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kpete

(71,996 posts)
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 11:51 AM Dec 2012

Tragedy As Receptionist Who Connected Kate Middleton Prank Callers Commits Suicide

Source: The Daily Beast

Tragedy As Receptionist Who Connected Kate Middleton Prank Callers Commits Suicide
by Tom Sykes Dec 7, 2012 9:37 AM EST

Nurse was found yards away from the hospital.

The prank phone call saga in which two Australian DJs impersonated the queen and got connected to a nurse looking after Kate Middleton took a tragic turn today after the nurse who was working on reception and put the call through committed suicide. She was found shortly after 9 a.m.

The hospital issued a statement today, saying: "With very deep sadness, the death is confirmed of a member of our nursing staff. Jasinther Saldana has worked at the hospital for four years. She was very much liked by all staff.

"We can confirm that Jasinther was recently the victim of a hoax call to the hospital. The hospital had been supporting her through this difficult time. Jasinther was a first class nurse who cared diligently for hundreds of patients and will be greatly missed."

Her husband and two children have been informed of her death.

Read more: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/12/07/tragedy-as-receptionist-who-connected-kate-middleton-prank-callers-commits-suicide.html

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Tragedy As Receptionist Who Connected Kate Middleton Prank Callers Commits Suicide (Original Post) kpete Dec 2012 OP
Oh my... SummerSnow Dec 2012 #1
Doesn't make sense does it? Cleita Dec 2012 #64
She was not a receptionist - "Jasinther was a first class nurse " according to your post SugarShack Dec 2012 #77
The word "receptionist" is in the original headline . . . markpkessinger Dec 2012 #144
Woo! Very first response is to shift responsibility away from the prank callers. (nt) Posteritatis Dec 2012 #106
What a tragedy Glorfindel Dec 2012 #2
So many things I'd like to say about this. closeupready Dec 2012 #3
There really is no way to respond to news like this... Hugin Dec 2012 #4
So sad, I wish people would consider the consequences of Laurian Dec 2012 #5
Stuff like this makes me glad the radio station I listen to has hosts with some scruples Posteritatis Dec 2012 #113
Wait...no other psychological issues with the woman in the past? Roland99 Dec 2012 #6
Doesn't excuse the pranksters. You can never really know the mental or Laurian Dec 2012 #8
true...but this not far from blaming music lyrics for suicides Roland99 Dec 2012 #9
Actually, it is quite far from that. enlightenment Dec 2012 #23
One also has a choice when it comes to lyrics. This was an un-asked for assault upon this lady & her patrice Dec 2012 #28
Yep. Sad that people don't get that. (nt) Posteritatis Dec 2012 #110
Impersonating the Queen is identity theft in my book. JimDandy Dec 2012 #66
Using social engineering to hack someone's medical information is not a prank. - n/t BrightKnight Dec 2012 #143
You're absolutely right. When I was a kid, a neighbor had a stroke after getting pacalo Dec 2012 #26
Yes, I hear you. All for the lulz, no consequences. There are so many varieties of people, it's best freshwest Dec 2012 #41
Here's the thing about Meta... pacalo Dec 2012 #122
True, but you can't leave what's at home. Back then, people didn't turn their ringers off or have VM freshwest Dec 2012 #124
It only seems odd if you live in Florida. n/t kickysnana Dec 2012 #12
wtf is that supposed to mean? Roland99 Dec 2012 #14
Everyone's a psychiatrist now. kickysnana Dec 2012 #18
the prankers asked to speak to Kate d_r Dec 2012 #27
The nurse getting the call transferred would assume protocol had been followed kickysnana Dec 2012 #31
Most likely because it was the nightshift... Londoncalling Dec 2012 #40
Are you serious? To be the object of worldwide news coverage and ridicule? CreekDog Dec 2012 #36
Agree. Hassin Bin Sober Dec 2012 #61
Definitely Posteritatis Dec 2012 #109
Not to mention potentially losing your professional reputation, meaning no job. yardwork Dec 2012 #118
not to mention that medical privacy breaches are grounds for being escorted off the job magical thyme Dec 2012 #125
Absolutely. Any suggestion that the pranksters "caused" this woman's death are way off the mark. MADem Dec 2012 #51
If a person is ready to jump off of a bridge... liberalmuse Dec 2012 #52
"The hospital had been supporting her through this difficult time" JustABozoOnThisBus Dec 2012 #7
Yeah the transcript of the call did not seem that traumatizing Ash_F Dec 2012 #32
Or, y'know, the inevitable harassment after the Internet found out about something like that. Posteritatis Dec 2012 #112
Omg. It wasn't worth taking her own life. Politicub Dec 2012 #10
how is this the Royals fault? CreekDog Dec 2012 #39
Where did I say they were at fault? Politicub Dec 2012 #44
Well said. Scrap the royal family. If need be, have figureheads that are elected for short periods Democratopia Dec 2012 #57
I like that idea Politicub Dec 2012 #86
Oh her poor children. Another victim of bullying. Barack_America Dec 2012 #11
Wow. Unbelievably tragic. Faygo Kid Dec 2012 #13
:( Remmah2 Dec 2012 #15
Why??????? Beacool Dec 2012 #16
This message was self-deleted by its author alp227 Dec 2012 #47
Why? Posteritatis Dec 2012 #108
Being publicly humiliated in front of a global audience is hard for some people to take. Posteritatis Dec 2012 #107
the suicide was over a destroyed career along with the public humiliation magical thyme Dec 2012 #126
I guess she was mortified at having been duped and somehow TwilightGardener Dec 2012 #17
WTF? harun Dec 2012 #19
exactly. SoapBox Dec 2012 #22
I think she had underlying issues Third Doctor Dec 2012 #20
I feel very sad about this BlueCollar Dec 2012 #21
Sometimes no one's to blame for a tragedy. randome Dec 2012 #24
This particular radio station has done other cruel things in the past, though. yardwork Dec 2012 #30
Oh my, I was reading about that incident yesterday! alp227 Dec 2012 #48
Same radio station. Nice people, huh? yardwork Dec 2012 #115
fyi, that wasn't the same show Violet_Crumble Dec 2012 #116
It's the same radio station, but not the same show. yardwork Dec 2012 #117
and Sean Hannity called Daschle & his wife the devil and then he got 'thraxed graham4anything Dec 2012 #37
Nor do ugly Facebook comments compel young students LanternWaste Dec 2012 #93
I agree. Deliberate bullying or hatred can be the cause of suicide. randome Dec 2012 #120
This. d_r Dec 2012 #25
Maybe it wasn't a suicide.. maybe she was "helped" by M15 or some folks... secondwind Dec 2012 #29
you watch too much TV woolldog Dec 2012 #33
It's MI5 wickerwoman Dec 2012 #35
And the jury let the post stand 3-3, alp227 Dec 2012 #55
It might be absurd, but we should be open minded Democratopia Dec 2012 #59
No, we really shouldn't. jeff47 Dec 2012 #63
Which bit doesn't make sense to you? How do you KNOW for a fact what happened or not? Democratopia Dec 2012 #99
The same way I know ghosts from Kolob didn't appear on Earth and kill her. (nt) jeff47 Dec 2012 #100
It might be worth a conspiracy theory JustABozoOnThisBus Dec 2012 #38
That scenario would make the most sense to me harun Dec 2012 #90
What specifically leads you to consider that LanternWaste Dec 2012 #95
Ah, the high-pitched buzzing sound of Occam twirling in his grave.. (nt) Posteritatis Dec 2012 #111
This blame should be on the HS's and O&A's who do these stupid things and popularized it graham4anything Dec 2012 #34
One can never know what is going on in someone else's head bucolic_frolic Dec 2012 #42
It might be a little thing to us, but to her it likely was a huge deal. LisaL Dec 2012 #71
Obviously@huge deal.....if she killed herself BillyJack Dec 2012 #133
Sad, but life would be as boring as hell if we banned all pranks and jokes at people's expense, Nye Bevan Dec 2012 #43
He was asking for ridicule union_maid Dec 2012 #46
So the "People of Walmart" website should be shut down? Nye Bevan Dec 2012 #49
Haven't seen that union_maid Dec 2012 #67
It should be shut down anyway StatGirl Dec 2012 #81
Is America a nation of ignorant teenagers nowadays? alp227 Dec 2012 #53
They have gone beyond pranks and jokes. progressoid Dec 2012 #54
Who was the butt of the joke? Quasimodem Dec 2012 #91
I imagine there are indeed people who would be bored if we no longer ridiculed others LanternWaste Dec 2012 #96
that was was participating in a public Demonstration and wanted the attention JI7 Dec 2012 #132
This message was self-deleted by its author Still Blue in PDX Dec 2012 #45
If the hospital was "supporting her through this difficult time" EC Dec 2012 #50
If the hospital was "supporting her through this difficult time" , which they were , dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #56
Yes, but ... Quasimodem Dec 2012 #92
The same on that subject dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #98
Yeah...the hospital was taking heat from the royal family, TwilightGardener Dec 2012 #62
Maybe she knew something she shouldn't.......Dr David Kelly, Princess Di spring to mind......... Democratopia Dec 2012 #58
I'd let them spring right back Blandocyte Dec 2012 #60
Why doesn't the article state the cause of death? Cleita Dec 2012 #65
If she took some pills, they don't know yet. LisaL Dec 2012 #69
Then why are they saying it's a suicide? Cleita Dec 2012 #72
We are not privy to all the information they have. Maybe she left a note. LisaL Dec 2012 #74
Then they shouldn't say it until we are privy to it. eom Cleita Dec 2012 #76
Why? LisaL Dec 2012 #80
Because it's not truthful to jump to conclusions like that Cleita Dec 2012 #83
In the US, details about suicide are often concealed, Chemisse Dec 2012 #139
At present dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #70
I shouldn't be and yet they are concluding Cleita Dec 2012 #73
Thats because dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #78
Death where no one else is involved could also be due to natural causes. LisaL Dec 2012 #79
Were it not the fact dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #88
Well, in my life time I knew two women who were found dead. Cleita Dec 2012 #82
There are things found at the scene that could have made it obvious this death were not due LisaL Dec 2012 #84
Yes, things we don't know about yet. Cleita Dec 2012 #85
Clearly they would not call it suicide if there was not some compelling reason to think that. Chemisse Dec 2012 #140
Maybe she was embarrassed because her mistake would/was national news and the hospital may have Auntie Bush Dec 2012 #68
All I can think of is if it were me, I would have Cleita Dec 2012 #89
Plenty of otherwise healthy people have killed themselves in jail cells over stupid minor arrests. Hassin Bin Sober Dec 2012 #101
It's true. It takes a huge amount of courage to face worldwide condemnation. Chemisse Dec 2012 #141
Australian DJs taken off air after Royal hoax call struggle4progress Dec 2012 #75
Gee, I wonder if they are going to commit suicide too? Cleita Dec 2012 #87
Unfortunately... Quasimodem Dec 2012 #97
... Authorities have not confirmed a cause of death, struggle4progress Dec 2012 #94
Police said the death was not being treated as suspicious. dipsydoodle Dec 2012 #105
This is so sad Rider3 Dec 2012 #102
Seems similar to what happened to the Rutgers student soleft Dec 2012 #103
Very sad, a family broken, 2 kids with no mom, 2 egotistical bastards stroking themselves - ouch. toby jo Dec 2012 #104
What a Tragedy elbloggoZY27 Dec 2012 #114
i wonder if she was an immigrant or something other about her background JI7 Dec 2012 #119
I am pretty sure she was an immigrant. LisaL Dec 2012 #123
Yes we're all wired differently, but most of us wouldn't have killed ourselves over this. DaniDubois Dec 2012 #121
Ever been the butt of a joke on a global scale? Posteritatis Dec 2012 #129
Can Her Family Sue the Aussie DJs? Or the station? AnnieBW Dec 2012 #127
Lawsuits get filed across borders all the time. Beyond that, don't know the specific laws. Posteritatis Dec 2012 #128
aw shit fascisthunter Dec 2012 #130
Me too, fascisthunter spiderpig Dec 2012 #131
I'm sorry she killed herself but I don't think a stupid joke was worth taking her life over. N/T BlueStater Dec 2012 #134
The broadcast should have been stopped. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #135
I have to wonder if there were any other underlying JesterCS Dec 2012 #136
Call was recorded, and approved by station management and lawyers before broadcast muriel_volestrangler Dec 2012 #137
Kick muriel_volestrangler Dec 2012 #138
Pranks and ethnic backgrounds... Celefin Dec 2012 #142

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
64. Doesn't make sense does it?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:50 PM
Dec 2012

I'm putting on my tinfoil hat and saying there is more to this than meets the eye.

markpkessinger

(8,401 posts)
144. The word "receptionist" is in the original headline . . .
Mon Dec 10, 2012, 06:24 PM
Dec 2012

. . . and whatever she was, she was in a position to put a call through to a patient, which suggest at the very least that she had some receptionist-type responsibilities.

Laurian

(2,593 posts)
5. So sad, I wish people would consider the consequences of
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 11:56 AM
Dec 2012

their actions more carefully. Was a stupid hoax that revealed nothing of importance in the world worth the heartache it has now caused?

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
113. Stuff like this makes me glad the radio station I listen to has hosts with some scruples
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:25 PM
Dec 2012

Morning radio shows tend to be crewed as a general rule by, well, lowbrow assholes at the best of times. The one I listen to has a few people who are absolute saints by the standards of the medium and genuinely decent people on their own accord too.

It's a pretty shocking comparison to some others available here - another one got in trouble a year or so ago for actually making a contest out of an eastern European bride scam ("the male is in the Czech!&quot and have actually gotten worse since.

The bar for decent behaviour in those shows is really, really low. That's always made me sad, and occasionally angry after hearing stories like this (or the stunt from the morons I mentioned above), and it makes me sadder now that I've encountered some actual decent ones for comparison.

Roland99

(53,342 posts)
6. Wait...no other psychological issues with the woman in the past?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 11:56 AM
Dec 2012

seems very odd to kill one's self over something like that.

Laurian

(2,593 posts)
8. Doesn't excuse the pranksters. You can never really know the mental or
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 11:59 AM
Dec 2012

physical status of those who may be caught up in something like this.

enlightenment

(8,830 posts)
23. Actually, it is quite far from that.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:08 PM
Dec 2012

Lyrics are not generally written in order to fool someone into doing something silly, dangerous, or improper. A prank is designed to do that very thing.

patrice

(47,992 posts)
28. One also has a choice when it comes to lyrics. This was an un-asked for assault upon this lady & her
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:27 PM
Dec 2012

job, which she apparently valued very personally.

JimDandy

(7,318 posts)
66. Impersonating the Queen is identity theft in my book.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:56 PM
Dec 2012

Hopefully GB has a law against that like we do against impersonating an officer of the law. I'm sure she felt her job was in danger, no matter what the hospital is now saying about having supported her. Very tragic.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
26. You're absolutely right. When I was a kid, a neighbor had a stroke after getting
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:21 PM
Dec 2012

a series of prank phone calls from a couple of kids who lived on the next block. They knew she was a good target: she wasn't the type who let things roll off her shoulders & her reaction kept them calling back. She collapsed under her carport & was able to tell the neighbors who rushed to help her about what made her upset. She never recovered from the stroke; she remained bedridden in a vegetative state until she died. I'm still bitter about that.

I wonder if this nurse did get some troubling intimidation as a result of this prank incident. For all we know, what drove her over the edge could have been unrelated but, considering the prestige of the royal family, it certainly could have added to the nurse's distress. How utterly sad.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
41. Yes, I hear you. All for the lulz, no consequences. There are so many varieties of people, it's best
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:40 PM
Dec 2012
to restrain oneself because you never know what's the last straw with someone.

As someone said in Meta, what if a person posting is suffering from cancer and doesn't want to tell everyone, but is looking for something to pass the time here or elsewhere with some fun, then is attacked?

My reply was, we are all terminal. Cheap thrills have limits. The Golden Rule is the way of peace and understanding.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
122. Here's the thing about Meta...
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 08:11 PM
Dec 2012

Participation is one's choice; it's not invasive & unsolicited like prank phone calls. Plus, DU provides an ignore feature & I've just begun to use it as of last week for the first time in 8 years -- I highly recommend it.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
124. True, but you can't leave what's at home. Back then, people didn't turn their ringers off or have VM
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 08:48 PM
Dec 2012

I've been using Ignore since DU2. And I add one or two every few weeks. We're paying to be here, don't need to put up with abuse.



kickysnana

(3,908 posts)
18. Everyone's a psychiatrist now.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:45 PM
Dec 2012

Nurses are not generally receptionists so if a nurse was doing the receptionists job I would assume she was filling in and that she did not get the complete training on how to screen calls. No doubt she was told afterwards that if the call had gotten all the way through that worst case scenario Kate Middleton could have possibly lost her baby because that is true.

She is feeling duped, ashamed, humiliated and did not have time to deal with it all and made a rash decision. Not every one has experience being pranked to the point of endangering someone. In our family we were taught that that was as bad as an assault because it can have the same affect in some cases. We also were taught how to deal with such pranks if they happened to us but some people do not have that training.

Just because you have feelings that can be hurt does not make you a basket case. It is also why all the Shock Jocks almost always end up out on the street because they really have no filters of what is funny and what is mean or possibly dangerous.

The best caregivers are not hard, weary and callous



d_r

(6,907 posts)
27. the prankers asked to speak to Kate
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:23 PM
Dec 2012

and the call was transferred to the nurse who gave them a brief update on her condition.

eta - correction. I read an article on the mirror and they think that she is the one that put the call through and another nurse answered the question about her condition.

kickysnana

(3,908 posts)
31. The nurse getting the call transferred would assume protocol had been followed
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:30 PM
Dec 2012

and the call was screened or verified before it was put through.

I did work reception at a hospital some time ago.

Londoncalling

(66 posts)
40. Most likely because it was the nightshift...
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:39 PM
Dec 2012

therefore they did not have the usual receptionist...The DJs were breaking the law in fishing for private medical information,
then broadcasting it. If a British journalist or DJ had tried that right now, they would be in serious trouble, with or without the suicide.
I know they say no action had been taken by the hospital, which is unlikely... These DJ's risked the jobs of the people they spoke to during a terrible recession, the threat of losing your job right now is driving up suicide rates.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
36. Are you serious? To be the object of worldwide news coverage and ridicule?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:36 PM
Dec 2012

I think you are underestimating the power of that kind of thing.

Hassin Bin Sober

(26,330 posts)
61. Agree.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:49 PM
Dec 2012

There's a reason police remove shoelaces and neck ties when they arrest someone.

People can make terribly rash decisions when faced with that sort of shame and embarrassment.

I wonder how all the tough talkers would feel with THAT kind of heat focused on a major fuck up in their jobs. The royals were "furious" and Buckingham Palace was "demanding answerers".

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
109. Definitely
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:13 PM
Dec 2012

If I guessed one in a thousand people here has had experience in that kind of thing I'm utterly certain I'd be highballing my estimate.

The unending harassment from being the subject of a good global news story would be difficult enough for plenty of people to deal with, never mind an implicit call for all and sundry to make fun of someone. The people dismissing this as though it's not going to be a big deal to someone have no clue and even less empathy.

yardwork

(61,634 posts)
118. Not to mention potentially losing your professional reputation, meaning no job.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:56 PM
Dec 2012

Violating patient confidentiality can be a career-ending mistake for a nurse. Not only might she have been fired from her job, she might have had a lot of trouble finding another job with this all over the internet. At least, that's probably how it seemed to her in the middle of the night.

My heart goes out to her and her family. What a tragedy and senseless waste.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
125. not to mention that medical privacy breaches are grounds for being escorted off the job
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 09:05 PM
Dec 2012

even when they don't involve royalty. Her career was as good as over thanks to those assholes.

We had an admin person walked out of the hospital last March or so for a HIPAA violation. Similar situation in the UK, I believe.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
51. Absolutely. Any suggestion that the pranksters "caused" this woman's death are way off the mark.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:25 PM
Dec 2012

If one thing didn't send her over the edge, it would have been some other thing.

The balance of her mind was disturbed--that's what caused her death. Not a couple of assclowns from Australia.

liberalmuse

(18,672 posts)
52. If a person is ready to jump off of a bridge...
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:26 PM
Dec 2012

and someone comes up behind them and pushes them to their death, we pretty much know who would be blamed for the death. And we'll never know whether or not the person would have jumped if they hadn't been pushed.

If it weren't for the DJ's inciting racial hatred, would the genocide in Rwanda have happened? Either way, they are to blame.

This is so very sad. I'm too angry to say what I think of the DJ pranksters.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,350 posts)
7. "The hospital had been supporting her through this difficult time"
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 11:57 AM
Dec 2012

So says the hospital statement.

I wonder how the "support" was expressed to her.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
112. Or, y'know, the inevitable harassment after the Internet found out about something like that.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:18 PM
Dec 2012

On top of the official attention I'd be very, very surprised if half the media on the planet, to say nothing of any number of mere idiot trolls, were at every door and phone the woman had in an attempt to drag the whole thing out.

Politicub

(12,165 posts)
10. Omg. It wasn't worth taking her own life.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:02 PM
Dec 2012

Nothing is, really.

She died from embarrassment.

I'm hating the royals and their privilege this morning. What a useless bunch.

And what a tragedy.

CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
39. how is this the Royals fault?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:37 PM
Dec 2012


heaven forbid we actually blame the pranksters --no, no, we can't do that.

Politicub

(12,165 posts)
44. Where did I say they were at fault?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:50 PM
Dec 2012

I'm just sick of hearing about them and how big of a deal it was that someone found out that Kate was being treated for morning sickness.

I'm so over people of privilege and the near worship of the royals. And I disagree with monarchy in principal. It runs counter to equality and equal opportunity.

The world will be a better place once we consign monarchy to the dustbin of history.

Many conservatives actually like the idea of a monarch since they believe kings and queens are put in place by god. Yet another reason to reject it. Just google Christian monarchist to see what I'm talking about.

 

Democratopia

(552 posts)
57. Well said. Scrap the royal family. If need be, have figureheads that are elected for short periods
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:36 PM
Dec 2012

- ordinary people like nurses, teachers, charity workers, community organizers, builders, etc.

Barack_America

(28,876 posts)
11. Oh her poor children. Another victim of bullying.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:07 PM
Dec 2012

I can't imagine the ridicule she had been facing. The radio station bears responsibility here. There's no reason the DJs should have carried on with the hoax after the call had been put through. They should have broken character, revealed the joke and ended the call. But to continue and get sensitive information about a patient? Unacceptable.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
13. Wow. Unbelievably tragic.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:14 PM
Dec 2012

To blame the prank call for this is an overreaction, but the repercussions will be severe. Not worth leaving your family and this world because of a couple of DJ jerks. Condolences.

Beacool

(30,249 posts)
16. Why???????
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:23 PM
Dec 2012

Why kill yourself over a stupid prank? There's got to be more to the story. Her poor children and husband.

Rest in peace.

Response to Beacool (Reply #16)

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
108. Why?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:10 PM
Dec 2012

Has anyone ever made you a laughingstock in front of a global audience, in the context of your career just to add insult to injury?

If you handled this so much more smoothly I'm sure we'd all appreciate your experienced advice on what the victim should have done.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
107. Being publicly humiliated in front of a global audience is hard for some people to take.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:06 PM
Dec 2012

Shrugging it off as the unaffected party seems to be much, much easier.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
126. the suicide was over a destroyed career along with the public humiliation
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 09:08 PM
Dec 2012

You have no idea what life is like as a health care employee.

TwilightGardener

(46,416 posts)
17. I guess she was mortified at having been duped and somehow
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:31 PM
Dec 2012

felt she "failed" the royals. Which is ridiculous. I'm sure the coddled princess will get over it. Christ. Thank you, American Revolutionaries and Founding Fathers--you guys were all right...

BlueCollar

(3,859 posts)
21. I feel very sad about this
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 12:53 PM
Dec 2012

I'm sure she felt humiliated and I very much doubt that the "...hospital has been supporting her..."

The results of pranks can't always be predicted.

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
24. Sometimes no one's to blame for a tragedy.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:13 PM
Dec 2012

Prank calls don't encourage someone to kill themselves and leave their children and spouse behind. To say the prank call was responsible for this is second-guessing at the extreme.

With seven billion people on the planet, the odds are that one prank phone call will someday connect with one emotionally disturbed individual with terrible results.

yardwork

(61,634 posts)
30. This particular radio station has done other cruel things in the past, though.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:27 PM
Dec 2012

Last edited Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:53 PM - Edit history (1)

In the article at the link, it discusses how this particular radio station is already in trouble for broadcasting a different show in which the hosts forced a 14 year old girl to say on the air that she was raped, for instance.

Violet_Crumble

(35,961 posts)
116. fyi, that wasn't the same show
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:50 PM
Dec 2012

That other one involved Kyle Sandilands, who's a revolting toad, and unless I'm remembering wrong, he was taken off the air for that one. When Alan Jones recently said that the PM's father (who had recently died) had died of shame because of her, he wasn't taken off the air, though advertisers dumped him in droves.

I don't agree with the people in this thread who are blaming prank calls done by radio stations. This one went badly wrong a few days after the prank happened. Prince Charles was cracking a joke on the news last night about the prank, but that was before the woman who worked at the hospital killed herself. My bet is no-one's laughing now, let alone the two DJ's. I saw them interviewed the other day just after the prank call and they were really surprised that they'd been put through, seeing as how their accents were a dead giveaway if nothing else was. Their mistake was in not ending the call there, and broadcasting what was said about Kate Middleton's condition. But they're not to blame for someone killing themselves. I think given the embarressment caused to the hospital, it's possible that she got into trouble for putting the call through in the first place...

While this prank had a tragic outcome in the end, here's another prank a few years ago where they were expecting to be stopped early on and it never happened. I'm betting a few of the cops who waved these guys through got hauled over the coals for allowing them through, but none of them killed themselves...

yardwork

(61,634 posts)
117. It's the same radio station, but not the same show.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:52 PM
Dec 2012

Thank you for the clarification. I'll correct my post upthread. It's the same station, different show. From the link in the OP:

The tragic news will heap pressure on 2DayFM, the radio station which made the call.

The station is already serving two five-year license probations after serious breaches of the Australian regulator's code.

The broadcaster was handed the first reprimand in 2009 after a 14-year-old girl was attached to a lie detector and then said live on air that she had been raped.

 

graham4anything

(11,464 posts)
37. and Sean Hannity called Daschle & his wife the devil and then he got 'thraxed
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:37 PM
Dec 2012

but technically it was not directly connected either

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
93. Nor do ugly Facebook comments compel young students
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 04:31 PM
Dec 2012

"Prank calls don't encourage someone to kill themselves..."

Nor do ugly Facebook comments compel young students to kill themselves either...

 

randome

(34,845 posts)
120. I agree. Deliberate bullying or hatred can be the cause of suicide.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 08:02 PM
Dec 2012

Not a direct cause but a cause nonetheless.

I don't see that this is what happened in this case, though.

d_r

(6,907 posts)
25. This.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:21 PM
Dec 2012

A source added: “There is a lot of anger about this. Prince William was said to be furious when he found out.

“Kate is vulnerable and weak at the moment and these people think it’s funny to make a joke out of it?”

The Queen’s former press ­secretary Dickie Arbiter warned there would be “fireworks” at the Palace over the hoax call made to the King Edward VII Hospital.

He added: “This is a shocking breach of security.

“The Royal Family have been clients of the King Edward VII for many, many years and it beggars belief that a member of the public could call up and obtain details of the duchess’s medical condition in this way.

“Where on earth were the checks and balances?

"The hospital will be livid at what has happened and I am sure the Palace will be demanding answers.”

wickerwoman

(5,662 posts)
35. It's MI5
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:35 PM
Dec 2012

and that's completely absurd bordering on offensive.

It would be like suspecting the CIA "suicided" a teacher who talked about Malia Obama's grades.

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
63. No, we really shouldn't.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:50 PM
Dec 2012

It's utterly moronic to insist people must be open-minded to conspiracies that don't even make a tiny bit of sense.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,350 posts)
38. It might be worth a conspiracy theory
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:37 PM
Dec 2012

except that I don't think the radio station got any really sensitive info, just some generalizations about condition, which was in the press anyway.

My theory is she was ridiculed and bullied by hospital staff and administrators. Not "supported" as claimed in the hospital's press release.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
95. What specifically leads you to consider that
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 04:33 PM
Dec 2012

What specifically leads you to consider that as a viable possibility?

bucolic_frolic

(43,176 posts)
42. One can never know what is going on in someone else's head
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:41 PM
Dec 2012

Sometimes it's the little things that tip the scale

or in an environment and life of perfection one medium breach is enough

Americans may not truly understand what the prim and proper life entails

Let's hope they all learn from this and make things as right as they can be

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
43. Sad, but life would be as boring as hell if we banned all pranks and jokes at people's expense,
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 01:46 PM
Dec 2012

on the grounds that we never know who will commit suicide.

Say the "get a brain moran" guy committed suicide- would DU really be to blame?

union_maid

(3,502 posts)
46. He was asking for ridicule
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:13 PM
Dec 2012

The nurse was just doing her job. Really. He was out there for the express purpose of making a public demonstration. Pranks cause pain or embarassment to anonymous people who are just looking to go about their business are really more cruel than funny.

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
49. So the "People of Walmart" website should be shut down?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:21 PM
Dec 2012

Just in case any of the Walmart shoppers being ridiculed decide to commit suicide?

union_maid

(3,502 posts)
67. Haven't seen that
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:57 PM
Dec 2012

No opinion on that, because I haven't seen it or heard of it. This woman could have been fired for being fooled, though. I don't know if this exerience drove her to suicide or why it would do that, but doesn't that sound unnecessarily mean to you? I guess, having worked as a receptionist and in various office capacities, I just kind of relate to how difficult it can be to be in her position. It's tough enough to get through a workday as it is, without having assholes make it impossible.

alp227

(32,027 posts)
53. Is America a nation of ignorant teenagers nowadays?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:26 PM
Dec 2012

Sad that even adults (including in a forum like this one) will turn to teenage like rationalizations of the patently offensive. Like Daniel Tosh's rape joke. I see that on youtube comments and other online communities all the time...i expect DU to be better.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
54. They have gone beyond pranks and jokes.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:28 PM
Dec 2012
The broadcaster was handed the first reprimand in 2009 after a 14-year-old girl was attached to a lie detector and then said live on air that she had been raped.

... “Have you ever had sex?” The 14-year-old replied: “I've already told you the story about this ... and don't look at me and smile because it’s not funny.”

After a pause, she raised her voice with frustration and said: “Oh OK, I got raped when I was 12 years old.”


Regulars again ruled against the station when it found that 2DayFM's "Kyle & Jackie O Show" breached decency codes when broadcaster Kyle Sandilands called a female journalist a "fat slag" in November.

The Australian Communications and Media Authority said the comments were "deeply derogatory and offensive"

He was reported as saying: "What a fat bitter thing you are, you deputy editor of an online thing. You've got a nothing job anyway. You're a piece of s**t. You’re a bulls**t artist, girl. That's what you are. You should be fired from your job."

The station apologised but did not fire the presenter.



Quasimodem

(441 posts)
91. Who was the butt of the joke?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 04:16 PM
Dec 2012

At first glance their prank appears to be “about” Kate, William and the Royal Family, but except for the potential for private information being leaked, they were untouched.

The real butt of this prank was the staff of the hospital — some insignificant nurse or receptionist. The DJs may not have been expecting the tragic results that their prank garnered, but they had already fallen afoul of H.L. Mencken's maxim for media: “Comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable.”

I know, I know! Calling such radio shows media, is somewhat akin to calling Glenn Beck a journalist.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
96. I imagine there are indeed people who would be bored if we no longer ridiculed others
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 04:36 PM
Dec 2012

I imagine there are indeed many people who would be bored and sad if we no longer ridiculed others. I may only hope I do not consider them close to me an any way...

Response to kpete (Original post)

EC

(12,287 posts)
50. If the hospital was "supporting her through this difficult time"
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:22 PM
Dec 2012

why did she commit suicide? I'll bet the hospital put her on notice, I don't think they were supporting her at all...they're saying so in press release was CYA statement.

dipsydoodle

(42,239 posts)
56. If the hospital was "supporting her through this difficult time" , which they were ,
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:34 PM
Dec 2012

it still doesn't follow that she could come to terms with what had happened.

It is also now apparent that the Royal family did not register any complaints on the subject - your tv news may differ from ours here in the UK.

Quasimodem

(441 posts)
92. Yes, but ...
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 04:29 PM
Dec 2012

Although the Royal family may not have registered any complaints, do you imagine that some "officials from the palace" didn't registered concern over how easily the hospital's security was breached?

dipsydoodle

(42,239 posts)
98. The same on that subject
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 05:01 PM
Dec 2012

would've applied to anyone under our Data Protection Act. Aside from that its claimed that no complaints were sent from whoever other than I would imagine William would've given someone a quick verbal on the spot and then let it go. I doubt he went as far Brick Top's quip "Do you know what nemisis means"

TwilightGardener

(46,416 posts)
62. Yeah...the hospital was taking heat from the royal family,
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:50 PM
Dec 2012

I'm sure--so I'm just CERTAIN they were all kinds of "supportive" to this employee. I know for a fact that hospital administrators will hang nurses out to dry to spare the facility--at least in the US.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
65. Why doesn't the article state the cause of death?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:55 PM
Dec 2012

If she was found dead, it could have been a heart attack from stress, or did she shoot herself in the back? There seem to be some suspicious suicides in the UK.

Chemisse

(30,813 posts)
139. In the US, details about suicide are often concealed,
Sat Dec 8, 2012, 10:06 PM
Dec 2012

presumable out of respect for the families.

We really don't have a right to know the particulars of someone's inner hell.

dipsydoodle

(42,239 posts)
78. Thats because
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:19 PM
Dec 2012

nobody else seems to have been involved in connection with her death. As such its "assumed" to be suicide.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
79. Death where no one else is involved could also be due to natural causes.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:24 PM
Dec 2012

But they could have found something at the scene to suggest it's not natural causes.

dipsydoodle

(42,239 posts)
88. Were it not the fact
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:32 PM
Dec 2012

that here in the UK a death at home of anyone requires the presense of both the police and a medic. If it has been natural causes then I think that may have already been alluded to - it hasn't. A pathology report will be used to determine cause of death at a coroners court.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
82. Well, in my life time I knew two women who were found dead.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:24 PM
Dec 2012

Both had talked to family members within the hour before their deaths and seemed fine. One sat down in a chair and was found there dead. The other had decided to lie down for a nap she never woke up from. When they were found dead no one jumped to the conclusion they had committed suicide. Subsequent autopsy results showed they had died of massive heart attacks when they were alone. So it seems to me like it's premature to state this unless someone is trying to plant the idea in the public's mind that this is what happened. The whole thing about her past seems to be to paint her as unstable. What is really going on?

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
84. There are things found at the scene that could have made it obvious this death were not due
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:26 PM
Dec 2012

to natural causes.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
85. Yes, things we don't know about yet.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:29 PM
Dec 2012

There seems to have been suicides around town where the suicidee had crossed the line around very powerful people. Seems too suspicious to me.

Chemisse

(30,813 posts)
140. Clearly they would not call it suicide if there was not some compelling reason to think that.
Sat Dec 8, 2012, 10:09 PM
Dec 2012

FFS, maybe they found the poor woman hanging from a rope. Maybe she slit her wrists. She could have jumped off the London Bridge.

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
68. Maybe she was embarrassed because her mistake would/was national news and the hospital may have
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 02:57 PM
Dec 2012

threatened to fire her. She may have feared she'd never get another job would forever be embarrassed. I'm sure she was very depressed about the whole matter and depressed people often committee suicide Anyway, that's as good a guess as any.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
89. All I can think of is if it were me, I would have
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:36 PM
Dec 2012

written the Prince and Duchess a very contrite letter of apology for being so gullible and tried to get it to them somehow or write a letter to the editor of a reputable newspaper if I couldn't. Then I would have moved on and taken my lumps whether being fired or whatever, but to end your life especially when you have family that needs you doesn't make sense to me even when you are depressed. Also, with all that access to health care in Great Britain, it seems it would have been easy enough to get the depression treated. This just doesn't ring true.

Hassin Bin Sober

(26,330 posts)
101. Plenty of otherwise healthy people have killed themselves in jail cells over stupid minor arrests.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 06:00 PM
Dec 2012

People can do stupid things when faced with that kind of embarrassment.

Chemisse

(30,813 posts)
141. It's true. It takes a huge amount of courage to face worldwide condemnation.
Sat Dec 8, 2012, 10:13 PM
Dec 2012

I can't even fathom how humiliating it would be.

I would not kill myself, of course, but people who are already emotionally vulnerable could very well do so.

struggle4progress

(118,290 posts)
75. Australian DJs taken off air after Royal hoax call
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 03:17 PM
Dec 2012

6:23pm, Fri 7 Dec 2012 Kate hospital nurse dead
Australian DJs taken off air after Royal hoax call
Last updated Fri 7 Dec 2012

The two Australian DJs, Mel Greig and Christian Michael, who hoax called the King Edward Hospital will not return to their show until further notice ...

http://www.itv.com/news/update/2012-12-07/australian-djs-taken-off-air-after-royal-hoax-call/

dipsydoodle

(42,239 posts)
105. Police said the death was not being treated as suspicious.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:01 PM
Dec 2012
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-20645838

Which in the UK means : natural causes , accidental death / death by misadventure or suicide. A medic would've been at the scene with the police.

Rider3

(919 posts)
102. This is so sad
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 06:00 PM
Dec 2012

For people who think that she couldn't be mentally well to begin with and that's why she killed herself, let me just say that everyone is wired differently. She felt that she embarrassed herself in front of the entire WORLD. The stress and anxiety that would bring upon a person would be overwhelming. Until you go through a breakdown, you cannot understand how low a person can feel and what they care capable of. Have a little bit of empathy for this woman. None of us have walked in her shoes. Don't judge how this effected her.

soleft

(18,537 posts)
103. Seems similar to what happened to the Rutgers student
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 06:51 PM
Dec 2012

The dj's may not have committed a hate crime, but clearly they should have known that someone could at the very least lost their job as a result of their prank. It was malicious and they should face some consequences.

 

toby jo

(1,269 posts)
104. Very sad, a family broken, 2 kids with no mom, 2 egotistical bastards stroking themselves - ouch.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 06:54 PM
Dec 2012

Don't care for the idea of royalty, but the people themselves in these positions have their hands full. Kate seems quite the tender sort - this will bother her, no doubt.

When I first heard she was pregnant & in the hospital, I figured we'd be in for 6 months of it. Yech. But maybe a tragedy like this will help force their hand to walk away from the whole show.

I've always thought that royal wealth would best be spent on charity, maybe these 2 kids can help it to transcend.

 

elbloggoZY27

(283 posts)
114. What a Tragedy
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:38 PM
Dec 2012

I am really saddened by this news and what a huge tragedy this is.

This was not just a hoax when the victims dies.

The family I am sure is beyond grief and I really want to express my condolences to her immediate family.


JI7

(89,251 posts)
119. i wonder if she was an immigrant or something other about her background
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 07:58 PM
Dec 2012

if she came from a place without much and always worked hard her life. she may not be familiar with certain parts of the culture and views this as bigger than it is and blames herself. maybe blaming herself for Kate's health ?

this is just so sad. and she had kids. i really wish this had not happened.

 

DaniDubois

(154 posts)
121. Yes we're all wired differently, but most of us wouldn't have killed ourselves over this.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 08:03 PM
Dec 2012

We've all been the butt of a joke at one time or another. It happens. Only an unstable person kills them selves to begin with. It's a tragedy true, but if she were in her right mind she could have milked her mistake for a whole lot of money. Sell the story to TMZ or the Enquirer, T shirt sales, morning sickness pills, the list goes on. When life gives you lemons you make...

AnnieBW

(10,427 posts)
127. Can Her Family Sue the Aussie DJs? Or the station?
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 09:34 PM
Dec 2012

This came up at dinner. First of all, kudos to the hospital for standing by her. If it had been an American hospital, she'd have been under the bus so fast it would make your head spin. But also, can the British nurse's survivors sue the Australian DJs and/or the radio station for damages? Or wrongful death? I know that Australia is technically part of the Commonwealth, but do British laws apply or Aussie ones?

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
128. Lawsuits get filed across borders all the time. Beyond that, don't know the specific laws.
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 09:45 PM
Dec 2012

I'd be astonished if they couldn't sue somehow (or, failing that, if the DJs actually end up charged with something or other).

spiderpig

(10,419 posts)
131. Me too, fascisthunter
Fri Dec 7, 2012, 10:09 PM
Dec 2012

As a kid we'd play "pranks" on people we knew, but not on people we didn't.

The last stupid prank I participated in was in college. Our dorm had heard that if you put a sleeping person's hand in a bowl of water, they'd pee the bed. A bunch of us sneaked into the room where my very rich roomie was sleeping and put her hand in a bowl. She woke up to half a dozen floormates and said "you ********s".

That's a prank. These DJs were sadists and attention-junkies.

My roomie didn't pee the bed, BTW.

JesterCS

(1,827 posts)
136. I have to wonder if there were any other underlying
Sat Dec 8, 2012, 11:29 AM
Dec 2012

mental problems with the receptionist. Noone offs themselves for something like that.

muriel_volestrangler

(101,321 posts)
137. Call was recorded, and approved by station management and lawyers before broadcast
Sat Dec 8, 2012, 01:06 PM
Dec 2012
The chairman of King Edward VII Hospital wrote to Southern Cross Austereo a day after Jacintha Saldanha, 46, apparently killed herself.
...
The call was recorded before being assessed by the station's lawyers and then broadcast.

"King Edward VII's Hospital cares for sick people, and it was extremely foolish of your presenters even to consider trying to lie their way through to one of our patients, let alone actually make the call," Lord Glenarthur wrote.

"Then to discover that, not only had this happened, but that the call had been pre-recorded and the decision to transmit approved by your station's management, was truly appalling."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-20650721

Celefin

(532 posts)
142. Pranks and ethnic backgrounds...
Sun Dec 9, 2012, 01:18 PM
Dec 2012

She was an immigrant from India who came to the UK 9 years ago with all the family still in India. Being publicly humiliated on a global scale with your career in jeopardy would be tough enough for a European. But with roots in a deeply conservative society with strict and complex social rules... it must have felt like a monumental failure, embarrassment and humiliation. Basically her life was over. And so it was. Speaks volumes that her family never heard about the prank call until her husband called them with news of her death.

Nothing to shrug off at all. I'd be happy if prank calls were made illegal. They are cringe-worthy at the best of times anyway and always a good reason to switch station. The two DJs look like the picture book schoolyard bully/bitch who mob other 14 year olds into committing suicide and then say 'hey, it was just some fun'.

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