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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsIn a relationship involving a male and female, who usually drives when both are in the car?
PoliticAverse
(26,366 posts)unblock
(51,974 posts)Walleye
(30,723 posts)brewens
(13,398 posts)girls driving young guys around. It's like they don't care if they have a car anymore. I had a GF who's high school aged kid didn't seem to care. He just needed his XBox, but he got with it and is doing well now.
Walleye
(30,723 posts)I had to have one for my work
leftieNanner
(14,998 posts)Female. My husband is a terrible driver. He steers with one hand, sight sees, and had been known to fall asleep in the car.
Kaleva
(36,146 posts)a kennedy
(29,467 posts)Hes always driven, but now, I cant take his driving sooooooooo, guess Im gonna be the driver now. Ugh ..
Kaleva
(36,146 posts)She's on a number of psychiatric medications and riding with her was more thrills and chills then any roller coaster I've ever been on.
AZSkiffyGeek
(10,813 posts)Mainly because she thinks Im too cautious and slow.
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LizBeth
(9,946 posts)Pinback
(12,134 posts)because Id rather her yell at other drivers than at me.
Groundhawg
(517 posts)VarryOn
(2,343 posts)I grew up where my mom drove only because my dad had be under anesthesia or had his eyes dilated. Nowadays, I always drive. I like being in control, I guess.
Grins
(7,134 posts)Youre welcome.
dem4decades
(11,244 posts)Effete Snob
(8,387 posts)Or the sober one
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)Also, I drove in motorcades as part of my job and have been trained to drive. That said, my wife would rather my daughter and my son drive her. She grew up in a 1 car family and there was always a lecture when she asked to take the car, plus, she was often turned down. We only bought our second car when my daughter was born so we could pick up and drop off at daycare limiting her time there. She did not really start to drive much until after our daughter was born and we bought a second car
MissB
(15,800 posts)On long drives we try to split things 50/50- like on a 12 hour drive Ill drive for 6 hours and so will he.
For short trips it is a toss up. My night vision in the rain sucks so thats about the only time I insist on him driving.
Marthe48
(16,692 posts)Let them drive. However, my husband almost always drove and I was his navigator.
Walleye
(30,723 posts)Wingus Dingus
(8,049 posts)I like to read on my phone, play with radio stations, navigate, and look at scenery.
NNadir
(33,368 posts)...if I want her to drive.
When she's awake, and sitting in the passenger seat, she informs me about the danger associated with every other car on the road.
I love her.
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)or worse.
Ferrets are Cool
(21,063 posts)If it's her vehicle, she drives. If it's mine, I drive.
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(51,974 posts)Phentex
(16,330 posts)We have very different vehicles and he tries to drive mine the way he drives his and it makes me crazy. i especially hate the way he veers right and runs off the edge of the road. I also hate that if he drives in the left lane or second to left people pass us on both sides, to the point of cutting off because they are probably pissed he's blocking the lane.
I know how he is going to die and it will be in a car crash.
malthaussen
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hunter
(38,264 posts)My driving strategy is Zen, to be where the other cars and obstacles are not.
It's too slow for her. Sometimes she drives like she's reviewing cars for Road & Track. I don't think her driving is unsafe, it's just not my style.
More than once, early on in our marriage, usually while I was cruising blissfully along with traffic in the slower lanes, she'd begin to clench her fists and say things like "Damn it! Pull over! I'm driving!"
So I'd pull over and she'd drive.
Ohio Joe
(21,656 posts)I drive when we take my car and she drives when we take her car. We both find the views here in Colorado simply spectacular and it is often a 'no, you drive' talk before we go anywhere because we both want to be able to look at the view. Sheesh... Just driving to the supermarket has a few spots where it is simply amazing to see... I've been out here almost ten years now and it still never gets old.
Volaris
(10,260 posts)yellowdogintexas
(22,119 posts)I drive if we are in mine and he drives if we are in his truck.
Exception if we are on a long road trip; then we split it up
sakabatou
(42,083 posts)OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)But I drive if I'm in the car no matter which car it is.
Because she has no desire to drive. She's in her 60s and going to have some cataracts fixed on Wednesday but has hated driving for years and only does it as a last resort when she gotta be somewhere and I'm not there to take her. She won't drive at all if it means she will be driving in the dark. Not even the mile and a half to the grocery store. We hope the eye surgery will help some but she probably still won't want to drive at night.
When her aunt was still alive my wife would drive over there during the day to help her out (Aunt was in early stages of dementia but refused to come live with us because she had been independent for 80 years and wasn't about to stop now!). My wife would go help her clean and cook and take her on her errands and other stuff people need to do but if she stayed long enough that it would be getting dark on her drive home I would go pick her up on my way home from work and then take her to get her car then next morning on my way in to work.