a heartfelt chat?

[Yavin4]

33. The fact that he's rioting is proof that she has failed as a parent.

She should not be getting praise nor respect for disciplining him now. She should take him away from the scene and discipline him at home.

[joeybee12]

36. I'm sure this kid got several slaps often as a child...

Bad parenting...he learned violence is ok.

[davidn3600]

38. And if it were a father slapping his daughter on the back of the head because he "cares"....

...I bet you'd have a VERY different opinion.

What if a girl was out on a school night causing mayhem and the father finds her and slaps her the way this mother is doing to her son? Would you be supportive of that dad? I sincerely doubt you would be.

[Bonobo]

39. But men are stronger!

Is probably their choice of logic error on this one.

[MicaelS]

41. And if a father got physical with his daughter...

In a similar situation, you would have a cow, breech position.