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Kassandra Perkins did not have to die.
This from Jessica Valenti in The Nation:
A good person. Genuine. Pleasant. Nice. Hard-working. A family man. The media has used all of these terms to describe Jovan Belcher after he murdered Kasandra Perkins, shooting her nine times. In fact, these glowing descriptors are all from just one article in The New York Times. But dont worry, there are plenty of pieces sharing lovely sentiments about the man who killed his girlfriend, the mother of his barely 3-month old daughter.
While mainstream media and supporters of Belcher have no problem spouting off flattery, most are hesitant to call what happened domestic violence. Theyve gone out of their way to suggest that Belcher murdered Perkinswho friends called Kasibecause of sustained head injuries or because of alcohol or drug abuse. A police officer, Sgt. Richard Sharp, has even suggested that Belcher committed suicide after killing Kasi because he cared about her.
I dont think he could live with himself, he said. What a romantic.
Its horribly offensive to laud a man who murdered his girlfriend and left his daughter parentless. Its also irresponsible. When the media reports domestic violence murders as random tragediesor when individuals say the perpetrator must have snappedthey enable a culture of violence against women. Because when you dont contextualize this violence as part of structural misogyny, you give credence to the myth that there was nothing anyone could have done to stop it.
more:
http://www.thenation.com/blog/171607/kasandra-perkins-did-not-have-die#
He was NOT a nice guy; he had a long history of violent behavior against women. But no one ever did anything about it. No one ever does. The biggest threat to women is their partners, especially when those partners are violent and when they attempt to leave them.
And "couples counseling"? Really? As Valenti says, that is the worst way to deal with domestic violence issues. She should have been encouraged to leave him and get a restraining order, though that is difficult enough for regular people, not to mention star football players.
Look, he was NOT a decent guy and I'm glad he's not around to hurt another woman. But I am very sorry he had to take her with him and leave his child an orphan. Can you imagine having to tell that kid what he did?
I am thoroughly disgusted by the coverage of this event so far. "He just snapped." or "We had no idea." Yes, you did, you just chose not to get involved, beyond some bullshit couple counseling.
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Kassandra Perkins did not have to die. (Original Post)
alarimer
Dec 2012
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All I could think was - I'm glad the child didn't get killed in the bargain
phantom power
Dec 2012
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hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)1. All I can think of is that child left parentless...
There are a lot of issues here, but all I can think about is that poor child. What a senseless waste...
phantom power
(25,966 posts)2. All I could think was - I'm glad the child didn't get killed in the bargain
that's how low my standards have fallen
hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)3. Yes.. that would be the only way to make this horror even worse.
kaspar411
(30 posts)4. NRA Claims She Would Still Be Alive If She Had A Gun