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Related: Culture Forums, Support Forums"I think I'll shower without the shower chair," he says
"The HELL you will!"
Not cleared for weight bearing yet, and the shower gets slippery.
I swear, it's like having a toddler in the house. Turn my back, and he's likely to do something he shouldn't.
LuckyCharms
(17,460 posts)I break out in a cold sweat before I enter the shower. Feels like I'm going to the gas chamber.
Hope he's feeling better soon!
a kennedy
(29,711 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,460 posts)shower downstairs, and a typical fiberglass shower up stairs.
Wife uses downstairs, I use upstairs, because old habits are hard to break.
The downstairs one has a floor that isn't slippery, grab bars, two shower heads, etc.
However, on the upstairs one, I wanted to mount grab bars, but it's very problematic because the shell of the shower sits a good inch and a half away from the wall, and though they make devices that allow you to hopefully mount a grab bar into a stud, I can't find the damn studs easily without a lot of work, and if I miss, I'm left with a two inch hole in shower.
So I mounted those suction cup grab bars in there. They are a rather poor alternative because they will not support my weight, but they do help a lot for balance.
The shower is bigger than a normal shower stall, but not by much. There's two "seats" in the shower, but it looks like they were made for toddler. I do not have an especially large butt, but there's no way I'm going to try to sit on those. I'm not sure how well a shower seat will fit in there. also, I'm having a lot of trepidation with purchasing one, because my wife is unable to explain to me how you wash your butt while sitting in one, even though I pose the question to her daily...several times each day.
To top it off, there's some really nice looking sliding glass doors on this shower. I remember when I bought them, I asked if I would die if I fell through them. The response was "Well, maybe". So of course, I bought the doors!
I fell in the bathroom last month and crashed through a closet door. While standing at the sink washing my hands. I tend to throw myself involuntarily to the ground frequently.
So taking a shower is a challenge, and I don't back down from challenges.
Just taking a shower downstairs would be the right solution, but that's too easy.
That being said, I'm very happy that your husband views things like this in the way that a normal person would, and I'm glad he likes the chair!
MissMillie
(38,582 posts)He's only at 50% weight bearing at this point.
a kennedy
(29,711 posts)Hips are a tad easier to deal with then knees ..but still, a huge operation. 🙏🏻 👍🏻 ♥️
LuckyCharms
(17,460 posts)I'm seeing my primary care tomorrow about a hip problem aggravated by a recent fall. I can't imagine it being broken, but I sure as heck did something to my tailbone/hip.
Sounds like you're doing a good job keeping him in line. Good for you! Keep it up.
And in all seriousness, I'll tell you what I think the issue may be. A lot of men, including myself, refuse to listen to their bodies, and refuse to admit they are getting older. We fight against it. We fight against doing the sane and safe thing. Because sometimes, the thought of getting older is unbearable.
I'm not sure if this happens with women as well, but in any case, it's a bad way to be, and personally, I hate that I'm like this, and he probably does too. He irrationally fights it. I know it makes no sense, but...
leftieNanner
(15,160 posts)One last October and one in January.
Did your husband have anterior or posterior surgery?
I'm sorry he's struggling. It will get better!