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Bake

(21,977 posts)
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 01:22 PM Jun 2012

Muffin has a huge huge tumor.

She's been the best dog ever. Lhasa Apso, 15 yrs old this month. But she can't get around too well, and there's this big tumor that has likely already metastasized from what I've read. We're looking at The Big Decision. I'd suffer for her if I could. She's been just THE BEST.

Sad today.

Bake

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Muffin has a huge huge tumor. (Original Post) Bake Jun 2012 OP
Oh, my dear Bake... CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2012 #1
I'm sorry. RiffRandell Jun 2012 #2
Mammary tumor. Bake Jun 2012 #4
I had a cat who had a triple mastectomy. geardaddy Jun 2012 #5
I'm so sorry...my black lab pipi_k Jun 2012 #16
We've gone back and forth on this for weeks now. Bake Jun 2012 #19
you know what to do backwoodsbob Jun 2012 #23
Yep, it will pipi_k Jun 2012 #24
Sorry Bake. Lost my Rottie that way 14 yrs ago. bluesbassman Jun 2012 #3
I'm so sorry, Bake. Flaxbee Jun 2012 #6
I think we know what we have to do. Bake Jun 2012 #7
I am sorry you are going through this. Pool Hall Ace Jun 2012 #8
I'm very sad to hear that, Bake. bluedigger Jun 2012 #9
We lost a cat to a softball-sized tumor. Sometimes the right thing to do is sad. HopeHoops Jun 2012 #10
So sorry and I know how sad you feel and how hard The Big Decision is going to be. RebelOne Jun 2012 #11
Bake... Dystopian Jun 2012 #12
Oh, I am so sorry, Bake. hifiguy Jun 2012 #13
i am so sorry fizzgig Jun 2012 #14
I'm so very sorry kimi Jun 2012 #15
I'm sorry, Bake. Bertha Venation Jun 2012 #17
Thanks, Bertha! Bake Jun 2012 #18
I'm so very, very sorry! *hugs* GreenPartyVoter Jun 2012 #20
. Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #21
We lost our Lab mix Lucy that way earlier this year. EFerrari Jun 2012 #22

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,663 posts)
1. Oh, my dear Bake...
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 01:40 PM
Jun 2012

I'm so so sorry...

They're our children in so many ways, aren't they? I hear your pain, sweetie...

You know what you have to do, because she can't help herself, but oh boy, in some ways that just makes it hurt more...

But they rely on us to take care of them, and especially at the end of life.

She knows you love her...

RiffRandell

(5,909 posts)
2. I'm sorry.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 01:40 PM
Jun 2012

Where is the tumor? Our dog Brady died 2 years ago from incurable cancer. It started on his leg, vet thought it was a knee problem, took him to a specialist who diagnosed it. We kept him comfortable until it was time. He was the best.

So sorry.

Bake

(21,977 posts)
4. Mammary tumor.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 01:48 PM
Jun 2012

It has grown exponentially. Insanely fast. She'd never survive the surgery or the recovery.

Bake

geardaddy

(24,931 posts)
5. I had a cat who had a triple mastectomy.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 01:55 PM
Jun 2012

So sorry to hear about Muffin. She survived it well for another year and a half.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
16. I'm so sorry...my black lab
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 08:14 PM
Jun 2012

Amy had one too, even though she was spayed.

It grew frighteningly fast and got massive.

Toward the end the skin started to split and bleed.

She was just past 13 when we brought her to the vet for the final time.

Deciding whether and when to do that is hell.

God, it always makes me cry when shit like this happens to people and their pets. Not fair!





Bake

(21,977 posts)
19. We've gone back and forth on this for weeks now.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 09:12 PM
Jun 2012

Meanwhile, the thing has seemed to double in size. Amazing how fast it grows. I've read that it will split and bleed. Got to be awful.

Bake

 

backwoodsbob

(6,001 posts)
23. you know what to do
Sat Jun 16, 2012, 02:14 AM
Jun 2012

I hate it for you...been there done that ...it hurts.

Know Muffin lived a good life and let it go at that...don't make Muffin suffer for you.when the time comes you will know.

I know your pain

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
24. Yep, it will
Sat Jun 16, 2012, 09:40 AM
Jun 2012

Because it seemed the bigger it got, the faster it grew. At the end, it was about the size of a football or maybe a bit bigger. It was so big she couldn't even lie down comfortably.

We wanted to have a vet come to the house to help her over the Rainbow Bridge but nobody would. It would have been easier on her. So we packed her up in the back of the car and went to the vet. She never complained.

Like you, we went back and forth for a long time about when to do it. It's so hard to let go.

But yes...it will split and bleed. When that happens, there is no way around it.

Again, I'm so very sorry for you and your doggy. I hope you find strength in the coming days.

Flaxbee

(13,661 posts)
6. I'm so sorry, Bake.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 02:09 PM
Jun 2012

Sad news. But she loved you, and no doubt knows how much she was loved. I couldn't bear to part with my Tommycat and I waited too long to make The Big Decision. As soon as you think Muffin is uncomfortable, help her on her way.

Bake

(21,977 posts)
7. I think we know what we have to do.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 02:25 PM
Jun 2012

I'll be with her at the end, just to hold her and bid her safe passage.

Bake

 

HopeHoops

(47,675 posts)
10. We lost a cat to a softball-sized tumor. Sometimes the right thing to do is sad.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:12 PM
Jun 2012

The vet offered to operate but I said it sounded more like an autopsy. She agreed.

Hang in there.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
11. So sorry and I know how sad you feel and how hard The Big Decision is going to be.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 03:40 PM
Jun 2012

But you know she will not suffer any longer. I had to put my beloved Rottweiler down in 2010 because she had liver and bone cancer, but I finally had to make The Big Decision when she could no longer walk. She was just 2 months short of her 13th birthday.

Dystopian

(6,421 posts)
12. Bake...
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 04:01 PM
Jun 2012

I know exactly how you feel...
My son just lost his dog on Memorial Day...
Don't know when the grief will end...

The sadness...knowing the time is near.
Not wanting to let go ... knowing you must.

Holding her as she passes ... the most wondrous act of love..
She knows your love for her... and you know Muffin's love...unconditional.
Fifteen years of love is a lot to lose...
My heart goes out to you...
We survive.. and life goes on.... with a piece of our hearts gone with them.

I know you'll make the best of the time that Muffin is still with you...
I'm so very sorry..

peace and love to you~
 

hifiguy

(33,688 posts)
13. Oh, I am so sorry, Bake.
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 04:21 PM
Jun 2012

Deciding whether to let go of a fur friend is the hardest thing there is. Do what is best for her even if it hurts.

fizzgig

(24,146 posts)
14. i am so sorry
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 04:34 PM
Jun 2012

the big decision is such a hard one, but it's our final act of love for them. you've two have given each other years of love, it's so hard to say goodbye.

peace to you and muffin.

kimi

(2,441 posts)
15. I'm so very sorry
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 07:50 PM
Jun 2012

This is an awful time for you & your family & of course for Muffin - but she has your unwavering love & support. My heart goes out to you all. Hugs.

Bake

(21,977 posts)
18. Thanks, Bertha!
Fri Jun 15, 2012, 09:11 PM
Jun 2012

I really feel bad for our daughter. Muffin is HER dog, and has been for 15 years. She housetrained Muffin, would take her outside in the rain with an umbrella to go potty ... this is really hard on her.

But I'm not going to let Muff suffer. And it looks like it's to that point.

Bake

EFerrari

(163,986 posts)
22. We lost our Lab mix Lucy that way earlier this year.
Sat Jun 16, 2012, 02:07 AM
Jun 2012

One day it was just obvious that her life wasn't good any more and we took her in. She was the sweetest girl.

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