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http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/mom-chokes-bully-over-facebook-comments-184942862--abc-news-topstories.htmlA Florida mom said she regretted choking a boy who bullied her daughter online, but said his "nasty" and "disgusting" comments about the girl on Facebook had gone too far.
"The boy tells my daughter that she is a fat f*****g whale and didn't deserve to live because she is so nasty that he wouldn't even rape her," Debbie Piscitella explained on Facebook.
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Piscitella was arrested on a child abuse charge on Tuesday and was released on bail.
"I just snapped. I didn't put both hands on his neck it was just one hand, yes I shouldn't have done that, but you all do not even come close to understanding all the torment they have put my child through," Piscitella wrote.
What would you do?
33 votes, 1 pass | Time left: Unlimited | |
The same thing. | |
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Use both hands. | |
29 (88%) |
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Given him a stern lecture. | |
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Tell a mall cop he tried to sell you weed. | |
3 (9%) |
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Walk past, ignoring him. | |
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freshwest
(53,661 posts)alittlelark
(18,890 posts)Do you have kids?
Not trying to be snarky, I'm just asking.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)It's not private and it's not mandatory to be on FB, kids can live without it. I know a lot of people who don't even watch TV and they are not stupid, either. There are many family activities for people to do.
And there are other means of keeping in touch with friends. By phone or email or meeting them in person and actually doing something that makes a difference in their communities.
The people I know who are on FB with their families set it so they don't get harrassed and don't play games with other people that lead to harrassment.
A lot of things could have been done prior to strangulation. Although my first response on the poll was to use both hands, but I abstained. Yes, I know kids can get hurt and I don't like it. Not everyone lives their life the same way.
My kids figured out that Facebook was stoopid before I did. Now only their grandma (my mom) uses that evil corporate spy machine and bully petri dish.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Some doofus kid in my town was using his ICQ account to send all sorts of filth to everyone else he found from our town on ICQ. Now, the thing is, this jackass was the teenage son of a friend of my mother. It was pretty easy to find out who he was, since he was using his parents' ICQ account...
Next morning, I called her up, and read to her all the comments he had sent. I suggested she look in her ICQ history for proof.
Her reaction? She sold his personal computer, all three of his game systems, and notified the school that he was to have no unsupervised computer access on school campus.
I don't know what I would have done if I were precisely in the position of the young woman's mother. Choking the asshat doesn't strike me as a very good response (though I imagine it was satisfying at that moment.) Giving him a lecture yourself would be unproductive, and there's - to my understanding - no real legal recourse to take.
best hope would be that his mother - or father - would be unhappy with their son defining a girl's worth by whether or not he would rape her.
alittlelark
(18,890 posts)Zalatix
(8,994 posts)I bet this ends in a hung jury.
ManyShadesOf
(639 posts)start a school/community/family discussion on that disgusting violent hate speech
Ilsa
(61,698 posts)He's implying there are girls he would rape. Kid needs some serious re-direction away from a life of very violent crime.
On edit: minimally, turn him in to both school counselors and state child abuse authorities. He and his family need to be examined for why he is so prone to wanting to rape girls.
"He and his family need to be examined for why he is so prone to wanting to rape girls" or use the word in such a bizarre way.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)but I am a little ashamed of it (only a little)
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)More rational and realistic options fall under pass.
Posteritatis
(18,807 posts)alittlelark
(18,890 posts)The article did not say.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)preferable to me than ruffing up the bully a little bit. I understand the frustration of the parent, and I understand the desire to ruff up the bully, but actually doing so is a terrible idea.
AverageJoe90
(10,745 posts)I just hope this can be resolved without a prison sentence.....
MrSlayer
(22,143 posts)Or hired a neighborhood junkie if those options were unavailable. In the city, that's how it is.
Suji to Seoul
(2,035 posts)because the option "hold his head under the water until the bubbles stopped" was not there.
CakeGrrl
(10,611 posts)I just got finished reading about a couple of more suicides over relentless bullying.
I have no patience for this evil behavior. I was never, ever wired to taunt other kids that way, and there's something wrong, IMO, with those who do so repeatedly and viciously. When they push another child to end the pain they cause with suicide, I'm done worrying about the bully's well-being or motivations.
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)... but I certainly understand the desire to "use both hands." Its not the "right" reaction .... it sure is an understandable reaction.
FedUpWithIt All
(4,442 posts)"cousin's girlfriends, neighbor", and anyone else necessary to get appropriate attention directed at the situation. I have no issue talking loud and long until i see a response. In direct contact with the boy i would have informed him of my intended plans and warned him that i would press charges if he ever mentioned a violent action in reference to my child again.
I'd also seriously consider removing my kid from any contact with him, using whatever means necessary, both at school and in public.
And most importantly, i would work like hell to teach my daughter her true value and teach her that her self worth comes at a much higher cost than the little twit at school has the character wealth to afford.
alittlelark
(18,890 posts)fujiyama
(15,185 posts)I've seen the effects its had on kids and there's a lot of it that simply is not positive. There's just too much out there from cyber bullying to the ridiculous "friend count" - inevitably leading to many kids feeling more inadequate and more insecure especially if they're not particularly popular or one of the "cool kids".
Facebook can be a very valuable tool but considering what it can do to adults' brains, I have no idea how screwy it is for kids. And it's very difficult for adults to screen every aspect of their kids' social networking habits.
Ruby the Liberal
(26,219 posts)I can't even imagine. At least when I was a kid, you left school and hung out with your neighbors/friends. You weren't subjected to it 24/7 like now.
fujiyama
(15,185 posts)At least when I left home as a child, I had the choice of calling my friend(s) to see if they wanted to hang out and go ride bikes or simply sit in the house, do homework, play video games or watch TV. There was a strong distinction between school and home. Once I got home, I didn't have to pay attention to what everyone else was doing. And in all honesty, I never cared or felt like I should have cared.
Ruby the Liberal
(26,219 posts)Can't vote - the article didn't say how old the little prick was. If he's old enough to be talking rape, he's old enough for an ass whipping. Prolly should have found someone closer to his age to do it though.
JonLP24
(29,322 posts)but choke the child unless I wanted child abuse charges.
Skip Intro
(19,768 posts)spare me the pc bs, you mess with my kids, you mess with me...
BlueStater
(7,596 posts)That kid sounds like one nasty little turd.
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)n/t
baldguy
(36,649 posts)My guess is that he's still walking around free, still logging onto Facebook & other sites, still allowed to torment & torture other children - with no repercussions whatsoever. Until someone decides to strangle him, break his bones or kill him.
Cracking down on bullying protects potential bullies from being assaulted.
Rosa Luxemburg
(28,627 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts).. in protecting bullies than it is their victims, at some point we'll will have had our fill and will take matters into our own hands. Mess with mine and I take it personally. Do it at your own risk.
randome
(34,845 posts)Because Mom facing a prison sentence is SO much better.
What does this end up teaching the daughter? That she IS fat and ugly. Because of the way her mother reacted.
You don't react to something stupid by doing something even more stupid. The second stupid validates the first.
mrmpa
(4,033 posts)the child abuse charge if found guilty would put this woman on the state register for child abusers, not allowing her to hold some jobs. This was an assault plain and simple, probably at a misdemeanor level.
Child abuse, definitely the wrong charge.