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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI was called stupid and a liar on DU in the past two days.
Women are not liked here all that much. I guess we are just stupid bimbos that you can insult at will. I feel sorry for you. We are so much more than that. Yet you insult us and marginalize us. trump does that as well. You all are or should be better than that.
Today is
My thread sunk like a stone.
We are human beings. We bore you, we raised you. Show us some respect.
Thanks so much for supporting all of us. Not.
Wake the hell up. We are not your enemy. We are your wives and daughters. We are your mother.
Horse with no Name
(33,956 posts)Sorry that it happened to you
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I also hate it here.
I am so tired of being talked down to. Man'spaning.
thanks.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)tammywammy
(26,582 posts)a kennedy
(29,699 posts)Have admired all your posts and respect you. This is an awesome reminder of what the hell women go through on a daily basis, and to honor an international day of elimination of violence against us, is just the best ever.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)This was my OP
From historic convictions to impunity for gang rapes, 2016 has been a year of highs and lows when it comes to efforts to stem violence against women.
November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. Its a day to reflect on the pain and resilience of survivors. And its a day to take stock of progress and failings in combatting this pervasive human rights abuse.
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Then, there are the contrasts in elected officials, and what this means for violence against women. There are contrasts across the globe, but you could hardly see a starker contrast than in North America. In Canada, the government of Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, a proud feminist, lifted a prohibition on the use of foreign aid for abortion services, clearing a path for rape victims and others to receive comprehensive reproductive health services. Canada also began a national inquiry this year into violence against indigenous women and girls.
At the same time, U.S. President-elect Donald Trump has publicly bragged about sexual assault and dismissed this as locker room talk, has been accused by more than a dozen women of groping or sexual assault, and has expressed his intention to restrict access to legal abortion and reproductive health services, which would pose grave risks for all women.
Plenty of people around the world are fed up with violence against women, fed up with the lack of accountability for abusers, and fed up with politicians and others who normalize abuse or fail to combat it. Theyre taking brave actions to keep shelters open, push for better protections, help survivors heal, and help bring abusers to justice.
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More:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/janet-walsh/mass-rapes-to-mass-protes_b_13227522.html
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Under a trump presidency, we don't stand a snowballs chance in hell to see any progress.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10028304681
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apcalc
(4,465 posts)InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,122 posts)JHan
(10,173 posts)and always in I don't give a fuck mode
there's never a need to call anyone stupid and liar..(Unless that someone is Donald Trump) As Maggie Thatcher said "people resort to personal attacks when their arguments fail"
And mansplainers are REALLY annoying..
Co-signing your post.
Rorey
(8,445 posts)OMG, we must be soul mates! That's my attitude in interactions with assholes or just generally rude people.
Anyhow, I'd like to borrow your "I'm in don't give a fuck mode" phrase, if you don't mind.
I didn't invent it, so feel free lol
Also, you can just abbreviate it to "IDGAF"
niyad
(113,527 posts)DURHAM D
(32,611 posts)Boys don't care.
For you and all women -
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I have always loved it and listen to it for strength. It is about us and all the beautiful men that stand with us.
We are stronger together.
Thanks Durham
DURHAM D
(32,611 posts)I listened but could not watch as I know all of those women had their hopes on us.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I am stronger and one hell of a lot better than they will ever be. Neener neener, they need to call you a name and slap you down to make them feel bigger and better than you. Fuck that. Been there, did that. Done with those assholes.
Thanks for the vid, it helped.
We can do anything~
ailsagirl
(22,898 posts)I'm sorry that happened, sheshe2
jimlup
(7,968 posts)mostly I am deeply embarrassed by the behavior of some of my sex.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Thank you.
You are with us.
mythology
(9,527 posts)the complaint rings a little hollow. It's kind of hard to say that you don't care about others and expect others to have a lot of sympathy for you. You say screw being nice and then complain when people are mean to you. Apparently you wanted that to be a one way street.
If you want people to act with respect, perhaps you should consider how your own actions have contributed to the responses you get.
Lucky Luciano
(11,258 posts)I have not interacted directly with the OP, but you are correct. I think some of the acrimony comes from the primaries too since the OP was one of the most partisan for HRC, while rabidly opposing Bernie.
BainsBane
(53,055 posts)And that you think justifies insults only serves as evidence of the OP's point. It also shows helps explain why your candidate lost so decisively.
Lucky Luciano
(11,258 posts)Just pointing out the likely source of the anger.
...and BS didn't lose decisively overall. He did lose decisively in the south and very closed primary states. He did very well in the upper Midwest....where HRC lost. I appreciate much of her effort, but BS beating her in key upper Midwest states should have been a sign to pay attention more in those states. I am kind of pissed about that because (unless Stein's Hail Mary miracle comes true) the Dark Overlord will come to power. Should have seen it coming.
We really need to think about opening the primaries at least to independents - democrats don't make a majority in this country, but democrats + independents do - and we need those independents to win. I'm an independent who always votes for democrats.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Since the system and the superdelegates supported Hillary before the first vote was even cast.
Lucky Luciano
(11,258 posts)Had BS gotten the majority of the non super delegates and lost...yes that would have been a major problem, but usually the supers bend to the will of the voters.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)lapucelle
(18,305 posts)Nothing prevented the super delegates from switching. Sanders lost the popular vote and he lost the delegate count without the supers weighing in. Thankfully, his supporters' tactic of persuasion by threat wasn't effective.
No one is entitled to a nomination he didn't win, not even a fiery independent from Vermont who immediately caved to the president elect on the minimum wage in order to get his face on the teevee. Gotta sell those books!
Bitterberners did have a pyrrhic victory this month in helping to elect a fascist POTUS. Well played! May history judge them as harshly as they deserve, just like the Naderites in 2000.
And it looks like it's already started.
http://www.newsweek.com/myths-cost-democrats-presidential-election-521044
LiberalFighter
(51,038 posts)But the system and the sd's were not automatically on board with Hillary from the get go. It was developed and earned.
Sanders came in late in the game. That worked against him. That is his fault.
Sanders had always identified himself as an Independent even though he also caucus as a Democrat. Again his fault.
Sanders did not have a long history of working and helping people. Again his fault.
Sanders did not attend as a delegate to a DNC convention until this year. Again his fault.
Sanders did not have the interaction with other Democratic members and smooze with them. Again his fault.
BainsBane
(53,055 posts)shows how unprepared they were to face a general election, given they continue to harbor animosity toward criticism made months ago during the primary that paled in comparison to what the GOP would have done or what they themselves threw at Clinton. That double standard, the notion that Bernie was too superior to be criticized by lowly citizens whereas Clinton was insulted with misogynist slurs and propaganda fed by the GOP and Russians, points precisely to the double standard Sheshe's references.
By March 15, it was clear Sanders could not win. His own staff knew it. Any other candidate would have dropped out at that point, except since he wasn't a Democrat he wasn't concerned about the well being of the party or its prospects in the GE, and he had massive amounts of money at his disposal. That unprecedented cash haul and record-breaking spending on advertising allowed him to stay in a race long after he had no chance of winning. He misled his supporters about his chances and ginned up false claims of rigged elections to keep his donations flowing. Sanders lost the primary by 3.75 million votes out of less than 26 million votes. In contrast, Trump's win in the key states combined is about 55,000 out of 125 million votes. Clinton's popular vote lead is over 2 million out of 125 million. Bernie came nowhere close to winning, which is why Clinton never used any opposition research on him. She didn't have to. While he did better than many anticipated, his principal success lay in fundraising, not votes.
Some of Sanders successes had do with the extremely restrictive caucus system, which keeps turnout low and is particularly prohibitive for the poor and minority voters who were Clinton's biggest supporters. His rhetoric about large turnout was not only precisely the opposite of his actual performance but the opposite of his campaign strategy, which Tad Devine articulated in early Jan of 2015 as being to focus on caucus states with lower turnout and less diverse populations. That is exactly what they did.
I could not disagree more strongly that more Independents should run for the Dem nomination for president. I don't want the party become Trump lite or less committed to equal rights in order to court the GOP white male voters some have decided are so much more valuable than the Democratic base. I don't want to go back to "the gold old days" or "make America great again, and I will never support anyone who engages in that kind of rhetoric. To move backward is not progressive or liberal; it is regressive by its very definition. It is at the best ahistorical and at worst exclusionary. I would like to see the party develop a better approach to the economy, class, and outreach, but those ideas need to be forward looking.
As for resentment from the primary, many of us who didn't support Sanders were insulted on a daily basis, and those insults were personal. Everyday I see posts from people who treated me like shit throughout the primary. I've decided to forget about many of them, or simply not respond to the ones who were particularly vicious. I even see on this site people who voted third party or for Trump, according to their declarations on another site, and I don't say anything to them about it--unless they deliberately provoke me (as one, who has since been PPR'd, did last week). Everyone has to swallow shit. That Sheshe posted some OPs critical of Sanders is the least of what transpired in the primary. People can damn well get over it or put her on ignore.
yallerdawg
(16,104 posts)It is good to see this undercurrent that is nagging at many of us articulated so well.
On yet another thread exposing misogyny and sexism coming from the Messiah's minions.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)I am not sure that any caucus is, although for some reason I never went to the Iowa caucus in 2000, although I lived in Iowa at the time. Not sure if I knew when it was or if I thought (mistakenly) that it was just a meeting of party insiders.
That said, there is nothing to prevent any registered Democrat, or even an independent who changes their registration on the day of the caucus from attending the Kansas Democratic caucus.
Turnout just is lower for a caucus. However, as for that keeping away minority voters, no that was quite the opposite in 2008. In my Senate District, 400 black people made a point to come out and caucus for Obama. 2/3 of the caucus attendees were black and 99% of them caucused for Obama. They were fired up to nominate Obama. They were not so fired up to nominate Hillary in 2016. The caucus this time was probably 70-80% white, but about the same total number of people as 2008 (at least in my SD).
As for attacks, I noticed a funny thing. For about the first two years of his presidency, I was an Obama defender on DU - or at least I tried. And dang, his critics sure were obnoxious. They would not just argue, they (many of them) would rhetorically poke you in the eye with a stick. Then Obama decided to renew the Bush tax cuts, so I pretty much had no more use for him. Then danged if it did not seem that the Obama defenders were obnoxious. Suddenly it was they, my former allies, who were poking me in the eye with a stick (rhetorically).
Point is, it is easier to notice when your opponents are poking you in the eye than it is when your allies are poking other people in the eyes.
But the one does not justify the other.
BainsBane
(53,055 posts)are disabled or elderly and can't get out of the house. They are very restrictive in that sense. Only people who can get to the location that evening are able to participate. There is a reason caucus participation is so much lower than primaries.
I have always liked caucuses myself. MN had one for a long time. It was only when I worked on Get Out the Caucus (which I did in both Iowa and MN) that I realized how many people couldn't attend. MN changed to a primary, so in 2020 that is how we will now vote for presidential nominees.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)although I work most Saturdays, most people don't.
The main reason most people do not goto a caucus is because it takes about two hours instead of the normal ten minutes, and they do not want to invest the time.
There are many reasons caucus participation is lower, and in both cases that worked against Hillary, but I don't think it is fair to call them "restrictions" like there is a cover charge or a literacy test or something.
It may have been work that kept me from the Iowa caucus since I worked a floating twelve hour shift in those days, but if the Gore campaign had been on the ball, they could have gotten me there with a proxy (I cannot remember if those are allowed). He visited Mason City, where I worked, and I was kinda ticked I did not even get to see him. Had he done a public event, I would have shown up and his campaign could have made sure I was able to caucus.
BainsBane
(53,055 posts)but even if they are on Saturday, a lot of people work and it still doesn't help the elderly or physically impaired get there.
I'm not attached to the word restrictive but my point holds. It's hard for people to make it and few states have absentee provisions that are at all reasonable. That keeps participation low.
JHan
(10,173 posts)During the primaries I plain stayed offline. It was toxic. It was hurtful to see "bernie bros" and others parrot right wing propaganda against HRC . It was like living in a kafkaesque universe. Our party became divided - it will take me a while to forgive Bernie for this because he could have done all this differently, but his belligerence and arrogance wouldn't allow it..
Paladin
(28,271 posts)And like you, I continue to see and receive ugly, haughty remarks from the Bernie contingent, here at DU. That kind of crap got old, some time ago.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)To the violence against women. That what was my post was about. It had nothing to do about Bernie.
Women are going to lose all rights under our new Fuher. Do you even care?
We are going to lose it all and you only care about Bernie. How sad is that.
We will lose our right to chose. He wants to shut down PP. He has said that it is OKAY to be a sexual predator. It is now permissible to chow down on a few tic tacs and assault women. It is okay now. Women are now fair game. Molest Beat Assault Rape our pres elect gave it the green light. How sad is that......yet you talk about Bernie. OMFG!
Lucky Luciano
(11,258 posts)I thought the point of your post was more about people bullying you though. My bad for misinterpreting. I only brought up Bernie as i think there are still raw feelings here after the fuhrer got elected...which means people naturally flare up about differences in the primaries.
Then bainsbane fanned the flames a bit and I went off topic. I even mentioned above how I was going too off topic and ended the discussion re Bernie there.
The new fuhrer is an awful man in every category- particularly with the rights of women...and Pence is probably even worse as far as women's rights goes because Pence is a true believer - the fuhrer simply doesn't care about women's rights which means they will be eroded, whereas Pence would actively campaign to eliminate women's rights. A total disaster.
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Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Making generalized statements and attacks. FYI, I wouldn't and did not.
Texasgal
(17,047 posts)for being to disruptive to forum moderation.
UGH.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Piasladic
(1,160 posts)Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Hey Duck, do you have a job?
Do you have employer benefits???????????????????????????????/
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)From my 20+ years in the military. Why?
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I have worked since 14 years old. 50 years and am going to lose it all. Everything, I am on ACA now. I am alone and am going to lose it all. Someone is stalking me here. Why?
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Contact the administrators
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I will.
I am upset.
Grey Lemercier
(1,429 posts)I hope you are oki
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Maybe shooting and killing a duck will assist you in being less sad. Many people are entertained by killing...
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I think ya need to read the Ops again.
First I am white, a long time ago I was middle class. I started working summers at 14 and have paid into SS for 50 years now. Reread the Op and do not spin it. The rust belt is mired in their redneck gun toting ways. They always have been
Want to tell me about white peoples pain? I have been unemployed since May. 64 years old. No jobs for anyone my age. I am in need of security nets and some stupid people voted for the man that will take all of them away. No I have no empathy for the Effing Stupid People that vote against themselves every damn time.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)Did the Obama Administration economy not help lift you up? The Rust Belt has been in decline for over three decades. According to your post, you've been laid off for six months. Welcome to their world. Where's your empathy?
The South voted for Trump. The Midwest. Idaho. Montana. And on and on. Are you directing your ire towards them, or just the Rust Belt?
This may come as a shock to you, but people hunt, and not just in the Rust Belt. Yes, keep insulting white men, "rednecks," and anyone else you disapprove of... that'll be a winning strategy for 2018 and beyond.
kcr
(15,318 posts)This post right here shows how you can be a shining example! Well done!
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)I don't do manipulation, and actually expect some TRUTH on this board. Read post #83. The OP's accusation appears to be based on a misinterpretation of *failed* parody. I haven't searched for the thread in question, but the explanation sounds reasonable.
Such angst...
kcr
(15,318 posts)And you've got it! You're positively dripping in it. I don't know how people aren't flocking to your obvious magnetic personality.
mcar
(42,372 posts)57 YO white woman, lost my job 3 1/2 years ago. We live in a rural area (I was telecommuting) and we can't leave bc my SO has 3 years left teaching to get his pension. No jobs for me here.
I have no sympathy for T voters and even less for 3rd party voters. It will take more than my lifetime to undo the damage these people have done.
LiberalFighter
(51,038 posts)And don't understand the reality of the economy and jobs. And don't understand that the orange bimbo that will be the next President can't bring those jobs back. And most of all only think of themselves without realizing that if it impacts others they could suffer the consequences too.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Those that vote every time for the man that will make there lives worse, you know them? They are stupid ill informed cling to your guns kind of guys. They supported the man that was endorsed by the KKK. Yeah David Duke. Racist Sexist Homophobic piece of shit is their man. They must love that grab your P***y stuff, 'cause...fist bump fist bump...they be the men, wink, wink...high five, slap their b***hing ass
Considering you've said fuck white people's pain and and said you have no empathy for others
the complaint rings a little hollow. It's kind of hard to say that you don't care about others and expect others to have a lot of sympathy for you. You say screw being nice and then complain when people are mean to you. Apparently you wanted that to be a one way street.
If you want people to act with respect, perhaps you should consider how your own actions have contributed to the responses you get.
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Okay.... They VOTED FOR A SEXUAL PREDATOR. THEY WILL NEVER GET MY RESPECT!
momto3
(662 posts)I can excuse a lot of things, but never a vote for a sexual predator.
yallerdawg
(16,104 posts)The notion that somehow we picked the wrong candidate who is a woman and an historic advocate for all those left out of the 'privileged white male' power structure is enraging.
The idea this guy "won" is a slap in our face everyday we wake up.
We're with you, she.
MadDAsHell
(2,067 posts)anything white, male, or straight is the very reason you get pushback from other DUers (what you call "attacks" . Maybe learn something?
Marr
(20,317 posts)I don't know why this bigoted hatemongering is considered ok when directed at certain demographics.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Good advice for the OP
whathehell
(29,082 posts)I've counted at least three "fuck white people" "fuck the White Working Class" type threads from the OP in less than two days, so this little plea for sympathy seems ironic.
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sheshe2
(83,859 posts)This is who they voted for. They own him.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)vote for this pos. Who could? Who would use the economy to justify thier vote for trump?
You have every right to say f them that did
whathehell
(29,082 posts)Last edited Sun Nov 27, 2016, 12:54 PM - Edit history (1)
You insult too many innocent people, including self-defined white working class people on this board -- Stereotypes suck!
whathehell
(29,082 posts)Own THAT.
The rest of your narrow, divisive 'message' is something I have no time for... Goodbye and good luck.
People who are extremely aggressive and unpleasant in their posting style should not be surprised when it comes back at them.
I'm not gonna do that. For three reasons...
1. I know you don't really care what I think
2. It's hide bait
3. No way do I believe you're not aware of how you come off
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)I wonder how they manage in real life.
jack_krass
(1,009 posts)heaven05
(18,124 posts)do not give much thought to those individuals that insulted you and by doing so confirmed one of my pet theories. Men are afraid of losing their supremacy. They continually in racist and sexist terms demean and put down people to feel better about themselves when in reality they show themselves so small. When my sister met the man that eventually murdered her, he was always trying to belittle her and demean her. I had to mention it to him a couple of times. He got very careful about what was said around me. They moved and a few years later he murdered her on thanksgiving. They didn't find them, he committed suicide, until christmas eve. As hard as it is to survive on this planet, which in the upcoming years will get much more difficult, just expect small, weak men to look for scapegoats when their leaders screw them. You do have people out here that greatly appreciate your intelligent, insightful contribution(s).
I love ya!!!!!! Don't let these small minded dicks disturb your peace
JimBeard
(293 posts)seeing someone being nasty, I call the out on it. I don't care if the do jump on me but so far, none of them have.
I lost my post count during the melt down. The old account was JimBeard with names connected.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)I went back to the threads, not sure how, no clue .... yet they both got hidden.....hmm. Ooooops~ Lol!
Men are afraid, I will leave out the supremacy, let's just say men are afraid. You aren't, many I know are not. Yes I know all about put downs to make the menz feel so good about themselves. My ex was a prime example. Yet we have the good guys that far outweigh the bad. That gives me hope.
Your sisters story breaks my heart, there but for the grace of god go I. It could have been me.
I love you, heaven. I am okay.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)You really should rephrase and add "some". Things like those broad statements just turn people against you.
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NastyRiffraff
(12,448 posts)What are these people afraid of? I've heard the theory that men put women down because they're afraid of us, and I'm beginning to believe it.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Some are so afraid. They are the weak ones, so terrified of a strong woman.
This is who we are. Many men agree. It is not what is on the outside. It is what is in our hearts and our minds.
Love you~
NastyRiffraff
(12,448 posts)maybe we should give them something to fear. Not by threats, certainly not by violence, but by speaking out and calling them out EVERY TIME they try to put us back into the kitchen.
sheshe
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Thank you kwassa
spooky3
(34,467 posts)The option that I thought the alerter wasn't acting in good faith.
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)Because, well, they are assholes. You are awesome, Sheshe. I am glad you are here, my friend.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)This place is crazy.
We are being trolled.
Love you as well.
Hekate
(90,773 posts)People care.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)It was being called a liar, when I did not lie. It was being called stupid when I AM NOT STUPID.
It is the tactic they take to humiliate us. They do this to take away our self worth. They do this to abuse us. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. It debilitates you. I know this for a fact. My ex did it to me.
I was in commission sales. My husband, well he described my job this way... I was no better than a hooker, hooking furniture. He said this to me. He said that to me. He said that.
He did his best to destroy me. I am still here. Wounded, yup. Yet still here.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)SMC22307
(8,090 posts)Now it's all starting to make sense...
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)SMC22307
(8,090 posts)Onomatopoeia is fun!
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bdamomma
(63,918 posts)I feel your pain, but we have administrators here and there are rules and regulations. Report it. Also I agree with another poster here that sometimes you have to kick your post, there is definitely a lot of information on this forum.
Take care and all freethinking and open minded people are welcomed here.
CountAllVotes
(20,877 posts)I was called "stupid" as well being I am disabled. It is in a message that WAS in my in-box that I never wasted my time to reply to. It stated they had respect for me until said person discovered that I have a serious disability. It made me want to cry to be honest with you. You'd think I'd be "over it" by now but it still haunts me today.
Women, disabled people, etc. are not stupid. They are who they are and if others can't deal with it, well it is their problem yet it becomes the problem of the person being called such names.
This is a tactic (humiliation and torture) that Hitler used and it worked too well I'd say!
Hang-in there and please know that I for one do not believe you to be a stupid liar!
It is indeed sickening to say the very least and yep, it drives people away, like those that know how to write and stuff and can go beyond a one liner for reply that actually means something!
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)CountAllVotes. That is just plain cruel.
You are a far better person than they could ever be.
You hang in there as well, as Hillary said we are Stronger Together.
CountAllVotes
(20,877 posts)I can never understand why anyone would condemn a person they do not know because they have a progressive disease or any other illness that affects the way they live.
It is cruel at best and disgusting. As we are now learning, those that fit into this pathetic category aren't worth your time and attention.
However, it still hurts, armor encrusted me admits it.
As for you and others out there -- no one deserves to be called "stupid". Throw in the word LIAR and that is a real crummy thing to say. Makes you wonder how intelligent such persons are. Perhaps they deserve to be called a stupid liar dare I suggest!
Thank you for your respect. I do appreciate it!
HassleCat
(6,409 posts)So you get strong reactions. Not entirely a bad thing.
liberal N proud
(60,339 posts)womanofthehills
(8,758 posts)DU seems to attract the personality disordered -
Whenever, I post anything that might be negative to Monsanto, the same group of men come out big time - putting me down and calling me names. Because of my user name, one guy who always harasses me said "Why don't you go back to bullshit mountain". The level of rudeness on here can be off the wall.
liberal N proud
(60,339 posts)It is some men, and it more of a personal problem for them than anything.
I fully support women as equals, it takes all of us!
Scruffy1
(3,256 posts)I may not agree, but I would never disrespect them. One thing a long life teaches us is that we need to listen to people who we disagree with, not put them down. Senator Hughes from Iowa tells a good story in his autobiography of how his opponent and him in the governors race were having a disagreement over the state budget . After he was reelected, he found that his opponent was right.The opponent was getting better information from a professor than the state had. We will never win by arguing. No one ever won an argument. All you do is push people away. We're going to need everyone available to recover from years of media control.
s-cubed
(1,385 posts)Keep calling them out, and I'll back you up!
we can do it
(12,190 posts)Abq_Sarah
(2,883 posts)And they are not your enemy either.
Yes, your original post died on the vine. It happens. That doesn't mean you're being disrespected.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)This is far more than a post that died. It is about disrespecting women and an incoming president that thinks we are toys.
He feels that it is his right to attack us sexually. Sexual Assault under this president is sanctioned as A OKAY. Are you Okay with that?
bhikkhu
(10,722 posts)...and I'm sorry you had to put up with that.
I was raised in a family with very competent and strong women, so I was never prone to doubt that basic equality is a fact, and denying it leads to nothing good for any of us (us including me, as a male). Toward the goal of equality I was always fond of the quote "well-behaved women seldom make history", or to paraphrase, if your speech riles the wrong sort, you're probably on the right track.
pnwmom
(108,990 posts)brer cat
(24,592 posts)Yes, threads dealing with violence against women usually sink, but don't stop posting them. Name calling and demeaning the messenger are nothing more than the ways of children. The adult conversations will go on.
Lotusflower70
(3,077 posts)Some people are reactive. It doesn't excuse them but some people will lash out when they are threatened. The strength of your voice exposed their insecurity and that insecurity is projected onto others as they lash out. Stay strong and keep fighting. Speak out when others tell you not to. The only power we have is our voices. Refuse to be silenced. Refuse to be denied. I have received some hateful responses here but I will not respond in kind. I will not sink to that level. Know that some will disagree with you. Some will call you names. But know that others will stand with you. It is not complaining or whining if you speak out. Some will try to diminish the power of your voice. Don't let them. Only small people try to bring others down. We have to stick together and lift each other up.
Gothmog
(145,489 posts)sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Gothmog
(145,489 posts)You are one of my favorite posters
Sophiegirl
(2,338 posts)We are all hurting. Very much so.
I'm sorry that people lashed out at you. Unfortunately, that is what people in pain often do. They lash out. Anger is often a cover for pain and hurt.
I'm with you. We actually are stronger together.
I refuse to give up.
Flaxbee
(13,661 posts)I don't like using the term "bimbo" in a derogatory way. If you object to language, don't use it to put other women down.
If a woman isn't terribly bright, or doesn't mind being viewed in a sexual way, that doesn't mean she should be put down, either. "Stupid bimbo".
Just saying.
Show ALL women respect.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Yet our new pres.........................
Just saying!
Warpy
(111,329 posts)Not only was an orange nightmare declared the winner against the will of the majority, the site was down for two weeks. I'm cutting other people a lot of slack for the time being.
But yeah, knee jerk jerks who hate women are not capable of thinking things through.
GP6971
(31,201 posts)joshcryer
(62,276 posts)Fortunately it's been with former DUers.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Sadly, I do not expect it for either of the charges. But comparing DU members to the orange one is allowed
And calling woman bimbos is now ok?
joshcryer
(62,276 posts)Search the largest post there for a discussion between Nadin and I, particularly where she calls me a liar, on a public fucking FB page.
I'm not unblocking her to find the link. But I assure you it was there.
But you are indirectly calling me a liar here which is quaint.
There is another poster here who has called me that but I don't know if they have decided to become a former DUer or not (last post Nov 8). They wouldn't be particularly missed.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)And never insinuated that you were a liar either. Just pointed out that would make the OPs case much stronger
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sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Also if I did you would get me a hide.
As for bimbos, it is what we are called by many not what I call them. You want to spin that for a hide go for it Duckhunter.
BainsBane
(53,055 posts)I'm glad to say most of the Duers who were most insulting to me are also former, That includes your interlocutor, who once posted an OP calling me a racist.
joshcryer
(62,276 posts)I didn't understand the "bullying" that they seemed to get.
Then I realized that they were not being bullied but being put in their place for the bullying that they did.
madamesilverspurs
(15,806 posts)lovemydog
(11,833 posts)with you.
November 25. International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)You are a good friend.
yuiyoshida
(41,836 posts)WHAT the hell is up with that?
Hugs sheshe2
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Sad
yuiyoshida
(41,836 posts)Nothing like being dogged and having daggers thrown at you the entire thread.
mcar
(42,372 posts)And some nasty aggressive crap. Those posts should have been hidden.
yuiyoshida
(41,836 posts)if you wanta flag them. I would not mind at all.
Bradical79
(4,490 posts)Hate that passive agressive bullshit. Calling someone a liar, then they're complaining about bullies in the same thread. They can just fuck off.
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sheshe2
(83,859 posts)RKP5637
(67,112 posts)burrowowl
(17,644 posts)applegrove
(118,759 posts)This Trump win is a chance for misogynist everywhere to try and remake the world to their liking.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)at least not the liar part - assuming you are talking about my post.
Not to pick at things, but you have now brought it up.
What I did was make what I thought was an obvious joke, not a serious accusation.
We were talking about Wilson, and you contradicted me, saying something that was factually wrong. Instead of saying "no, you are wrong". It seemed, at the time to me, funnier to say "sorry, you lie".
We were, after all, talking about the Wilson incident where he yelled out "you lie" when Obama was speaking to Congress, but NOT giving a State of the Union. So it seemed to me, an obvious parody for me to say "you lie" instead of the more mundane (and less funny) "you are wrong".
Well, I guess the parody was somehow just as obnoxious as the original. I am sorry you did not think it was funny. It is not like I did not include some other material in the post, a link to a directory of State of the Union addresses and such,
So, for whatever it is worth (doubtless not a lot). I am not YOUR enemy either, not even if I am telling you that you are wrong, or otherwise disputing with you. It is not like I am going to execute my prime function (see another attempt at a joke, that nobody will get unless they have watched the Nomad episode 42 times like I have.)
I believe I might be a human being as well, although I am going to make an application for sainthood. On Tuesday evening at 5 pm, I was at the Presbyterian Church, helping them with their free community meal (like I do every month). Except I had to leave a little bit early to attend the re-organization meeting for the County Democratic Party. On Wednesday there was no school, so I had the afternoon off from my usual volunteering at the after school center. At seven I spent a whole hour ringing bells for the Salvation Army. Wednesday night I worked the graveyard shift at the homeless shelter from 2 AM until 5. Then I went to the Community thanksgiving meal where I spent an hour helping to put away tables and chairs and sweeping the floor.
"I am a nice guy, really. If I had friends, you could ask them." (from Splash as best I can remember it)
Oh, and in the last week, I have sent 11 messages to distant cousins, sharing my family history research with them.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)hfojvt
(37,573 posts)"In September 2009, Wilson received international attention when he interrupted a speech by U.S. President Barack Obama to the joint session of Congress by shouting "You lie!"[4][5] The incident resulted in a formal rebuke by the House of Representatives."
"a speech." Not a SOTU, just a speech.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Grey Lemercier
(1,429 posts)It wasnt a SOTU, which are always given in January or early February.
Hope that helps.
whopis01
(3,522 posts)It was a speech delivered to a joint session of Congress, however it was not a State of the Union Addresss. Just because a President is speaking to Congress does not make the speech a State of the Union Address.
Ligyron
(7,639 posts)I got the joke, but yes, I can see how many folks did not
Gotta use that sarcasm thingie: a lot around here sometimes.
progressoid
(49,996 posts)Even though we spar here on DU.
And even when we aren't engaging in heated discussions, it is easy to miss the nuance in online discussions. (although some people don't do nuance IRL either).
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)I had the idea that I would find and/or make friends here, and also that I had some old friends here.
Turns out I am not very good at making friends. Well, Vonnegut was right when he wrote this "Ideas on earth are badges of friendship, friends agree with friends in order to express friendliness, enemies disagree with enemies in order to express enmity."
By taking a whole bunch of minority positions on DU, I thereby became an 'enemy' because I did not agree. The OP, OTOH, who joined in 2012 has a whole lot of friends. She can post an OP like this about herself and get 170 recs. I, OTOH, could write something substantive about progressive taxes and be lucky to get 3 recs.
So it goes.
Marr
(20,317 posts)...I always read your posts, and over the years, I've found myself agreeing with you much more often than I once did.
Honestly, I don't see the value in topics like this one, no matter how many recs they get. They seem to be designed to do nothing but service vanity and divide people.
whathehell
(29,082 posts)Some definitely seem to be afforded special privileges" here.
MelissaB
(16,420 posts)Don't go interrupting an attention grabbing look at me pity party.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)Male or otherwise.
And Fight. Always fight.
DonCoquixote
(13,616 posts)That seem to blame women and other minorities as if we somehow got white America had at us and therefore gave the Country to Trump.
Yes, the Economy was in pain, still digging out of 20 years of dirt that, whenever Obama got out the steam shovel, we had folks on the right and the left trying to throw rocks at his head. Many of trump's voters may have felt so desperate that this was the only way to get attention. That being said, the ability to vote for someone that says he will cut what little new deal benefits you have, and who brags about starting wars, trade and otherwise, so you can get attention, is indeed, privilege, for as little as you think you may have, they still have a better ability to survive that than most minorities.
Not that I wish to turn this into a session of bashing working class whites, because frankly, while many of them did swallow the bigotry, a lot of them were desperate and aided along by some wounds we did to ourselves that were self-inflicted. As much as both Bernie and Hillary did try to remind people we were on the same side, some people (goaded by a few ratfuckers/russians/sock puppets) let this get to a civil war. As long as the Archie Bunkers and the Urban professionals turn the Democratic party into a fight of "i matter, no I matter" then the only folks that will benefit are the folks living in Mansions. They want us ALL gone, all of us, everyone NOT them, and then when we are dead, they will try to feast on each other before the People's Republic of China, or some new actor on the stage, swoops in to pick the meat off of any bones left.
That being said, anyone who thinks we need to stop pushing for women's rights is playing into the wrong hands; it will even embolden the more than 50 percent of White Women who were content to thrw the rest of their sisters to the machine.
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/10/opinion/white-women-voted-trump-now-what.html?_r=0
Granted, when either Trump or Pence brings back the days of the coat hanger, many of these folks will have the "I did not think that would happen to ME, ---ME---- MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!" look, but we will be the first to welcome them in and say "OK, welcome back, now tell your friends why the GOP should NOT be trusted."
oberliner
(58,724 posts)You should alert on those posts.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Du loves a pile on.
Shrug it off.
Bear Creek
(883 posts)I usually just read threads. Opened an account back in 2003 could not remember sign in or password. Will go back to just reading.
VOX
(22,976 posts)And believes your opinions and ideas are of value. I might disagree with you on some issue at some point, but I would nevertheless respect your point of view.
Mike Nelson
(9,966 posts)...all of mine sink like stones...
We will see an increase in violence against women and the other groups targets by Trump and his staff of regressive bigots. I intend to stand with and up for those targeted.
tecelote
(5,122 posts)Why blame only men when women didn't respond either?
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)I have had many threads sink like a stone, never blamed anybody. Especially one gender.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)Hmm.
HerrKarlMarx
(37 posts)Two of your latest threads are titled "Your White "Pain" Can Go Fuck Itself" and "Fuck the white working class"
yallerdawg
(16,104 posts)They just voted for a misogynistic, racist pig, and we should tone down our "hateful rhetoric"?
See - this is where it starts...
HerrKarlMarx
(37 posts)by telling an entire race "fuck you."
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)55% of Clinton voters were white people. 22% white men and 33% white women (according to CNN exit polls).
If my party wants to promote the message "we do not care about white people"
Well, two things a) you are talking about your own supposed allies and b) you are not doing anything to win more of them to our side, quite the opposite.
Of course, they did not break down the voting by income and race, so maybe most of our white support came from upper income white people, since they did break it down and say we got slammed in the white no college degree vote by 29% to 66%.
So maybe the message is "we don't care about low income white people."
Well, 20.5% of Hillary voters were white people with no college degree, but by all means, let's tell 1/5th of our allies to fuck off. That will help us win in 2018.
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)SMC22307
(8,090 posts)whathehell
(29,082 posts)bucolic_frolic
(43,257 posts)Dissing by brilliant people, some of whom seem to undermine our agenda
as much as support it (Trump moles, anyone?) is a weekly occurrence.
Coolest Ranger
(2,034 posts)because not only have I seen the disrespect posters like you get, but I have been on the receiving end of it too. I had several post hidden myself. The ones attacking you are the problem. I for one am tired of their mess too.
Ligyron
(7,639 posts)Don't know how I missed the one you speak of. Maybe I was still sweeping up from Thanksgiving kinda like Cinderella on Desolation Row.
Don't always agree with you and sometimes it seems to me you have a real problem with men, but considering your background, which you've shared here; you seem to have good reason.
Besides, you know not all men are pigs unlike Tim the Tools Guy's comedy act in Chicago before he got a network show.
It's just that a lot of them act like it sometimes.
Ellipsis
(9,124 posts)Hell ...half the people I think are men here are women and half the women, men.
But your handle strikes me you are female.
spanone
(135,861 posts)lonestarnot
(77,097 posts)mcar
(42,372 posts)This is just wrong.
Buzz Clik
(38,437 posts)Those whose lives revolve around mocking DU have been really, really bored the past 10 days. Their only source of joy is putting the stick in the mud.
progressoid
(49,996 posts)Last edited Sat Nov 26, 2016, 01:29 PM - Edit history (1)
Shocking.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)responding to all OPs lest we be accused of some sort of -ism.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)For every thread I posted that sank like stone
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Do you have a link? That is not right and we should all resist such garbage.
LiberalFighter
(51,038 posts)Anyone can be as intelligent as anyone else regardless of race, gender, or religion. Personally, I don't care what race, gender, or religion a person is as long as they are the best qualified person for the job. Sure I would like to think I am better than others but it won't be because I am a white male. And I won't be better than everyone because I do have some limitations.
Marr
(20,317 posts)the forum would have nothing else on it.
But congrats on yet another one of these, 'poor me, I seek only peace' posts. They're always entertaining.
Exactly. But as we see, these threads are very effective and many people do play along.
George II
(67,782 posts)Sunny05
(865 posts)And I'm proud to have given this tne 150th DU Rec.
Take care, Sheshe2.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Demsrule86
(68,643 posts)who are not civil...use them...we don't have to put up with that.
Megahurtz
(7,046 posts)They're not here now too, are they?
AnnieBW
(10,450 posts)If someone was rude or abusive to you, report the post! That's not the kind of forum we want here. Please don't leave because of the actions of a few assholes.
MadDAsHell
(2,067 posts)Contrary to what you may think, there are white people on DU. There are males on DU. There are straight people on DU.
When you spend your entire time on this site finding groups of people to blame based on their race, gender, or sexual orientation, yes you're going to get some pushback. That is not the Democratic way.
Or if it is, God help us.
But nice attempt at deflection.
I've certainly had my moments of rudeness, but I'm also not complaining when I get it back from other people in return.
If you really can't handle DU, I would first recommend dealing with your personal anger issues off-line, then coming back.
Marr
(20,317 posts)at the mindless clapping that these transparently self-glorifying posts generate. The fact that they're invariably done while unfairly maligning whole swaths of DUers is only more galling.
LiberalLovinLug
(14,176 posts)seems like typical flamebait. Accusing some identifiable group on DU....not it Trumpland, on DU, of not liking women, insulting them at will, marginalizing them....just like Trump!
I don't know how one can even be marginalized on a message board, and certainly not she2she. Thats the nature of message boards that I like. everyone can get their message out there. And she2she has been one of the more proliferate posters so I don't get that charge.
And no links to being called stupid? Or called a liar? And even if that were true, why does that mean it was totally gender based? And seriously, I've been called both, or implied those, many times in the heat of a thread debate. It happens to all of us. I, like the OP, have my gender implied in my handle. I do not take every insult, as hating me because I'm of a certain gender. Because it comes off as an easy and cowardly way to excuse and deflect whatever argument was the basis for the thread debate at the time.
I share others observations that its, shall we say odd, to see one of the more proliferate critics of Bernie supporters, men and women alike, during the primaries, and being purposefully hurtful and demeaning while doing so....now starting a whole OP on pity poor me.
its time to stop this flame baiting and work together. Stop hating on your brothers and sisters in here that chose the other Democratic candidate, and especially couching it in the framework of sexism. I don't know, maybe it will take awhile for us all to cool down. But eventually we have to come together.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)MadDAsHell
(2,067 posts)Or at least that's the default accusation on DU to shut down dissent. At this point that argument is made in just about every thread in one way or another so it's up to the individual user to try to interpret how much of it, if any, is a legitimate complain vs just "I'm out of arguments against you so here's how I shut you up."
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)That's why.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)but "stupid" and "liar" are two words that shouldn't be used to describe you. K&R
malaise
(269,157 posts)Rec
guillaumeb
(42,641 posts)Floating like a butterfly sheshe.
So what prompted the "stupid liar" comments?
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)guillaumeb
(42,641 posts)Criticism without presenting an alternative should be ignored.
Equinox Moon
(6,344 posts)Motley13
(3,867 posts)there is a certain element here that find ridicule a fun thing to do. It seems to be the long term DUers
One of my posts
word for word "you are not going to believe this" was found to be substandard, so they called out the dogs. One of them said he was going to "kick my ass"
when I wrote my objection, the jury took my post down, but not the ass kicker.
So you are not alone
He had 44,000 posts & I have the name if anyone is interested, but he is part of the DU hierarchy.
Maru Kitteh
(28,342 posts)This season has been more than we can bear.
left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)And to say women aren't liked much here on DU just isn't true.
I suspect most DU members, like me, almost never know the gender of posters, and never even care.
It's the content of the threads that concern us.
Where is the anti-male hate coming from?
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)So she hates all men on DU?
I don't know. I'm just not getting it. Seems like misdirected anger.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)Gonna pour a glass of wine and go watch 'Shetland'.
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)He is not an issue, just a blip in my life.
Where did I say I hate all men on DU? I have many male friends here. Stop making stuff up.
Duckhunter935
(16,974 posts)Very telling
sheshe2
(83,859 posts)left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)sheshe2
(83,859 posts)left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)sheshe2
(83,859 posts)Take your prayers and.......
left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)niyad
(113,527 posts)sank like a stone. women are just not that important, not even on a progressive board.
duhneece
(4,116 posts)Under VAWA, federal funds provided funding for nurses and community partners to get good training. It also facilitated a way for law enforcement, District Attorneys, counselors to meet together. In many small town frontier communities like mine, that was a first. Many victims, who aren't necessarily our stirling citizens, began for the first time to be treated with respect
7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)Wish you well, hope you find your "stalkers".
Peace.
kcr
(15,318 posts)Examples like this post here of yours. Show DU the way for understanding and kindness. Be more of what you wish to see!
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KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)riversedge
(70,283 posts)Siwsan
(26,289 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)At a girl!
I've learned that when they knock you down you just gotta get right back up and face them with facts. They hate facts more than anything else. They also fear facts.
stonecutter357
(12,697 posts)DemonGoddess
(4,640 posts)Gothmog
(145,489 posts)kcr
(15,318 posts)They sure couldn't get here fast enough to tell you what a rude, harsh, mean woman you are, and that's your problem. Guess all of us who support you and recced your thread are nasty, too! Here's to rude and nasty women
Captain Stern
(2,201 posts)We should all be better than that.
However, it's not fair, or logical, to say that when those people called you "stupid" or a "liar" that they were speaking against all women. When they called you that, they may have just literally meant 'YOU"....like, you personally. That doesn't mean they think poorly of all women, it might just mean they don't have a high opinion of you.