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1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
3. No ...
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 05:36 PM
Jan 2013

it was probably spankings, observed and received, that got him to where he is. He needs to be taught what love and respect is.

Ed Suspicious

(8,879 posts)
4. Probably right, but my "dad" instinct (as a dad with a 14yo daughter who now has a boyfriend) is
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 05:40 PM
Jan 2013

screaming that he needs some tough love. Makes me seething mad watching him treat that little girl the way he does.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
10. Believe me ...
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 07:04 PM
Jan 2013

I know ... being the Dad of a 17 yr old daughter, who at one time patterned her choice in suitors after her "bad boy" uncles.

I've had plenty of "talks" with boys.

 

Plucketeer

(12,882 posts)
13. Exactly
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 09:46 PM
Jan 2013

if you spend time watching this past the first few sentences this kid utters, you're as dumb as he is. You can find this exact same shit on the "newspapers" next to the checkout line in your local grocery store.

 

RedstDem

(1,239 posts)
8. He'll wake up suddenly one morning
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 05:55 PM
Jan 2013

missing a big part of his life, if you know what i mean........lol

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
11. I don't have a son; but ...
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 07:06 PM
Jan 2013

there's no where there'd ever be a situation where he woke up and she wasn't laying next to him and he would drag her back to bed. Not in MY house. And he wouldn't be sleep at her house, either.

cash__whatiwant

(396 posts)
12. I would hope not. This girls self esteem must be the lowest of the low
Thu Jan 10, 2013, 09:13 PM
Jan 2013

to let this scrawny little kid treat her that way.

PDJane

(10,103 posts)
14. Understand something; typically, abusive behaviour destroys the self esteem.
Fri Jan 11, 2013, 01:41 AM
Jan 2013

It also leaves you very much without support; been there, done that. However, I have a well-hidden temper that comes out at certain times. This young woman seems to have had that totally beaten out of her, and that's not a good thing. Also understand that when a man like this says "I can't live without you," it's literally true. He needs someone to whom he can feel superior and whom he can control.

Yes, I've seen this kind of thing played out in real life. A relative of mine, when her husband lifted his hand just once too often, grabbed the hunting rifle off the wall and fired. Of course, she's a little thing, and the rifle had one hell of a recoil, so there was a hole blown in the ceiling and not much other damage!

Further violence won't fix what is wrong with this skinny little strutter; frankly, I'm not sure what will fix what's wrong with him. Once the period for developing empathy is gone, I'm not sure it can be repaired.

alp227

(32,025 posts)
15. Hi Jamaal greetings from the 408. Wonder what your point of this video was?
Fri Jan 11, 2013, 02:58 AM
Jan 2013

Maury was guilty pleasure for me when I was in high school. Maybe you could tie this into the War on Women/rape culture, a political commentary? Is this boy part of a larger pathology that leads to incidents like in Steubenville or Delhi?

BTW, the boyfriend looks like Robert Griffin III.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
16. Before I even watched this video,
Fri Jan 11, 2013, 06:28 PM
Jan 2013

I had a sneaky suspicion that this was from Maury, Steve Wilcos or Jerry Springer.

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