Gay NC waitress reveals that customers ‘tipped’ her with Bible verse calling for her death

[Capt. Obvious]

A gay waitress in North Carolina shared a bill revealing what she described as a hateful message a group of diners recently left her instead of a tip.

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Judd posted a picture online of the bill from the group’s visit to her Charlotte restaurant on Tuesday. The photo shows an abbreviation for the Old Testament verse Leviticus 20:13 listed under “tip.” It states, “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.”

The bottom of the bill also shows the message, “Praying for you” written in under the diners’ signature. She told WBTV that the group was “very rude” to her during their visit.

Judd, who has joined in rallies criticizing the passage of HB2 — which bans trans residents from using restrooms according to their gender identity — responded by writing, “I don’t care what anyone says, this is the most disrespectful thing you can do,” she wrote about the incident on Facebook. “Don’t pray for me darling, I have everything I could possibly want and need in my life.”

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[Bad Dog]

1. Poor woman.

Having to deal with such godawful people.

[atreides1]

2. "Sincere Religious Belief"

“You can safely assume you've created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”

― Anne Lamott

[3catwoman3]

6. Ain't that the...

...bleeping truth!

That kind of arrogant self-righteousness is profoundly disturbing. Historical Jesus would not approve.

[narnian60]

53. +1

[Capt. Obvious]

12. That's an amazing quote

First time I've heard it. Thank you.

[thucythucy]

36. That is a great quote!

Glad to have read it, will be happy to use it in the future.

Thanks!

[redwitch]

40. I love Anne LaMott!

What a great quote from her!

[eppur_se_muova]

42. This gets my vote for Quote Deserving Wider Recognition. nt

[Maru Kitteh]

61. Thank you SO MUCH for posting that quote!

[mnhtnbb]

3. That group of bigots ought to pray for themselves to remove the hate from their hearts.

[snooper2]

4. Every other one of these "stories" turns out false...

I guess we shall see

[cwydro]

8. I know, there was quite a spate of those last year if I remember.

I tend to be skeptical too.

[awoke_in_2003]

22. Yep

Sadly that's about right.

[Mike Daniels]

30. Agree

Given that the track record of these "tip" stories is heavily weighted towards "fake" I would definitely think more info is in order before taking a stand one way or another on the truth of this incident.

[Boomerproud]

38. How did they know she was gay?

I'm not trying to start an argument or even make a statement. Just asking a question,

[ScreamingMeemie]

45. I was going to post this, but you did.

It could be that it's a small town or they know her outside of the restaurant somehow.

[Behind the Aegis]

60. I have friends who know her.

They posted this before it ever hit the 'airwaves.' As I see it, she was posting it to Facebook as a " " moment that GLBT people can relate to. While I can't be sure, I am guessing they thought she "looked like a lesbian." Some people judge others by their look and assume, sometimes correctly, sometimes not. Also, there are certain places where many members of the same group/church attend, so "word" spreads about certain servers.

When we first moved back to OK from NOLA, my (now) husband, whom you met, was at work and someone asked if his "wife" was coming to a group dinner. You know me, certainly not the "little lady" type (LOL!), and he responded with, "my partner will be there." The woman who asked was embarrassed, and explained she didn't know and she was gay-supportive (she is). But, it spread quickly and some attitudes changed toward him; nothing too serious, cuz, well, I am not in jail!

I don't know why they "knew" or if they just assumed. But, this type of crap does happen more than most people know. I think I actually have a "ten dollar bill" from a friend of mine who got it as a tip. It isn't a real $10 bill, it is made to look like one, but contains Bible messages, which are left in lieu of a tip. Other people certainly got them, but GLBT wait staff got more than their fair share.

I know people look at things like this with a cautious eye; can't say I blame them, but for every false claim, there are hundreds, may be more, where they aren't reported, especially when the target is a LGBT person.

When I was in SC, I went to a bar on a regular basis, but there was a new bartender, so he knew I could open a tab, but didn't know my name. The name on the tab...Fag. I laughed it off at the time, but it was upsetting. I will say, he never forgot my name after that!

[ScreamingMeemie]

62. Thank you for setting me straight.

I am so sorry your love has to deal with that, on any level. I just keep hoping the stupid dies out, and it never seems to.

[Behind the Aegis]

64. Now, now. I didn't set you "straight".

You were born that way!

I just figured with so many asking that question, I would communicate my thoughts to someone I know to be an actual ally to the GLBT community. You are more aware then most what GLBT people face, even when we don't speak out about it. However, there are still so many who don't realize the day to day issues we face and concerns we have because our sexual orientation/gender identification is often taken for granted.

From my estimation, there are many who don't realize, maybe don't care, there are a number of bills like the ones in NC and MS, which are being considered right now, never mind the day to day shit some of us face (or less than day to day, but every now and again get slapped on our asses when we are reminded we aren't "normal&quot .

My hubby is doing fine, he's pretty much a duck...water off his back. LOL!

[Scruffy Rumbler]

49. There have also been many that were true.

Someone asked how the costumers knew she was gay. They may not know. They may have assumed by the severs appearance or what ever criteria they use to determine if a person is gay or not.

Or they could have asked about her husband and she responded about her wife? That is one of the simple freedoms we are fighting for. When someone asks us about our families and we respond with the truth, every LBGT person runs the risk of a response like this or worse.

I worked in Florida and Virginia during the 1980sand 1990s as an open and expressive gay man. The overt and hidden hatred I dealt with could be overwhelming.

And I was privileged. If I choose to, I could look, act and sound as straight as any heterosexual. Unlike my minority coworkers who were facing similar hatred based on skin color or country of origin, I had the luxury of hiding in plain sight when I wanted. It is amazing the crap people will say when they think you think "just like them".

Peace

[kentauros]

55. You're so right about that.

I'm just an average hetero guy and haven't worked in the service industry. Yet I know for a fact from just working in offices that the most common question from evangelical types is "Are you married?" The next most-common one is "Do you have children?"

I'm sure most of y'all know just how bristly they get when you answer "No" to either question (or worse, to both of them.) All it takes is to offer more information than simply 'no' for them to start making assumptions, usually that one is gay. They are an extremely judgmental crowd. And most religious people I know aren't like that at all.

[Scruffy Rumbler]

56. What church do you go to? If you don't see me at yours, then it is none of your business.

What religion are you? If I did not mention my religion, then neither should you.

My mother taught me that her relationship with Jesus was similar to her sex life; no one's business but her own. She pretty much came out in 1976 to her family of 7 kids!

She maintained her faith in Jesus, the man and the teachings of Peace and tolerance, not the one of fire and brim stone. She thought a person should do right by their fellow humans whether anyone was there to see your actions or not.

"Do unto others as you would have others do unto you" was her living motto and example she set by her actions, not her words. When we prayed it was about protection and blessing, not changing people!

Thanks for getting "it"!

[kentauros]

59. Yes, those are their other questions, too.

And it sounds like your mother also "got it"

[Mike Nelson]

5. Despite the "praying" part...

...I would consider this a threat and report the writer to the police.

[rurallib]

20. that was my first thought also

People like that are just not right. In this time of everybody packing with presidential candidates calling for violence, I think she should be cautious. I would report it.

[logosoco]

7. I could bet that at least one person in this group

was wearing a poly/cotton blend clothing. And I bet they have cut the sides of their hair. And did they all have beards? And I hope none of them ordered sausage, bacon or any type of shellfish.

But, religious hypocrisy aside, letting someone do work for you and then not paying them, that is just a straight up asshole. Perhaps they justify that because of all the slavery in the bible.

[DinahMoeHum]

9. Wow. They paid with a credit card (Visa) ???

. . .instead of cash?



should be easy to trace the dumbass/es who did this.

[Nye Bevan]

10. So many of these "insulted waitress" stories turn out to be fake.

Not saying this one necessarily is, but the lure of a six-figure Godfundme payoff is powerful. And how would anyone know the sexual orientation of their server, anyway?

[Shrike47]

15. That is what I wondered. How would the customers know?

[drm604]

23. That was my first thought.

How would they know? Not that there isn't plenty of hate and harassment, but this particular story seems fishy.

[Raine]

57. I wondered too. I don't have time or interest to know or care what

my food server does in their private life!

[Mike Daniels]

31. I was wondering the same thing

Unless one of the customers personally knew the waitress, the waitress was wearing something advertising a cause that would lead one to make assumptions about her sexuality or she volunteered her sexuality at some point during her service to that table what would lead them to even reach a conclusion of that type.

[CanonRay]

11. Sure hope she spit in the soup.

[lagomorph777]

18. Well, that customer ought to be cautious next time they dine there.

[rurallib]

21. management should never let that customer back in the busuness again

for the safety (and respect) of the employees.

[meaculpa2011]

13. I never leave a tip...

on the credit card. Always in cash.

Anyone can take my receipt and post it on the internet showing the world that I'm a scumbag.

Skeptical.

[Shrike47]

16. We always tip in cash, too. It's up to the server what they do with the tip.

[Capt. Obvious]

24. That's why you write, "CASH" on the tip line

[CanonRay]

33. I write in "cash"

[47of74]

46. Yeah if I'm not putting it on the card...

I usually just put a line through the field and put the total again down on the line.

Occasionally what I do is to bring it up to an even dollar amount and leave the rest of the tip in cash.

[Bluenorthwest]

14. Five NC 'Democrats' voted for the NC anti gay anti trans bill. DU is full of posters demanding we

support them all 'no matter what'.

[Arugula Latte]

17. ...but "atheists are just as militant!" according to some on DU.

[LiberalElite]

41. I think they are insofar as they insist that

everything would be perfect if there were no religion. I say Bull because atheists are humans too and humans fuck up.

[Arugula Latte]

43. I've never heard an atheist say "everything would be perfect if there were no religion."

The planet and the creatures that live upon it would be far better off, yes, but perfection? Nah. Nobody believes that.

[NobodyHere]

67. You haven't been around many atheists then

[Arugula Latte]

68. Oh please. What a strawman.

Of course I've been around atheists. Most of my family members are atheists. Many of my friends are atheists or agnostics. They don't say everything would be "perfect" if religion would disappear.

Even if they did make that observation -- which they don't -- that doesn't even apply to my point that atheists don't take aggressive actions like some/many Christians do in this country. We're not the ones bombing clinics, accosting people on the street telling them to believe or burn, leaving no tips in judgment of someone's homosexuality or perceived homosexuality, putting Dawkins books in hotel rooms, and passing "atheist freedom" laws to deprive others of the rights to use bathrooms and such. That would be the religious nuts doing those things.

[Humanist_Activist]

44. Holy fucking strawman! Do you have any other gems to pull out of your ass? n/t

[romanic]

19. That is so messed up.

The people need praying are the rude ass customers who left that so-called "tip".

[PatrynXX]

25. well they must be Jewish then

can't be Christian because that part is in the History Book. Only things one is supposed to follow if your Christian is from Jesus time forward. So again they must be Orthodox Jewish because they are following a quote from the old book. Where we might have had unicorns running around

[vkkv]

26. Religious fanaticism is the scourge of the earth...eom

[Bernardo de La Paz]

27. The diners probably had pork, were tattooed & clean-shaven, & wore polyester blends. ref. Leviticus

[47of74]

47. Brings to mind these...

Such as what John Fugelsang said...

Or what Martin Sheen did on the West Wing...

[allan01]

28. they should also check to see if their house is in ordr b4 preaching to someone else

also read the part that says love thy neighbor. period.

[narnian60]

54. +1000

[Spitfire of ATJ]

29. The kind of people grinning in those lynching photos from the last century.

[Eleanors38]

32. "Praying for you?" Sounds they wanna do a little preying.

[Initech]

34. God these people are vile, rotten scumbags.

Is it any wonder why Jesus isn't coming back?

[Rex]

35. Passing on the Good Word and Works of Jesus Christ. Bless their little hearts!

[linuxman]

37. 10 to 1 it's another fake.

Color me skeptical, but these nearly always turn out fake.

[cwydro]

66. I spend a lot of time in CHarlotte, where my mom lives.

I've not seen anything about this on the local news or in the paper yet.

[Warren DeMontague]

39. I love it how Fundies get to be sanctimonious AND cheap at the same time w/this shit.

[jwirr]

48. I am a Christian but I think what we need instead of religious

freedom laws is a law that says "keep your damned religion to yourself" laws. Freedom from religion.

[YoungDemCA]

50. Hopefully a server spits in their food at the next restaurant that they dine at

That would be nice, wouldn't it?

[rjsquirrel]

51. That's intriguing but . . .

how did they know she was lesbian?

[AgerolanAmerican]

52. That's not quite true

There's no Biblical support for putting lesbians to death, only gay men.

Read it - the Biblical laws on sexual behavior are exclusively directed towards men. Women are not addressed, it is assumed in the text that they have no independent agency.

[robertgodardfromnj]

58. Those hateful diners make me lose hope in humanity

How can they go on with their daily lives with such hatred in their hearts? Sickening.

[Dont call me Shirley]

63. Cheap-ass judgmental hypocrites!

[Jeffersons Ghost]

65. In some places the server might spit in your food for being rude...

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[Xi should keep that in mind. Don't even think it Chinese 5th Column satellite operators. "I'll make you famous."] In other places, Chinese agents simply shut down servers.