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no_hypocrisy

(46,130 posts)
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 05:46 PM Oct 2021

My goddaughter overdosed and died today.

27 years old, a single mother of a 5 year old.

She struggled for many years with pain and self-medicated. She tried therapy. She tried Jesus. She tried finding a man who would take care of her. But dammit, she tried!

My BFF is her grandfather. He adopted her before she was born b/c his son and girlfriend were planning on abortion. And my friend and his wife (not the grandmother) raised her. Made me part of their family.

She made me smile in many ways. They lived in Lynchburg , VA. She was in HS when the school PA announced that Jerry Falwell died in May of 2007. She jumped up and yelled "Yaaaaaaay!" That was effin' brave considering that Falwell was the de facto King of Lynchburg.

She asked me for advice from time to time. I supported her all the way all the time.

My BFF is going to raise her daughter, his great granddaughter.

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My goddaughter overdosed and died today. (Original Post) no_hypocrisy Oct 2021 OP
very sorry Skittles Oct 2021 #1
How damned tragic. I am so sorry for all involved with this senseless loss. hlthe2b Oct 2021 #2
... Nevilledog Oct 2021 #3
I know that's hard to take. lpbk2713 Oct 2021 #4
Sorry for your loss Marthe48 Oct 2021 #5
I'm so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Oct 2021 #6
I am so sorry. sheshe2 Oct 2021 #7
So very sorry for your loss. She sounds like a wonderful kid Quakerfriend Oct 2021 #8
Sorry SallyHemmings Oct 2021 #9
You have my deepest condolences. Peace be with you. mobeau69 Oct 2021 #10
I'm so sorry. nt Phoenix61 Oct 2021 #11
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😭 LiberalLoner Oct 2021 #12
How heartbreaking mercuryblues Oct 2021 #13
I'm so sorry for everyone Rorey Oct 2021 #14
I'm so sorry for her pain, her daughter's pain, your BFF's pain. And yours. femmedem Oct 2021 #15
I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. This is the bane of additions today, that it grabs loved .. SWBTATTReg Oct 2021 #16
Very sorry 70sEraVet Oct 2021 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Oct 2021 #18
I'm so sorry. That's so hard. Your friend is a prince. Long life to him (especially for her sake)! catrose Oct 2021 #19
I am so very sorry for your loss and that of all the family and loved ones Tanuki Oct 2021 #20
This is so heartbreaking. May she finally find peace. All the best for her daughter and grandfather Fla Dem Oct 2021 #21
I'm very sorry for your loss. brer cat Oct 2021 #22
I'm SO sorry. My BFF's 24-year-old grandson died of an overdose in July. Fentanyl was the cause in deurbano Oct 2021 #23
I'm very sorry for you loss dlk Oct 2021 #24
I am so sorry for your loss, for your BFF's loss, and for this young woman's pain and smirkymonkey Oct 2021 #25
My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Oct 2021 #26
Condolences on the loss of your goddaughter. gademocrat7 Oct 2021 #27
My deepest condolences on this incredibly sad loss. May she, and all she left behind, niyad Oct 2021 #28
Aw damn. calimary Oct 2021 #29
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Oct 2021 #30
I'm so sorry. barbtries Oct 2021 #31
Life can suck. TallMike Oct 2021 #32
I am so so sorry for your loss 🕯️I grieve for her child and those who loved her irisblue Oct 2021 #33
I'm sorry. JoeOtterbein Oct 2021 #34
Prayers and hugs to you and your extended family FakeNoose Oct 2021 #35
I'm So Sorry. Deep State Witch Oct 2021 #36
So tragic pandr32 Oct 2021 #37
I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and her family tulipsandroses Oct 2021 #38
Deepest sympathy GeoWilliam750 Oct 2021 #39
Very sad. Condolences to you and your BFF. nt spooky3 Oct 2021 #40
I am so very sorry for the loss of your goddaughter. lucca18 Oct 2021 #41
I'm so sorry. yardwork Oct 2021 #42
no_hypocrisy...... Upthevibe Oct 2021 #43
I'm so sorry for your and your friend's loss. Ocelot II Oct 2021 #44
Saddened to read this. mwmisses4289 Oct 2021 #45
Such a tragedy. summer_in_TX Oct 2021 #46
I am so saddened to read this. I'm Ilsa Oct 2021 #47
This is a tragedy. I wish I had the words. marble falls Oct 2021 #48
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Oct 2021 #49
Condolences wryter2000 Oct 2021 #50
My godson did of an overdose on March 12, 2020 Danmel Oct 2021 #51
I am so sorry for this tragedy. murielm99 Oct 2021 #52
So sorry for your loss KT2000 Oct 2021 #53
Unfortunately, it was purely emotional pain. no_hypocrisy Oct 2021 #55
That's horrible. I'm so sorry to hear this, and sorry also for your loss. NurseJackie Oct 2021 #54
I'm so sorry 😣 nt live love laugh Oct 2021 #56
This message was self-deleted by its author 3auld6phart Oct 2021 #57
Sorry to hear of your loss. Blessings to you and her family. RestoreAmerica2020 Oct 2021 #58
Sorry to hear of your loss. Blessings to you and her family. RestoreAmerica2020 Oct 2021 #59
I am so sorry. whathehell Oct 2021 #60

Skittles

(153,169 posts)
1. very sorry
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 05:47 PM
Oct 2021

addiction is a terrible thing, and something really needs to be done about how chronic pain can be handled

SallyHemmings

(1,822 posts)
9. Sorry
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 05:54 PM
Oct 2021

This is awful. Addiction is a disease that far too many people simply don't understand.

I wish you, your BFF and his family all the love and strength for the days ahead.

SWBTATTReg

(22,143 posts)
16. I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. This is the bane of additions today, that it grabs loved ..
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 06:12 PM
Oct 2021

family members, friends, neighbors, etc. and doesn't let them go very easily, and often times, only in death. Very rarely over the years I have had friends who have beaten back the addition demons, and then went on to far better lives. My best to your goddaughter's family in their time of grief, and my best to you too, for you in your time of grief. I'm sure that you are a beacon of light in their lives, they are lucky to have you at their side. Take care be be safe.

Tanuki

(14,919 posts)
20. I am so very sorry for your loss and that of all the family and loved ones
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 06:22 PM
Oct 2021

of your dear goddaughter. One of my cousins lost a young adult son in similar circumstances and I understand the heartbreak. May she rest in peace. I know you will be there for the family. Bless all of you now and in the days ahead.

Fla Dem

(23,692 posts)
21. This is so heartbreaking. May she finally find peace. All the best for her daughter and grandfather
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 06:28 PM
Oct 2021

I'm sorry you also are feeling sadness and loss. Peace to you.

deurbano

(2,895 posts)
23. I'm SO sorry. My BFF's 24-year-old grandson died of an overdose in July. Fentanyl was the cause in
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 06:35 PM
Oct 2021

his case. (I don't know what he thought he was getting, but definitely not that much fentanyl; it was more of a murder than an accidental overdose.)

It's so hard when we have known them as children, and have seen who they really are and might have become. My friend's grandson tried really hard, too. People with addiction issues need more effective support than we currently are providing.

My deepest condolences.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
25. I am so sorry for your loss, for your BFF's loss, and for this young woman's pain and
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 06:47 PM
Oct 2021

struggle during her short life. I am sorry for the suffering all the way around. My condolences for everyone she left behind.

May she rest in peace and may your hearts be healed some day.

TallMike

(161 posts)
32. Life can suck.
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 07:09 PM
Oct 2021

I get it. Going through it myself right now. Not the first time. Most likely not he last. My lifestyle brings me into contact with many, many addicts, rape victims, survivors of beatings and a shit load of fucked up vets from recent wars/campaigns as well my brothers from vietnam. Shit my father served in korea. He was 95 in september and still drives.
But I digress...
As someone who cycles through this fucking shit myself, who also has a very difficult time expressing it to those who are loved the most, the significant few who gain trust through years of trite suedo-trust- testing yet still remain, is sometimes times the hardest. Got fucked over by one of 20 years just last monday. Boo f'ing hoo...
Your BFF is a doghammed hero. So are you.
Love your LIFE!

JoeOtterbein

(7,702 posts)
34. I'm sorry.
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 07:53 PM
Oct 2021

My baby-sister's baby died the same way, young with a five-year-old son, overdosed two years ago next month.

(tears)

pandr32

(11,588 posts)
37. So tragic
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 08:16 PM
Oct 2021

I hope her little girl will be given so much love that she will feel secure and safe. So sorry for your loss.

We are just now watching 'Dopesick' on Hulu--regarding the Purdue pharma deliberate push of the dangerous drug on the innocent. Evil bloody people and to think they wanted to saturate the world with it.

If that 5 year old girl needs secret admirers/pen-pals/friends just let us know. We would be happy to send her holiday presents and cards. Growing up is tough.

summer_in_TX

(2,739 posts)
46. Such a tragedy.
Mon Oct 18, 2021, 11:52 PM
Oct 2021

I am so sorry for your heartbreak and that of your BFF, for her little girl, for the hopes and dreams that died with her, and for your BFF whose own plans and dreams have been shattered as well.

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
47. I am so saddened to read this. I'm
Tue Oct 19, 2021, 11:00 AM
Oct 2021

sorry she was in so much pain, and left so much pain for those who loved her.

Danmel

(4,916 posts)
51. My godson did of an overdose on March 12, 2020
Tue Oct 19, 2021, 12:27 PM
Oct 2021

The son of a dear friend. He battled addiction for more than 10 years. He was just 28 when he bought some fentanyl laced heroin.
I do my best to remember good things about him and exorcise the image of him in a casket and his mother's primal wail.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I sympathize and send love and hopes for healing and comfort. We need to remove the stigma and work to get access to treatment to prevent future tragedies.

murielm99

(30,745 posts)
52. I am so sorry for this tragedy.
Tue Oct 19, 2021, 12:42 PM
Oct 2021

I know that it does not help you personally to know that this is all too common.

KT2000

(20,584 posts)
53. So sorry for your loss
Tue Oct 19, 2021, 01:29 PM
Oct 2021

and so sorry a young woman has lost her life. I am guessing she needed more help from the medical system than they were willing to give, as in adequate pain relief.

no_hypocrisy

(46,130 posts)
55. Unfortunately, it was purely emotional pain.
Tue Oct 19, 2021, 02:08 PM
Oct 2021

I spent time last night re-reading her FB posts. Just anguish . . . . .

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