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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsJust stop in to say I won't be posting much (not that I posted much),
for awhile. My husband, Jim, died in a traffic accident today. So. Things to attend to and rearrange. Life does what it does.
CAVU, Airman.
underpants
(182,829 posts)nancy1942
(635 posts)LizBeth
(9,952 posts)Raster
(20,998 posts)50 Shades Of Blue
(10,010 posts)tblue37
(65,403 posts)handmade34
(22,756 posts)MackinacBridge
(28 posts)CherokeeDem
(3,709 posts)regnaD kciN
(26,044 posts)CherokeeDem
(3,709 posts)niyad
(113,336 posts)family is here for you, however we can help.
stopdiggin
(11,316 posts)you do what you need to do -- and take care of yourself. talk when you get back. --- ---
catbyte
(34,402 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)babylonsister
(171,070 posts)Wicked Blue
(5,834 posts)My condolences
UpInArms
(51,284 posts)I am devastated for you and am so utterly sorry ...
PJMcK
(22,037 posts)I'm very sorry to hear of your tragedy. In time, I hope you'll find peace.
blm
(113,065 posts)Our hearts are with you.
🕯
Backseat Driver
(4,393 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,732 posts)barbtries
(28,799 posts)I am so sorry.
dixiechiken1
(2,113 posts)My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I am so sorry.
magicarpet
(14,155 posts)Fla Dem
(23,690 posts)dawg day
(7,947 posts)I hope friends and family are a help during this hard time l.
NNadir
(33,525 posts)I am so sorry.
KarenS
(4,079 posts)Hela
(440 posts)My sympathies to you for the loss of your dear husband, Jim. Take care of yourself.
I'm so sorry, sarge...
jpak
(41,758 posts)3catwoman3
(24,006 posts)Please accept an on-line hug -
Wawannabe
(5,661 posts)Warm hugs
Take care of yourself!
Tumbulu
(6,290 posts)In such a shocking circumstance.
BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)to you and your family!
KT2000
(20,583 posts)I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you now. I am so sorry. Please tune in to Du if you need virtual hugs.
irisblue
(32,980 posts)ancianita
(36,074 posts)This is a horrible loss. We're with you knowing you'll do what you must. But when you need some virtual hugs, advice, help, we'll be here to do what we can.
littlemissmartypants
(22,692 posts)Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)WinstonSmith4740
(3,056 posts)I walked a different road, but to the same destination, and this was the first place I came to in the aftermath.
Please take time and take care of yourself. It's easy to forget to do things like eat, and sleep can be tough to come by. It does get better, and we're all here for you.
Karadeniz
(22,535 posts)Fall apart. Nothing wrong with that, but do try to take care of yourself.
Deepest sympathy to you and your family at this time of loss.
WinstonSmith4740
(3,056 posts)Totally true. Also, allow yourself to feel what you're feeling...don't deny anything. I tried that for a while..."He was suffering, now he's in a better place, his pain is over" ad nauseum, and it broke me. If you want to cry, cry. Rail at the heavens. Scream if you want. I found it helpful to have empty boxes around the house that I could kick. Friends and family will understand and be there for you and nobody else matters.
OLDMDDEM
(1,575 posts)I want to give you a hug. It's not much but all I can do right now.
pazzyanne
(6,556 posts)Sending prayers for strength for you, for people to help you, and healing for you and your family.
Ford_Prefect
(7,901 posts)Please take good care.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,014 posts)We'll be here when you are ready to return.
blueinredohio
(6,797 posts)Please take care of yourself too.
Pepsidog
(6,254 posts)blogslut
(38,002 posts)May you be well
AwakeAtLast
(14,130 posts)Sunny Daze
(209 posts)Im so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and please accept my deepest condolences.
Kimber432
(74 posts)I haven't posted much either but I am so sorry for your family and friends with this terrible loss. Prayers...
lunatica
(53,410 posts)OMGWTF
(3,959 posts)True Dough
(17,305 posts)That's terrible news. Sorry to hear it.
I wish you great strength, but let the emotions do what they must for a while.
SunSeeker
(51,571 posts)SaveOurDemocracy
(4,400 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,457 posts)Jim__
(14,077 posts)SergeStorms
(19,201 posts)I hope you have loved ones nearby to help you through this. Were always here for you, for what it's worth. My most heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
yardwork
(61,650 posts)Just_Vote_Dem
(2,808 posts)cp
(6,636 posts)Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,734 posts)TygrBright
(20,761 posts)DemUnleashed
(633 posts)I am so very sorry to hear...my sincere condolences!
Granny M
(1,395 posts)Sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.
CaptainTruth
(6,594 posts)Sending virtual hugs...
murielm99
(30,745 posts)Many of us here have faced bereavement. But to have it so suddenly!
Don't hesitate to talk to us when you need to do that. Hugs, prayers, good thoughts....whatever you need.
cayugafalls
(5,641 posts)Please accept my deepest condolences.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)and your family. My deepest condolences to you. Don't forget to take care of yourself, and remember that DU is a great place to go for hugs and wisdom. May Jim rest in peace.
sarge43
(28,941 posts)Your messages mean more than I can say. They do help.
If I can get through tonight (still waiting for him to pull into the driveway), I think I'll be ok.
He was a good man who gave more than he took. I was lucky to have him.
Again, CAVU Airman.
orleans
(34,057 posts)family around you that you can talk with and lean on and who will just let you talk and cry, and even cook for you.
it's a huge change when we lose someone in our day-to-day because there is always that constant reminder in whatever you're doing to include them
just take it easy--take it slow (and i mean from decision-making to walking around the house)
sending both of you light and love.
we're here for you.
rurallib
(62,423 posts)DFW
(54,405 posts)It's my worst fear, too. My wife takes frequent long drives on streets and highways populated by maniacs.
I'm so sorry for you that my worst fear had to happen to you.
SallyHemmings
(1,822 posts)trof
(54,256 posts)CAVU indeed.
stuffmatters
(2,574 posts)qanda
(10,422 posts)My sincere condolences.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Healing vibes on the way! 💕💕💕
Bluethroughu
(5,172 posts)MontanaMama
(23,322 posts)You must be in shock. I am very sorry for your loss.
duforsure
(11,885 posts)sazemisery
(2,608 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,392 posts)There are quite a few DU'ers who have lost spouses in the last year or two. Some will probably stop in on this thread with condolences. We're here for you.
Lars39
(26,109 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,635 posts)We are here for you.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)What terrible news. Please check back in with us to let us know how you are holding up.
My sincere condolences. May Jim rest in peace.
live love laugh
(13,118 posts)Pobeka
(4,999 posts)MuseRider
(34,111 posts)Know that we are all here for you. Thinking of you and sending loving and healing thoughts to you. Many warm hugs.
Evergreen Emerald
(13,069 posts)I am deeply sorry for your loss. Take care.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,742 posts)Please accept my condolences for your loss. I am so sorry to hear that you and your family have suffered such a terrible tragedy.
Solly Mack
(90,771 posts)We'll be thinking of you.
JohnnyLib2
(11,212 posts)You have a lot of support here; wish it could be more direct.
Laffy Kat
(16,383 posts)PA_jen
(1,114 posts)wryter2000
(46,051 posts)I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you're feeling.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)What a terrible loss. I can hear your broken heart.
TruckFump
(5,812 posts)LisaM
(27,813 posts)I am very sorry.
Nevilledog
(51,121 posts)Tanuki
(14,918 posts)is one of life's most difficult passages, and having it happen so unexpectedly must be especially hard. I wish you the very best as you process this very great loss and begin to put your life back together. There will always be someone here at DU awake and ready to respond with compassion and encouragement at any hour if you want to chat. Peace and blessings to you, sarge43.
MissB
(15,810 posts)pacalo
(24,721 posts)Sending you vibes of comfort and strength, sarge. So sorry.
electric_blue68
(14,906 posts)Strength to you for it all, and to whom else that you're close to who will be grieving.
Coventina
(27,121 posts)and all your family.
sarge43
(28,941 posts)Last edited Tue Mar 2, 2021, 07:46 AM - Edit history (1)
Your kind words, advice and offers of help mean more than I can say. I love this place. DU is the best.
I can't sleep because the old brain keeps putting up fire walls. "What am I going to do with all his stuff??" He was king of the pack rats -- everything from cars to ancient manuals about repairing antique sewing machines. "How am I going to do this or that or the other thing, etc?"
Of course, the old brain is avoiding dwelling upon the reality of "I'll never see him again." In the morning I would find him at the kitchen table net surfing the news. Getting my coffee and sitting with him and snark, analyze or rage about what's going on. I'll never tell him again "Hey, the bees are out and the daffodils are starting to bloom." Him telling me the cardinal pair showed up. Just two old folk married forever getting through the day.
Yes, I will get on, but it will never be the same.
Thank you for letting me do a little virtual grieving.
Donkees
(31,417 posts)The famous aviation poem written in 1941 by 19-year-old Pilot Officer John Gillespie Magee Jr, three months before he was killed.
kpete
(71,996 posts)flying_wahini
(6,606 posts)DownriverDem
(6,228 posts)for your loss.
Wounded Bear
(58,666 posts)Blue_playwright
(1,568 posts)Please do post and vent and cry and lean on us.
sarge43
(28,941 posts)I'll lose it during his funeral at NH Veteran's Cemetery. I'll be in uniform and during Taps I'll have to salute. Guarantee the old sarge will have do everything to keep from coming apart.
Thank you for the kind thoughts.
Blue Owl
(50,420 posts)Freedomofspeech
(4,226 posts)Sending you love and peace.
colorado_ufo
(5,734 posts)turbinetree
(24,703 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)Will be thinking of you. And yes life does what it does.
Take care!
farmbo
(3,122 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)bluecollar2
(3,622 posts)onecaliberal
(32,863 posts)BobTheSubgenius
(11,564 posts)You know where we are, if you need us.
virgdem
(2,126 posts)riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)My heat and prayers are for you.
Texin
(2,596 posts)pandr32
(11,588 posts)I am so sorry. I hope you find the strength to navigate through it all and that you have support from family and close friends.
We are here waiting your return.
dlk
(11,569 posts)Sending prayers of comfort and peace to help you through this difficult time.
malthaussen
(17,204 posts)demmiblue
(36,865 posts)cilla4progress
(24,736 posts)Thank you for coming to this community for support and love.
Holding you in my heart!
cate94
(2,811 posts)RIP Jim
Sarge
c-rational
(2,593 posts)Deepest sympathies.
sueh
(1,826 posts)philly_bob
(2,419 posts)A beautiful thought, Sarge. Sorry for your tragedy.
sarge43
(28,941 posts)Like fair winds and following seas for sailors.
Thank you.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,073 posts)Sending you big hugs!
Irish_Dem
(47,131 posts)May he rest in peace.
CAVU into the Wild Blue Yonder.
marieo1
(1,402 posts)OMG,,,,,,,,,,,,Blessings to you and your family..........
Trueblue Texan
(2,430 posts)The last year has been full of this sort of stuff...sorry you're suffering more of it. Peace to you and your family.
yonder
(9,666 posts)myccrider
(484 posts)mountain grammy
(26,623 posts)JohnnyRingo
(18,636 posts)If you need a shoulder, we have many and they're broad.
Sorry for your loss.
Roc2020
(1,616 posts)hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)will have you in our thoughts today and well into the future.
If anything can help with grief, it is the good memories you have of Jim. Please let them bring you peace.