For those of you who remember the story of my girlfriend's deadbeat son, we DID evict him.

[Miles Archer]

He was full of braggadocio, telling us "go AHEAD and evict us, it will take you three months, and we won't pay you a penny!"

It took one month. We filed the papers on November 20th, and he was out of here on December 20th, about an hour and a half before the sheriff was scheduled to arrive here and remove him.

During the hearing, the judge asked him how much longer he wanted to stay. He said six weeks. The judge have him one week.

The judge was the coolest judge you could possibly imagine. He reminded me of Sid "Captain Spaulding" Haig. At one point the girlfriend asked him "We have a five year old child. Does that matter?" He replied "No. I assume she's going wherever you're going."

He also told the son that ONE of the reasons why he wasn't getting the six weeks he asked for is that he'd HAD a month since the eviction was filed to straighten things out, and he didn't. He didn't have a job, he didn't have any money, he'd made all kinds of threats under our roof. The judge actually told him immediately after we walked in the room that he had already made his decision, based solely on what he had in his file.

He left owing us about $1200 in back rent.

He also left a lovely parting gift. They spent their money on a 24-can case of Bud Light DAILY, they were both pack-a-day smokers, they went out to the local bar every Monday for beers and shots, followed by dinner at a restaurant, and they brought home take-out food almost daily. But somehow, they never had the $1.00 to buy one of those 4-packs of Angel Soft toilet paper, so they started using napkins. We took the napkins away, so they started using coffee filters. Neither of these break down when flushed. We hid the coffee filters, God only knows what they used after that. The girlfriend also regularly flushed tampons. The result was that our plumbing backed up, we had to call a plumber, pipes had to be replaced, and lime had to be spread under the house because when the pipes were removed, everything flowed out.

His last words to his mother, via a Facebook private message, were "Go fuck yourself and die alone."

Apparently, the girlfriend's mother staked them for rent on a 3 bedroom house about an hour from here...first and last month's rent, security, utilities, all of it.

Two weeks in, their power was turned off because they didn't pay the bill.

But they've been gone for a month, and we have our lives back.

They also lied about why they came here in the first place. He made up a story about being persecuted by the apartment complex's management for a number of reasons. The real reason was that they owed $3000 in back rent.

[FSogol]

1. Glad you two are free of them. n/t

[MLAA]

2. Wow

I can’t even imagine all you and your wife have gone through. Wishing you peace and calm now!

[Floyd R. Turbo]

3. Consider the $1,200. an investment in your future!

Glad you have your lives back!

[Tanuki]

4. I'm glad you have your life back. I'm sorry it was so difficult and expensive.

I feel especially sorry for the 5-year-old child who is being raised by such selfish and irresponsible parents.

[Docreed2003]

5. Cant even imagine

But I’m glad you guys are able to free yourselves from that nightmare!

[FakeNoose]

6. Oh my, what an awful story

I'm happy that you and your wife are well rid of them. Hopefully your holidays were somewhat enjoyable.

[Miles Archer]

12. The holidays were SURREAL.

The in-laws paid for a one week cruise for them. It happened the week before Thanksgiving. We decided to have our nice Thanksgiving dinner early, while they were gone. All I wanted was for them to be out of here before Christmas, and they were. It was nice, but very low-key, and we were still shell-shocked from the experience.

[janterry]

7. Call CPS

If they have no power on - that's not a safe place for the child. It sounds like they are both addicts and need a major intervention. You can't do that......but CPS can (big wake up when they show up!)

ETA: they do NOT have to know you called. It's anonymous. For all they know, it's the neighbors (and should be the neighbors!). This child is not safe.

[Freddie]

8. I totally feel for you

I can imagine there's drugs involved.
My son, now 27, is a recovering heroin addict. He's doing great now - clean 2 years, has a good job at a rehab, has a great girlfriend, lives very far away (Florida) as he knew the only way to have a chance at recovery was to leave this drug-invested town and druggie "friends".

But the years he was home from age 20 were a nightmare. Dropped out of college. 2 failed attempts at inpatient rehab. Kicked out of a recovery house for using. Fired from a good job. The constant lying and stealing. The screaming fights when he tried to extort $ from me. The accusations from his sister and other relatives that "it's MY fault he's using again." The time he plowed his car into a parked car right after buying drugs in North Philly and we had to get him at Temple Hospital. That was the incident that got him into rehab for the 3rd time and it's "taking" so far.
And the worst thing - ask any addict's loved one - is the constant fear, every waking minute, of finding him dead with a needle in his arm. Or a call from the police with same. And this has happened to more than a few of his friends, and sons of my friends. There but for the grace of God - so far.
I think I have PTSD from all this. I'll hear a song or drive past places or listen to the news and it will all come back and I'm in tears. Of relief? I honestly think it's all the crying I didn't do back then because I was too scared. Maybe if he stays clean a couple more years it will go away.
I hope someday there's a happy ending to your story.

[Miles Archer]

11. Yes...I left out the part about how they favored OxyContin with their Bud Lights.

There's a lot more detail to the 7-month saga than I have shared.

One night, the girlfriend was sitting on the sofa, staring at the wall, slurring her words.

I went out in the kitchen and the oven door was open and my cat was sitting in the oven.

[Phentex]

18. Even harder with drugs thrown in...

I have two family members who had to do the same thing: move very far away from the life they knew. So far, it has worked. But it's going to be a battle pretty much forever.

Other family situation is that the mom suffers from mental illness and just barely makes it on her own. Then her daughter brings trouble every chance she can get. She takes medication but then stops and goes off the deep end, gets rescued by her mom and then it starts all over again. It's just hard.

[Fla Dem]

9. Difficult action to take I'm sure especially for your girlfriend.

But they were making both your lives miserable. It was the right thing to do. I hope they get their act together. I just feel sorry for the child. I can't believe he asked the judge "We have a five year old child. Does that matter?". Maybe they should start thinking about the child.

Good luck.

[Miles Archer]

13. Yes, he's 39 years old...I have little faith in him "waking up" at this point

He always finds a new "mark," a new sucker, like the relative who's paying for the house they are in now.

[Iggo]

21. I woke up at 35. It can happen.

:fingerscrossed:

[Phentex]

10. I'm glad you got them out but I know how very difficult this has been...

I can't post much now but I will get back to this later. Just wanted you to know this is MUCH harder than it sounds.

I hope this brings some peace to your own household now.

[mopinko]

14. boy do i feel ya. i had to do the same to my son.

didnt get to eviction, tho i served him several times.
he is clearly mentally ill. after the second time i had him picked up for threatening me he finally figured out he had lost the fight.
sadly, he pressured a young lady he barely knew into letting him move in w her and her 3 yo son.

the 2 of them think they are sovereign citizens. he is currently in the county jail after speeding and trying to evade the cops. blew off his court dates, and continued to ignore the traffic laws.
hoping his time in jail w/o weed to smoke will clear his head a bit, but i doubt it. he has farther to fall.

the 3 of them are moving to virginia next month to work on a horse farm. hoping fresh air and hard work will help the both of them. i wonder tho.

[dewsgirl]

15. I remember your story, I'm happy your nightmare is over.

[WhiteTara]

16. I'm happy to hear that they are gone

Now, block facebook and phone calls and email and you will really have your lives to your selves. I can almost guarantee you that they will haunt you forever if you don't make sure that is all sealed off.

Good luck. Hope you and your girlfriend have a chance to have a relationship.

[haele]

17. I'm sorry for the 5 year old for having such emotionally stunted grifters as parents.

But hopefully, when their debts get over small claims court status and they finally end up in jail, perhaps he'll get a better home with one of the relatives or a good foster family.

Haele

[Miles Archer]

19. The girlfriend has major issues

They are not married, the little girl is her child from her first marriage.

The girlfriend drinks heavily, to the point of unconsciousness, and until she passes out, which means she goes to bed anywhere from 1 AM to 3 AM and then sleeps until noon.

One morning the little girl was screaming and crying and banging on her mother's bedroom door. She wouldn't respond.

My girlfriend walked over and asked her what was wrong. She held up a box of frozen waffles and said "I'm HUNGRY...will you make one of these for me?"

She HAS had the child taken away from her once. During this last fiasco, when it looked like they were going to be living in a motel, she was sent to Kentucky to stay with her grandmother. The ex-husband probably would have filed for sole custody, but as I mentioned above, someone in the family paid to set them up in the house they are in now. I give it six months, tops, before they are facing another eviction. This would be his fourth, and her fifth.

[Tipperary]

20. That child is in danger. I hope you notify CPS.