do you feel safe in your home........question asked to me today in the ER

[demtenjeep]

I have been having a major Crohn's flare up the last two days and it got so bad my husband said okay...lets go to the ER. Because of where the swelling happens it can turn into pancreatitis and that is what it was feeling like.

Had labs and a CT and it was confirmed it was just a bad flare up

While there the admin people asked me "Do you feel safe in your own home" I understand why they do that but my husband was sitting right there when they asked.

Now...I don't ever feel unsafe with my husband but what if someone did...no one would say I feel unsafe with their spouse right there?

I just thought it was weird

[Agschmid]

1. They ask everyone and I bet some do say yes.

I think it's a good thing.

[demtenjeep]

3. I don't think it is bad but it was asked while my spouse was sitting less than 5 feet away

if someone really felt unsafe, I doubt they would say so under those conditions.

of course when they took me to CT if I needed to it could have been said then..

just weird

[irisblue]

2. poor practice

when you get the customer service survey in the mail, do you think you'll say something?

[demtenjeep]

5. at first, I was going to respond no but upon reflection

I think I would mention that that question should be asked while the person was alone

[nadinbrzezinski]

4. I hope you start to feel better, SOON

[demtenjeep]

6. thanks. I no longer feel like I am going to die

still have considerable pain but it is comforting to know that there is no blockage or fissure

[nadinbrzezinski]

11. Good

:hugs:

[ladyVet]

7. They did that with my father last year.

We'd taken him to the emergency room because he was having chest pains, and I guess someone who hadn't looked at his chart saw the bruising on his forearms. He was then 84, so I guess they suspected elder abuse or neglect, but what they didn't know is he has a bone marrow disease and he bruises horribly.

We were in the room when they came and asked, around dinner time. I really liked the side-ways looks my mother and I were getting, like they thought we'd coached Daddy to say nothing. Like that would have worked with him. Ha! He got so pissed the woman left in a hurry.

We'd been there nearly 12 hours by then, finally having been sent to a room while waiting on some tests. Turns out it was a pulled muscle and shingles. What a day! Everybody -- staff, patients, half the visitors -- had some kind of virus, which I caught and was sick from for months before I finally recovered.

[Kelvin Mace]

8. My wife has MS and had a bad fall where face planted into a curb

She went to the hospital from work so they didn't ask the question then. They DID however ask it when I took her to the ER after her lip started to show signs of infection which we had been told to watch for. I got a hairy eyeball from the nurse who asked it.

Last year my wife took me to the ER after a fall which tore my shoulder up. They then asked me the same question.

[Downwinder]

9. No.

I have had terrorists in blue come stomping through the building several times.

I am afraid to leave the front or back door open to cool the place off.

[Yo_Mama]

10. It's required. Yes, it does seem weird, but certain screenings are mandated

Some by state and some by federal law.

If you think this felt weird, my younger brother hurt himself with a saw used a few years ago, and his wife drove him to the ER for stitches and a tetanus shot. This was in PA.

He got asked the same question with her sitting right there. You'd have to know my sis-in-law, and see the two of them together. Even now, thinking about it, I get tears in my eyes from laughter.

But men are also victims of domestic violence, and my brother's first wife, who had very severe mental illness, did attack him. So this isn't as stupid and shocking as it appears to many individuals. Also, if the spouse or elderly person is always accompanied by the abuser, this is the only opportunity they have.

[csziggy]

12. I was asked that once by my doctor's partner

He first saw me in the ER of a small hospital in a different county when I was struck in the face by a horse. I think all that stuck in his memory was the concussion and smashed up face. The next time he saw me was in the office when my doctor was on vacation. I'd had another horse related injury and he was writing up the order for an X-ray of my right hand.

He paused and asked me if I felt safe at home and if my husband abused me. I laughed and reminded him that the other injury was from a horse - the people that had taken me into the hospital had witnessed the incident and had told the personnel before I was completely aware.

My regular doctor later told me - at another visit caused by a horse injury - that his partner spoke with him, very worried that I was abused. My doctor told him that the only abuse was from the horses. He knew my husband very well since we were both his patients and knew my husband was not the type to beat up anyone much less his wife.

[Kali]

13. I'm getting asked twice per week.

Back in January and February they were also asking if I had been to west Africa. Like I could make it there between Monday and Thursday. Just had to laugh.

Oh and when they ask the safe at home question I always flash on the poisonous animals, not the husband. I know it is not a laughing matter but my life is not normal.

[Snobblevitch]

14. I know an 85 year old lady

who recently fell in her kitchen and broke her arm. She was asked that question at the ER. Her husband of 60 years is a retired OBGYN and delivered about 10,000 babies in the same hostpital. Of course being a retired doctor doesn't mean he could not be abusive, but if they had a physical confrontation at their advanced age, my money would be on the wife.