Why are introverts encouraged to speak up, but extroverts aren't told to

[Floyd R. Turbo]

shut up?

[bucolic_frolic]

1. Since extroverts are the only ones speaking, you wouldn't expect them to discipline their own

[Floyd R. Turbo]

3. Ah ha!

[Clash City Rocker]

2. Oh, I think they're told that often

[KarenS]

4. indeed. n/t

[Floyd R. Turbo]

5. 😁

[EYESORE 9001]

6. Our society places value on extroversion

and hints at pathology among the introverted. It’s wrong, of course, and adds to hurdles society must overcome to be more equitable.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

7. 🤔

[area51]

11. This. n/t

[CentralMass]

8. ...

[Floyd R. Turbo]

9. 😁

[Coventina]

10. I'VE BEEN ASKING THAT QUESTION ALL MY LIFE!

Sorry, I haven't taken my meds yet.....

[Floyd R. Turbo]

13. 💊💊

[smirkymonkey]

20. Same here! And I ask myself, in my head, especially in work meetings, just why the f**k certain

people can't ever come up for air. Especially when the meeting is supposed to end and they just keep yakking away like they are oblivious to the fact that the rest of us are rolling our eyes and getting restless and can't wait to get out of there. No situational awareness at all.

[a kennedy]

12. Not that I'm an extrovert, but when I was in dental assisting school I was told to try

and talk a little quieter as I have a voice that carries. Needless to say people remember me because of my voice even if they haven’t seen me for years.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

14. 🤫

[highplainsdem]

15. Because then we'd explain WHY we're speaking up.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

16. 🤗

[cbabe]

17. You can learn more by listening.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
by Susan Cain (Goodreads Author)

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The book that started the Quiet Revolution

At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams. It is to introverts—Rosa Parks, Chopin, Dr. Seuss, Steve Wozniak—that we owe many of the great contributions to society.

In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so. She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture. She also introduces us to successful introverts—from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Passionately argued, superbly researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how they see themselves. (More)

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[Floyd R. Turbo]

18. 👍🏻

[malthaussen]

19. Assuming you're serious...

... the tendency of social pressure is to force people to act within a narrow range of behaviors. Extroversion is the default and preferred state and introversion is the outlier, therefore the introverts are persecuted and the extroverts praised.

Now, if you'd like to discuss why extroversion is the preferred state, we can do that, but it's a depressing topic.

-- Mal

[smirkymonkey]

21. I don't know, but they should be told.

Some people just can't stand it when they aren't the center of attention, I guess. My manager is pretty long winded and it drives me insane. I just want to tell him, "Ok, got it! You can stop now!"