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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI have something that has been weighing on my mind.
Short story to follow.
Strangely enough, all three of these incidents happened at funerals I attended in the past two years or so. They all happened in almost exactly the same way.
I'm at the funeral. I see someone I haven't seen in years. They yell at me from across the room...HEYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!! Lucky!!!!!!!!! Oh wow!!!! Good to see you, man! Good to see you! Big hug, back slapping, etc. We start a short conversation, and then they see someone else...HEY HOW YOU DOING? And they walk away from me mid-sentence like they never even saw me. And then they are talking to someone else.
It's rude, and it bothers the shit out of me, because it makes me wonder if something is wrong with ME that causes people to do that. Has this ever happened to anyone here?
fleur-de-lisa
(14,624 posts)I've had the . . . oh, look, Aristus just logged on.
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)True Dough
(17,304 posts)I would just flat out avoid you to avoid an interrupted exchange of pleasantries.
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)I wonder if I smell bad and don't know it!
True Dough
(17,304 posts)embalming fluid?
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)and I would not trade it for anything.
Also...what does embalming fluid smell like?
TygrBright
(20,759 posts)Don't ask me how I know.
mysteriously,
Bright
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)TygrBright
(20,759 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)spread their little tiny legs.
TygrBright
(20,759 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)chance of using whenever I can.
llmart
(15,539 posts)maybe you shouldn't use it at funerals
enid602
(8,616 posts)As Xaviera Hollander once said, the only unnatural sex act is that which cannot be performed.
Corvo Bianco
(1,148 posts)forced and fickle. This is common in my experience. Also, if you ever answer a small-talk question thoughtfully the perma-grinners aren't trained in how to engage so they run away.
"How are you"
"Oh, I'm wandering through the abyss..."
"bye!"
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)yonder
(9,665 posts)Funtatlaguy
(10,875 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)The corpse sat up and did it. I got the fuck out of there.
Funtatlaguy
(10,875 posts)madaboutharry
(40,210 posts)Some people are rude. There are some people who have no social awareness nor any social graces. Thats who they are and theyre never going to change.
Fortunately, there are more (I think) nice people who know how to behave appropriately.
I dont think its you, its therm.
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)I'm wondering if it has something to do with the awkwardness at funerals, since I can't recall it happening anywhere else.
Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)looking for who might be more important than the person they are currently talking to. And, if they do spot such a person, they will walk away from you mid sentence. I've noticed this especially at work functions. Madaboutharry is right - it is them, not you. To me, YOU will always be the most important person in the room. How's that for sucking up?
Glamrock
(11,800 posts)ANAL BLEACH
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)trying to smell it!
Glamrock
(11,800 posts)patricia92243
(12,595 posts)are rude to everybody.
LuckyCharms
(17,425 posts)someone else.
Donkees
(31,405 posts)In The Pursuit of Attention, sociologist Charles Derber shares the fascinating results of a study done on face-to-face interactions, in which researchers watched 1,500 conversations unfold and recorded how people traded and vied for attention.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)of the deceased.
She was walking around, greeting people, saying a couple words and then saying, "Let's do lunch" and floating around like she was an actress or politician. She didn't act like she was in mourning, at all. I knew her mother and was quite sad to hear of her passing. I stood and watched this scenario for a few minutes and walked away in disgust. Everyone had the same reaction...a puzzled look like they'd just been hit by a social faux pas. Perhaps it was her way of covering up any grief, but on the other hand...she's a snob.
Don't take it personally. Just hope you don't have many funerals to attend where they seem to gather.
applegrove
(118,652 posts)of my dad's who was looking confused and had altzheimers I knew. So I went to him and led him to my dad so they could connect. I later apologized to my old friend on Facebook. Funerals are places where there are a ton of emotions and sometimes they conflict and compete. I would not take it personally. You were at a place with lots of pain and sadness. Some nostalgia. My friend has been good to me over the years. The confused cousin I barely know. I was not picking favourites just doing my job under very emotional and heavy circumstances. No emotion had the time to be fully processed. I was simply overwhelmed and trying to be social and helpful when i did not want to be. Plus I'm dyslexic and see things out of the corner of my eyes.