Adopted: For The Life Of Me

[me b zola]

The film previewed in this trailer, explores the lifelong affects of never knowing your real name, heritage, or medical information. It presents the stories of real people, who late in life, are still living in the darkness of sealed records.

http://adoptionfind.wordpress.com/2012/11/15/dont-miss-the-movie-adopted-for-the-life-of-me/

[classof56]

1. Appreciate learning about this film.

I'm sure it will resonate with many in these circumstances. After my only sister passed away in her early 40s, I spent years trying to locate the child she'd given up for adoption when she was 20. Our mother would have very much liked to know about her first grandchild, who she never saw and who my sister chose never to discuss. It was a futile pursuit. My sister covered her tracks well, and my mother died with the mystery still unsolved. I often think about that child (a boy), who would now be in his late 50s, and wonder if he might have tried at some point to find his birth mother...how his life turned out...if he'd be interested to know he has an aunt somewhere who continues to hold him in her heart...

I will try to watch this program...albeit through tears...

[me b zola]

3. There are some really good adoption registries

...they are for all family members to try to find each other. I was floored to find out that my bio-paternal aunt knew about me and that her mother, my grandmother, was sad that I was separated from the family, much like your mother. I am still searching for my first-mother.

The adoption community is quite large, and your nephew may just belong to one of the many groups dedicated to adoptee rights. The key to an internet search for groups and resources is to use the word "adoptee". My personal favorite site deals with the women of adoption, but there is a wealth of wisdom there for support and guidance for whomever needs it. http://www.thelostdaughters.com/

I am so sorry for your loss, both of your sister, mother, and nephew. Sending wishes of healing, and reunion if you still want it

[classof56]

4. Oh, I thank you most kindly for your thoughts, wishes and for this information.

I had focused my search on adoption registries in Colorado, where my nephew was born, but I will broaden my search. Thank you for this site and again, for your heartfelt wishes. I send a hug back to you, with the hope that you might some day find your first-mother. (Hadn't heard that description and I like it a lot!)

Many blessings!

[me b zola]

5. Here is a link that may be helpful

The International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR) is the most widely used registry and this is the first stop for those searching.

http://www.isrr.org/index.htm

[AtheistCrusader]

2. Oh, hey, it's this thing again.

"explores the lifelong affects of never knowing your real name"

Yeah, adoptive parents just love hearing this shit. Not your REAL name.
Not your real father or mother.

All the clues are in the words chosen.
Thanks.