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ChairmanAgnostic

(28,017 posts)
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:07 AM Oct 2016

I've noticed new behavior in public places.

I meet a lot of people in my job, I am in courts frequently, elevators, halls, court rooms, law offices, etc.

People are going out of their way to be nice to one another. Regardless of color, sex, socio-economic standing, age, it seems that Trump has brought out the best in people. Lots of "please," "hellos" to complete strangers, and more. Cops are engaging in conversation, total strangers are making eye contact and talking to one another.

The more vile and outlandish that Trump becomes, the more people seem to be making a clear choice and effort to reject his behavior, and is seems like no one has any problem in actively being nice.

I don't know about your nape of the forest, but this is Chicago-land. While we have always been good to strangers and tourists, there is a marked change in people's behavior. I once heard a furriner from New Jersey describe Chicago as having people almost as cold as our winters.

Has anyone else noticed a change? Excepting the trumpenstein activists, of course.

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I've noticed new behavior in public places. (Original Post) ChairmanAgnostic Oct 2016 OP
I have noticed this as well. I live in a very diverse area and it's especially noticeable here. CurtEastPoint Oct 2016 #1
It helps to have a determined, but cool headed ChairmanAgnostic Oct 2016 #5
I've been living in the south for the last 16 years where it's second nature to greet people mnhtnbb Oct 2016 #2
I talk to every one madokie Oct 2016 #23
We want to make sure that the people around us know that WE annabanana Oct 2016 #3
I don't get out much... Wounded Bear Oct 2016 #4
Correlation is not causation. Brickbat Oct 2016 #6
So, to apply more scientific approaches, we need to test this hypothesis. ChairmanAgnostic Oct 2016 #10
Whatever the cause is, people being friendlier to each other is a good thing FrodosPet Oct 2016 #20
I think I see it too. I know I want to see it. marble falls Oct 2016 #7
Not in Soutwest PA Freedomofspeech Oct 2016 #8
Yep Cosmocat Oct 2016 #15
Lucky you. Freedomofspeech Oct 2016 #28
My mom lived off 22 Cosmocat Oct 2016 #29
Depends where you go. SunSeeker Oct 2016 #9
Which adds to the overall diversity The2ndWheel Oct 2016 #11
I live in Alberta, Canada True Dough Oct 2016 #12
Can't agree. If anything, people are angry, self-centered, pushy, inconsiderate lindysalsagal Oct 2016 #13
There you go! He's already making America great again! Atman Oct 2016 #14
LOL! I'm noticing just the opposite. Baitball Blogger Oct 2016 #16
Oh, oh, what I want to know is are you kind? G_j Oct 2016 #17
No. People have become more aggressive and grasping over the last 20 years. closeupready Oct 2016 #18
Do you still treat them politely? FrodosPet Oct 2016 #22
I simply refuse to be a victim - if I sense ANYTHING awry, closeupready Oct 2016 #24
I've mainly noticed a reluctance to talk politics. People don't want to butt heads right now. Gidney N Cloyd Oct 2016 #19
makes sense bigtree Oct 2016 #21
I just assume everybody hates me Shankapotomus Oct 2016 #25
People are amazingly nice where I live, marybourg Oct 2016 #26
"Yo, MFer, I want more iced tea!!!" TransitJohn Oct 2016 #27

CurtEastPoint

(18,646 posts)
1. I have noticed this as well. I live in a very diverse area and it's especially noticeable here.
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:12 AM
Oct 2016

And I like it!

ChairmanAgnostic

(28,017 posts)
5. It helps to have a determined, but cool headed
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:17 AM
Oct 2016

person heading up our ticket. The comparison to the "warthog with the red power tie" is striking.

My sweetie and I were watching green bay, sound off, (she's a YUGE fan) while I was playing the debate, sound on, on the iPad. The conversation went like, "WHAT DID HE JUST SAY?" to "Great pass, Rogers!"

A stable, polite "Nice" (his words) person Trump is not.

mnhtnbb

(31,391 posts)
2. I've been living in the south for the last 16 years where it's second nature to greet people
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:14 AM
Oct 2016

and say good morning or something like that.

It took this NY city girl a while to adopt the same behavior.

madokie

(51,076 posts)
23. I talk to every one
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 11:45 AM
Oct 2016

I come in contact with. 99% of those I speak to respond back to me too.

I like it that way

ChairmanAgnostic

(28,017 posts)
10. So, to apply more scientific approaches, we need to test this hypothesis.
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:23 AM
Oct 2016

Perhaps by asking them what they think of Der Groping-Fuehrer?

Freedomofspeech

(4,225 posts)
8. Not in Soutwest PA
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:21 AM
Oct 2016

This area is a hot bed for Trump. There are trump signs, billboards, Confederate flags, etc., everywhere. We Hillary supporters have to keep under the radar. Gun permits have been selling like mad since Mr. Obama came in to office. This is NOT a nice place.

Cosmocat

(14,564 posts)
15. Yep
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:33 AM
Oct 2016

I moved away in great part because I just generally did not like the people where I lived, mean sprited and back stabbling.

I lived there during the Bill years and I never got how they were so unhinged about him, but I was younger and naive about these things then. I drove through Westmoreland County a few weeks ago and it was Trumpstanigan, not to my surprise.

I now live in a slightly conservative area that will go Trump pretty clearly, but the people are infinitely more decent.

Freedomofspeech

(4,225 posts)
28. Lucky you.
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 03:07 PM
Oct 2016

We are seriously thinking of relocating...we are in Westmoreland County. It is really very scary here.

Cosmocat

(14,564 posts)
29. My mom lived off 22
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 03:44 PM
Oct 2016

Never married, and she just was constantly taken advantage of by people. I never really got how horrible people were there until I moved out to where we live now.

SunSeeker

(51,560 posts)
9. Depends where you go.
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:22 AM
Oct 2016

Diverse crowds seem to be getting more polite. But not Trump's base. Trump Republicans seem to be losing their minds and are ruder than ever.

The2ndWheel

(7,947 posts)
11. Which adds to the overall diversity
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:26 AM
Oct 2016

If everyone was polite, that wouldn't be as diverse as some people being polite, and others not.

True Dough

(17,305 posts)
12. I live in Alberta, Canada
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:29 AM
Oct 2016

And I practice the sort of behavior you're referring to with everyone. Most are very pleasant in return. Life is largely a "get what you give" situation. There are exceptions, of course. But if you spend your day pissing in others' Corn Flakes, then it's going to catch up with you eventually.

lindysalsagal

(20,692 posts)
13. Can't agree. If anything, people are angry, self-centered, pushy, inconsiderate
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:31 AM
Oct 2016

At the grocery store I saw a young man pull a 12lb bag of frozen chicken wings out of his cart, slam it down on the side shelf next to the self-check register, ring up all of the rest of his groceries, and walk away, leaving it there to defrost.

I was in line behind him and picked it up as soon as I could (he was still there) and handed it to one of the register monitors while it was still frozen. She said people do it all the time.

People are pushy driving, beating you to the door, walking right into you, it's not good. I see it in my students, too.

Lots of bad behavior, now that it's so "fashionable."

Atman

(31,464 posts)
14. There you go! He's already making America great again!
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:32 AM
Oct 2016

Don't let him read your post. He'll take credit for it.

G_j

(40,367 posts)
17. Oh, oh, what I want to know is are you kind?
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:40 AM
Oct 2016

My friends tend to be kind and loving people.
After discussions with some others, we seem to agree that focusing on tolerance and kindness is the best medicine for all the bad vibes out there.
Imagine..

 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
18. No. People have become more aggressive and grasping over the last 20 years.
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 10:51 AM
Oct 2016

IMHO. That has not receded, it's gotten only worse as the years go on.

FrodosPet

(5,169 posts)
22. Do you still treat them politely?
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 11:44 AM
Oct 2016

Maybe it is because I am larger than average that people are scared to be rude to me? They are not being nice to me because I am nice to them, they are nice to me because I intimidate them? Damn. And all this time I thought it was a reflection of my desire to be polite and encouraging.

Are you SURE they are not just reflecting the vibe they feel from you?

 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
24. I simply refuse to be a victim - if I sense ANYTHING awry,
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 12:34 PM
Oct 2016

I am off and running. Sometimes, I feel like I could write a book, "The Pedestrian's Guide to Successful Street Navigation," lol, complete with half-block rules, timing commute with the ebb and flow of crowds, how, when and why to avoid Times Square, and more!

marybourg

(12,631 posts)
26. People are amazingly nice where I live,
Mon Oct 10, 2016, 02:16 PM
Oct 2016

although it's a red area and many of them are rabid red. But they reliably sort the 2 sizes of shopping carts into the 2 lane cart corral and last week when my head merely turned a bit to look in the next row of cars for mine, a woman stopped her car and asked if I needed help finding my car. Of course, I do the same. I believe it's because it's uncrowded, largely homogeneous and life is easy and low-cost here

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