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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWhite people won’t admit to what they hear and learn behind closed doors.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/i-wont-keep-your-secrets-any-longer_us_581a26c7e4b0cee6c6d130eeThey dont care that were told things like, Oh, you dont want to live there, when searching for an apartment. Nobody comes out and says why you dont want to live there. If you ask the real estate agents, they talk about things like high crime rates and shitty schools....
My stomach turns when I see people I went to high school with posting garbage that argues against black culture being celebrated. I grew up with them. I know first hand the white privilege with which they were raised. Having moved out of that area, I know that my own children are not getting the caliber of education I and my schoolmates were lucky enough to have received....
White people wont admit to what they hear and learn behind closed doors. It might mean admitting your grandmother, that sweet woman may her soul rest in peace, who taught you how to crochet and bought you a treat at the bakery every Saturday, was a raving racist who yelled at the white people on Wheel of Fortune who were stupid enough to let the n***** win. Or maybe you dont want to confess to your father, himself in law enforcement, owning a KKK belt buckle he kept tucked away in his armoire and only brought out to show his friends when they stopped by.
Skittles
(153,164 posts)SMC22307
(8,090 posts)apcalc
(4,465 posts)( white) who NEVER spoke against any race nor any gender. Equality all the way....
Skittles
(153,164 posts)the article refers to WHITE PEOPLE, not SOME white people
apcalc
(4,465 posts)Geeeez so sorry for commenting.
The2ndWheel
(7,947 posts)White people are inherently racist. You were born white, and had the nerve to actually be raised by white people, which reinforced whiteness, if only in a subconscious way. Your white mother had a white child for God's sake. And your mom's mom was white too! That's insane. How far back do white people go in your family?
apcalc
(4,465 posts)Not admitting it? Inherently racist?
You know nothing of those two people and how they stood up for all people in many situations.
Your comments are both appalling and ignorant.
The2ndWheel
(7,947 posts)And most of what's said about white people these days. You obviously haven't had your daily self flagellation today. Still early, so there's time to right that wrong.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)More accurately, you're simply going by your interpretation of the article, regardless of whether you attempt to right any wrongs.
romanic
(2,841 posts)Look, I've had my fair share of racist whites cross my path, it hasn't stopped me from separating the individual from the system that benefits them most. If I walked around thinking every white person I saw was racist, I'd be one miserable man.
Doodley
(9,092 posts)all the time. I often hear the coded racist references from my realtor/family member. I will buy a house where the hell regardless of the demographics.
Warpy
(111,267 posts)It's one hell of a broad brush.
I don't mind seeing something unflattering in an honest mirror. This is a fun house mirror.
GWC58
(2,678 posts)either his mother, or myself, use racially divisive language. I didn't want him hearing it like I did at his age. My great-grandmother, who I lost in 1971, didn't like black people. She was also a product of her times. There's good and bad in us all.
Skittles
(153,164 posts)ultimately, even if you were raised racist, you can learn not to believe you're better than other people because you are a different color
ProfessorGAC
(65,058 posts)Sophomoric nonsense.
The2ndWheel
(7,947 posts)Iggo
(47,558 posts)Buckeye_Democrat
(14,855 posts)See his "White Like Me" undercover video here:
http://www.metatube.com/en/videos/165662/WHITE-LIKE-ME/
It's not a big deal to me at all, but I've had black guys talk to me a certain way and then observed them talking another way around other black co-workers when they didn't know I was around. I later asked one of them, who I considered a good friend, why he acted and talked (using "ebonics" so differently when he was around those guys, and he replied that "everybody" puts on a different persona in different environments. Hmm... I don't know about that.
leftyladyfrommo
(18,868 posts)Iggo
(47,558 posts)Over the last fifty-five years I've been in a lot of rooms where everybody but me thought that everybody in the room including me was white.
Sometimes ugly things get said. That's just a fact, and nobody but nobody should be surprised or offended when it's pointed out that it happens. It does.
If you (non-bigoted white people) think that means I think you're automatically a raving bigot, then I can't help you.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,855 posts)White guys have said horribly racist things to me, assuming that I was "like them" because I'm VERY white. Some of it was stuff that I wouldn't want to repeat here.
Those same white guys despised me when I didn't go along with it.
I was knocked unconscious (and could've been killed from a hard blow to the back of my head) and hospitalized after venturing into a bar (on a whim) that turned out to be a redneck/biker hangout. One of the patrons approached me in a friendly manner, encouraging me to become a "regular" there (joining their "gang" , but then he started an anti-Obama and racist tirade. When I didn't "play along," he glared at me and went back to his group of buddies. I was later knocked unconscious and robbed after exiting the place, waking up in an ER while getting stitches.
I was later saddened when I was released by the hospital (in the middle of a mostly black community) in the morning and started walking home (about 7 miles). I'm thankful that I wasn't assaulted again, but it was pretty clear that several of the black guys who saw me "enjoyed" seeing my clothes covered in dried blood and my face bruised and stitched up. I was still very dizzy, and I couldn't shake the feeling that many people there would've simply video recorded me with their smart phones if I'd collapsed.
The whole situation sucks!
gwheezie
(3,580 posts)I've been in those situations where the assumption is since I'm white I agree with the racism of the crowd. What I usually say is let me stop you before you say anything else & show you a picture of my grandson who I love very much.
Skittles
(153,164 posts)but stereotyping SUCKS no matter WHO is doing it
Iggo
(47,558 posts)And stereotyping sucks.
treestar
(82,383 posts)she talked about it in reference to a jury she was on and she assumes all black defendants guilty and that black jurors hang up the jury only on race. Strangely, she is a friend of my younger sibling and grew up in our neighborhood. Her mother was a very sweet woman who I never heard talk like that, but then where did the friend get that way.
My grandfather did not use the word but he did have bigoted views more or less. I have uncles with bigoted views.
Sounds like a lot of projection here.
Assuming that everyone is talking about you behind your back because the author obviously knows what's going on behind those closed doors.
metroins
(2,550 posts)Said what I was going to.
There's racism from all sides, but not even close to the majority of people from any race.
I could cherry pick anecdotes, but it's not helpful.
Marr
(20,317 posts)If only it could be harnessed as a source of energy, lol.