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Ohiogal
(32,057 posts)Go Sherrod and Connie! Two of my favorite people!
PJMcK
(22,048 posts)We had to euthanize our rescue pup, Bubba, six months ago after a good long life of 16 years. He had the same beautiful and loving eyes!
You have a wonderful companion!
demmiblue
(36,885 posts)It is so incredibly painful, even as time passes.
PJMcK
(22,048 posts)It was the right time for Bubba.
Isnt it curious that we cant make similar judgements about our own lives?
samnsara
(17,635 posts)...we never have them long enough and we never are too old to cry for our pups and it never gets any easier...
zanana1
(6,127 posts)marble falls
(57,204 posts)the whole house. Our cat knows everything is his, but he'll usually share. We love him dearly.
calimary
(81,466 posts)marble falls
(57,204 posts)calimary
(81,466 posts)Dogs too big to be on our bed but the cats arent. Theyre on our bed all day.
marble falls
(57,204 posts)that dog would carefully find a spot after he we were asleep and slept with us. The son turned out well finally, but I sure do miss that dog. I did not want him here. That lasted about a week.
I miss that dog. Just a good being. Better than a whole list of people I can name.
sarge43
(28,945 posts)marble falls
(57,204 posts)the understanding was the cat was not coming into the house and I told her it was staying until I found a non kill shelter. She named him that night, and she bathed him and he loved that bath. I fed him some turkey he he purred as he ate: I never heard a cat "nom" before.
Like I even bothered calling shelters. He's our little kitty boy.
sarge43
(28,945 posts)From the days when I worked in a pet store.
I worked in the bird dept and one day Mrs Gottrocks strolled in looking for a cockatiel because she heard they are sweet birds. I agreed that they were first choice as a starter parrot. I take her over to the 'tiel holding area and, being 'tiels, all but one freaked out, throwing themselves against the bars, yelling hysterically. All but One took one look at the mark, the designer suit, the jewelry, the 500 dollar handbag, hopped over and started the "Tweet, tweet, I'm so sweet" con.
Mrs G melted and "Can I hold him"?. AbO jumped on her hand, ran up her arm and started blowing kisses in her ear. I worried about her diamond stud earrings, but AbO was smarter than that; he would wait until they were home, then rip them out.
He went to his new gated community with a top of the line cage and food, every 'tiel toy in stock and our standard owner's manual How To Be An Acceptable Slave for Your Feathered House God.
Played her like a violin and lived the good life.
marble falls
(57,204 posts)it because it was so attached to him and put up a big fuss when he got married ten or so years ago. I understand her concerns - its hard to try to make friends with an angry bird that could probably take a joint of her little finger. They all get along fine now.
My son keeps bees (as well as selling bee-keeping equipment on line) and claims his hives know him and are calm around him.
sarge43
(28,945 posts)and loath the rest of humanity with the intensity of a super nova. African Greys are particularly known for this.
My husband keeps bees and he can work with the girls quite safely. He doesn't even suit up. I think one factor is scent, but more importantly knowing how to behave around them.
marble falls
(57,204 posts)and I do not bother them. I do catch them in the house and release them. My wife, however is afraid of them and they crowd her.
I think they can "smell" fear.
sarge43
(28,945 posts)Also rapid movements like swatting at them will get them wound up.
marble falls
(57,204 posts)totally ineffective attempts at swatting them with a newspaper. She gave up when they were eight or so. Groundings were much more effective. We got good kids.
marble falls
(57,204 posts)My son's website
https://blueskybeesupply.com/
Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)Animals have a way to make it into our hearts. I have never met one I disliked, they are all loveable. Such sweet, innocent faces.
sandensea
(21,664 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I just want to give him/her a big hug and kiss. Soooo cute!
sandensea
(21,664 posts)They're real cuddlebugs. Big personalities too.
They're not for everyone, since they're probably the least obedient dogs out there (they need a yard too, as they pee a lot); but once you have one, they're impossible to forget.
ProfessorGAC
(65,168 posts)Not that your doggie wants to do that. Mine does too. But my beastie weights a 100 pounds. I couldn't breathe if he was in that position on me!
sandensea
(21,664 posts)They have the biggest hearts.
ProfessorGAC
(65,168 posts)That one is even bigger than my doggie. You can barely see the person in that photo.
sandensea
(21,664 posts)Great Danes as well, so I was told. My Basset loved running tinto Great Danes.
Dog park memories.
ProfessorGAC
(65,168 posts)But, i hear they don't live all that long. That's always scared me off a bit.
sandensea
(21,664 posts)The bigger sizes often come with bigger health issues.
English Bulldogs too, poor things. Lots of heart trouble.
Made of honey though.
marieo1
(1,402 posts)What a beauty!!! Our furry friends brighten each and every day. We all are devastated by what is going on in our country and these furry friends will still stick their warm noses in our hands and ask to be petted and loved and give back love abundantly. We need them. Sherrod Brown just showed his humanness, thank you, Mr. Brown. It's amazing how they can move into our hearts.
TruckFump
(5,812 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)You just can't help it!
The Mouth
(3,164 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)Quite a few years ago my daughter asked if we'd care for her Rottweiler puppy for a little while because she was in a living situation that wasn't good. My husband said no repeatedly. We already had another dog, and our yard (at the time) was not big enough for big dogs. I already knew that the dog had some health issues. I had helped my daughter get him through Parvo, and then we found out he had bad hips.
So she brought him over after my husband went to bed. He didn't discover that he was there until he got home from work the next day. I told him that the dog had already been there a full day, so it was too late to not accept him. Our other dog was absolutely thrilled, and "the boys" acted like they had shared the same womb.
Still, I knew right away I wasn't going to like the Rottie. Unlike our Aussie mix, Taney had wiry fur and I wasn't a fan. Also, there was the factor of his bad hips. I didn't figure we'd have him long, so I made it a point to not get attached to him.
I have no idea what the hell happened, but he turned into MY dog. I got him his own twin size bed that I put right up against my side of our bed. When he got worried or just lonely, he'd crawl from his own bed onto ours so we could snuggle better. He was with me every moment that he possibly could be. He was completely devoted to me and did anything I asked him to do.
We had Taney until he was almost 10, and then the hip issue became unmanageable. I held him (all 125 pounds) while he was getting euthanized. I was inconsolable for a long time. That was over 13 years ago. Still sad. Best dog ever.
ZZenith
(4,126 posts)You made room in your heart for him and now its much larger than it was before. He was a lucky dog, and grateful, too.
Rorey
(8,445 posts)And grateful that I was privileged to have him in my life. Everyone loved Taney. He was this great big gentle giant. He sure did teach me a lot of lessons.
hostalover
(447 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)As you know.
hostalover
(447 posts)Stonepounder
(4,033 posts)I have a plaque hanging on our bedroom wall:
DOG RULES:
1. The dog is not allowed in the house.
2. OK, the dog is allowed in the house, but only in certain areas.
3. The dog is allowed in certain rooms, but he has to stay off the furniture.
4. The dog can only get on the old furniture.
5. Fine, the dog is allowed on all of the furniture, but is not allowed to sleep in the beds with
the humans.
6. OK, the dog is allowed on the bed, but only by invitation.
7. The dog can sleep on the bed whenever he wants, but not under the covers.
8. The dog can sleep under the covers by invitation only.
9. The dog can sleep under the covers every night.
10. Humans must ask permission to sleep under the covers with the dog.
(And in our household: The humans will adjust their sleeping positions to accommodate the dogs.)
Haggis for Breakfast
(6,831 posts)It started like this: I'm taking a nap. My spouse comes into the bedroom for shoes and says something about going to the grocery store.
Me: "I just went two days ago. What can you possibly need ?"
Spouse: "mumble ... mumble ... dog food."
Me: "We don't have a dog."
Spouse: "What did you say ? Sorry gotta run."
An hour later.
Me: "WHAT ? And you said, "Yes" to them ?"
Dog starts wrapping herself around my ankles, making soft sounds, looking at me with those big brown eyes.
Me: "Stop that. You are not staying."
Dog continues worming her way into my heart.
Me: "Okay, but she stays outside and you build her a nice dog house."
Spouse: "Done."
Dog does everything in her power to break me, but I stand resolute.
Me: (two days later) "Where is the dog house you are supposed to be building ?"
Spouse: "Well, blah blah blah . . . " (Too many excuses to list here.)
And then, almost word-for-word, it went down just as you described it Stonepounder.
But, she's getting on in her years and I get worried about what the future holds for her.
No problem.
I'm in the living room, reading a book.
Spouse enters. "Do we have more than one dog bowl ?"
Me: "Why do we need another dog bowl ?"
Spouse: "Well, you can't expect two dogs to eat out of the same bowl."
Me: "We don't have two dogs."
Do I really need to keep going ?
Stonepounder
(4,033 posts)Finally, someone who understands us!
hostalover
(447 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)Rorey
(8,445 posts)It's not so much that the dog wins, but the your heart wins over your brain.
I LOVE those rules.