Wife won't let me spend my babysitting money on what I want

[Kaleva]

I'm a 60 year old guy and last week I made a $100 ($4.00 an hour) babysitting a now 3 week old. I wanted to spend that on a Presto 23 quart pressure canner but the wife said "No!". The money I make is going to be spent on a new bed cover, pillow cases and sham.

Booooo!

Was wondering if any of the rest of you guys are not allowed to spend the money you make babysitting on what you want?

[Sanity Claws]

1. Can you tell me what a sham is?

Just testing how well your wife has trained you.

[Kaleva]

2. I don't need to know what a sham is 'cause we are getting one regardless.

[Aristus]

10. A decorative pillow cover.

You don't actually sleep on it. It's just to make the bed look good.

I know this because they're all over the bed in our guest room.

[Sanity Claws]

11. Congratulations!

Sorry there's no prize except the satisfaction that your knowledge about the domestic arena is top notch.

[Aristus]

12. I'm a far better housekeeper than my wife.

We both agree on that...

[okaawhatever]

20. Yes, and you hide the pillows you sleep on behind it. nt

[Lochloosa]

3. I'm not sure of the answer. Let me ask the wife.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

4. Hmmm.

I wonder what the answers would be if the title were "Husband won't let me spend my babysitting money on what I want".

I see it as one spouse bullying the other, and that's never right. Or acceptable.

[patricia92243]

15. Agree!

[True Dough]

5. What's the matter?

Are you too scared to ask your wife if you can spend your babysitting money on this instead?

[Kaleva]

6. I'm one of the lucky ones that doesn't need that!

I have fair skin everywhere.

[True Dough]

7. I'm taking your word for it!

No pictures, please!

[Major Nikon]

8. Separate bank accounts means never having to say you're sorry

Not counting our business accounts and the joint accounts we use to budget joint expenses the wife and I have a personal draft account. Each of us allocates money used for personal expenses. We agreed long ago not to question any expenses which come out of those accounts. I can't even see her statement and vise versa.

I can never find work babysitting because nobody wants to pay my $1000 per day rate, plus expenses.

[Flaleftist]

9. Have you considered selling the baby on the black market and fleeing the country?

[Kaleva]

13. I didn't mind going to jail when I was younger but I'm over that now.

[OriginalGeek]

14. i'll be getting a mileage check this week

for business travels last week. It was a lot - mileage plus per diem will come to just over 750 bucks.


I'm hoping I get 15 of those dollars for a concert I want to see next week.

Maybe 35 so I can get a shirt too.

Ok, 45 so I can add a pitcher of beer.

but still, that's not much out of the whole.

[Harker]

16. $4 an hour? n/t

[Fla Dem]

17. I didn't know this was a thing, grandparents charging to look after their grandchildren.

If however this isn't a grandchild, I guess you're entitled to whatever someone is willing to pay. So is this a weekly gig? If so, you and your wife should have agreed upfront where that $100 a week would go and who has control over it. Seems to me if you're the one putting in the time, you should have a say about how the money is spent.

[Kaleva]

19. I'm not a relation to the child

The mother is Facebook friends of my wife. My wife read a post of her's asking about babysitters and she asked me if I would be interested.

In truth, I pretty much control the money and it's spent how I think best. If and when my wife does want something, then I generally go along unless such an expenditure causes problems paying other expenses.

[Phentex]

18. I control all of the funds in this household...

Neither of us enjoy spending money so nobody keeps tabs on who spends what. It helps if you have all the bills paid and you aren't worried about putting food on the table. There are so many couples who fight over money. It's just one thing I could not take but it helps that we are not spenders.