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xmas74

(29,674 posts)
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 05:54 PM Dec 2017

Was this the right thing to do?

My child is a senior in high school. She's applied at a few universities and has been accepted at all but one-the local university, where she is already a dual credit student. It has been five weeks since she applied.

She is a top twenty student, 3.99 on a 4.0 scale, 29 ACT score. She's in NHS, all honors classes, band, jazz, color guard, officer in a few clubs, volunteers in the community and works a part time job. The school is a DII university-not bad but not outstanding. She wants to attend because it's local so she can live at home and save. It is also one of a few that offer her program.

She's called and they've said she needs to be patient. Her friends applied later and have been accepted. Today I called. Admissions said they switched computer systems and it would be January before we knew. I informed her of the schools she's been accepted to and the scholarships she's been offered. Two offered full rides and one has next Friday as a deadline. Admissions seemed irritated and said they'd review when they felt like it.

Was mentioning the other schools the wrong thing to do?

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woodsprite

(11,916 posts)
1. No, I don't think it was wrong to mention it. Especially since the deadline is so near.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 06:09 PM
Dec 2017

What major did she choose?

My daughter had chosen Art (wanted a BFA), submitted an application, portfolio, essays and they never acknowledged that she applied or that they received her . I work with some of these people, so I knew about their 'attitude' issues. Anyway, she got chosen for her 2nd choice of major (Art Conservation), took the offer and never did hear from the Art dept.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
2. Public Relations
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 06:16 PM
Dec 2017

With an emphasis in political media. She wants to double major, adding French as her second major.

The school with the looming deadline offered to enroll her next semester but they don't have her major. She could major in business communications and minor in political science but it's not the same.

She's upset with me right now because she thinks I've blown her shot. She forgets I know someone on the Board of Governors and that we attend church with the president. I don't have money but I do have a connection or two.

woodsprite

(11,916 posts)
3. Well, connections definitely count!
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 06:59 PM
Dec 2017

We had friends who have taken some people up on offers to “help” arrange housing, etc at schools near them. My daughter, and now my son will be living at home and going to our local university. Daughter is taking her GREs next week and is planning on applying to 4 schools to see if she can get in a historic preservation masters program.

Best of luck to your daughter! I hope she hears from them soon!

Oneironaut

(5,501 posts)
5. Maybe, because the people at the front desk would not care.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:27 PM
Dec 2017

They have no sway in deciding your daughter’s admission. They’re likely clerical workers, or even students themselves. Even if you reached the person who does the actual admissions, they probably just ignored what you said, honestly.

Also, pro-tip: 99% of their annoyance was probably because you called instead of your daughter. They’re limited on what information they can give, and parents calling makes them cranky.

I used to work at a school. It’s best if your daughter calls from now on. Have her make an appointment to discuss her concerns.

No hostility or reprimanding intended. This is only my honest opinion.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
7. She has spoken to them.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:38 PM
Dec 2017

They've given her no information and one said she didn't need to give her information. Another said something about how it's a contract and since she's underage they needed a parent involved. (I think it was a brush off, considering she's already a dual credit student. )

Two friends applied after her and have already been accepted.

jalan48

(13,870 posts)
6. You should make an appointment with an Admissions manager and go in in person.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:30 PM
Dec 2017

Mentioning the other schools shouldn't affect their decision. Sometimes lazy bureaucrats drop the ball.

I forgot to mention, take someone with you that can help as a friend and confidant. It makes it much easier to have them sitting there with you, especially if dealing with that type of situation is difficult for you.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
8. I usually do well in those situations.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:44 PM
Dec 2017

I'm very good at getting my point across, at finding common ground and negotiations.

She has more than met their requirements. She's been accepted to Mizzou, KU and Nebraska along with others. A small private college has offered a full ride and want her to enroll for the spring semester.

I felt they were extremely rude. If need be I'll discuss it with an acquaintance in the Board of Governors who has asked repeatedly if my child has been accepted.

jalan48

(13,870 posts)
9. I didn't mean to imply you wouldn't be. It helps me when I am in similar situations.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 07:46 PM
Dec 2017

If it's a public school these are tax payers employees-they work for you.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
10. I totally understand.
Thu Dec 7, 2017, 08:32 PM
Dec 2017

It's a state university that she's already attending as a dual credit student. Acceptance into dual credit is harder than university acceptance.

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