4 Ways White People Can Process Their Emotions Without Bringing the White Tears

[KamaAina]

http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/02/white-people-emotions-tears/

If you’re a white person who has been in many activist spaces, then you’ve probably experienced a specific, often unspoken ground rule: There’s no room for white tears in this space.

This sort of rule is instilled because oftentimes, in other spaces, your emotions, and the emotions of other white people, are constantly centered, nurtured, and coddled when it comes to conversations about race.

Rather than focusing on the lived experiences and traumas of People of Color when talking about racism, the focus is placed on the host of emotions that white people go through when confronted with racism.

Rather than focusing on how People of Color feel on an everyday basis from having to deal with racist institutions, interpersonal relationships, and ideologies, the focus goes to white people just beginning to confront how they benefit from racism on many levels.

I lived this. My old boss tried to have an agencywide conversation about race. Everyone besides the two of us recoiled as if she had accused them of being bedsheet Klansmen! In the liberal (?) Bay Area, no less.

[LittleBlue]

1. Eww. Why is the author so desperate for white validation? She sounds obsessed.

A huge article about the appropriate reaction white people should have. White people walk in the room and suddenly she's worried about what they think. Look at this shit:

At worst, I had panic attacks and got very angry that she wasn’t even thinking about how her actions would affect me.

Lack of white validation sent her into a panic attack? FFS! Have some self-respect.

If you keep looking for the reaction you'd ideally want, you'll be waiting a long time. Validate yourself, don't beg for some white person to do it for you.

[KitSileya]

2. No, being sent a stream of triggering articles did.

Perhaps someone should have read the article more carefully, and then followed the advice given.

[melman]

6. Seriously

Such bullshit. So tired.

[romanic]

4. Holy crap.

This article made me roll my eyes so hard, they damn near fell out. The author clearly cares too much about what white people think or thier emotional reaction to whatever she has to say. Girl needs to close the door on her safe space and sit by herself if she can't handle it.

[Skittles]

7. careful

you'll be accused of "whitesplaining"

[zigby]

5. Meh.

Maybe I'm just missing the big queer rallies where as long as they were genuine, anyone's tears mattered. I marched and drank and laughed and cried and chanted with all my straight allies.

I'm not sure this lady has actually been doing any real activism outside her computer lol. Panic attacks! Sending ARTICLES!! THE HUMANITY! LOL