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Deeply in my threat system cause we know a 2nd year anniversary is coming up. I was taking time off this week for self care and a government agency has decided to do an audit. I am fragile and battling. I had to cancel my holiday, and they are on me, over every thing. I am so anxious. Might you help me? Just some virtual hugs seems like a plan if you have the time.
SWBTATTReg
(22,129 posts)XanaDUer2
(10,680 posts)ms liberty
(8,578 posts)hlthe2b
(102,283 posts)KarenS
(4,078 posts)Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)alwaysinasnit
(5,066 posts)Maraya1969
(22,482 posts)you have gone through on here and you always come out on top!
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)But it is so hard right now. My therapist last night said you have done the worst case scenario and have survived. This is OK. But my leave was cancelled cause they wanted to come in and I had put time aside to grieve, I can get through this, but it is so hard.
Haggis 4 Breakfast
(1,454 posts)and you have indeed been hugged-mugged by many of us, if only in spirit.
We were audited by the IRS once, about 15 years ago. They claimed that the ranch we had back then - with about 30 animals - was a "hobby farm." As if having to muck, rake, feed, water, play Junior Veteranarian, assist in copulation, aid mums in birth and agonize over death with three dozen critters, was a "hobby." Fortunately, I kept an excellent, detailed ledger of every dime spent, as well as time spent at this "hobby" of ours. It took three days of our lives, having to explain the intricacies of ranch life, animal anatomy and biology, pharmacology, etc. to a man who had JUST gotten hired by the IRS and knew next to nothing about his new job. Once through that delightful experience, I can commiserate with anyone else undergoing such an endeavor.
You will get through this, Soph. My advice ? Take it one segment of time at a time. Contend with what is in front of you at the moment until it's over. But don't leap ahead. It can be exhaustive.
Cheers (and a healthy drab of Glenmorangie) to you. We'll be here to listen.
All the best.
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a kennedy
(29,669 posts)rubbersole
(6,691 posts)magicarpet
(14,154 posts).... sending a bunch your way.....
Ocelot II
(115,719 posts)spicysista
(1,663 posts)Anon-C
(3,430 posts)I feel you. And I am sorry. This week I'm focusing how I allow my unhappiness and (in other's eyes at least) my weakness to affect others and I'm trying to work on that. I'm done trying to justify my self care, I'm here and I have worked hard to still be here to understand and build a better life day by day. To do and be better. We are far from perfect, to be sure.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Soph0571
(9,685 posts)He is gone and I can't even, while I have to do this work bollocks. I don't know what to do.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Any chance you can take a timd out? Day(s) off for intensive self-care / spa day / time in nature?
Self-care is so important.
Do deep breathing. Blow out stress with each exhalation.
Walleye
(31,027 posts)catbyte
(34,393 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,457 posts)PortTack
(32,771 posts): loveya:
Xoan
(25,321 posts)pandr32
(11,586 posts)sheshe2
(83,773 posts)Healing vibes.
Collimator
(1,639 posts)Turk and J.D. from Scrubs. What a shame most grown men cannot be unabashedly crazy about their best friends.
To Soph: I want to wish you the very best. For whatever it may be worth, you are seen and your humanity and struggles are validated. May you find solid ground to stand upon within your spirit.
I hope there is someone in your life who can offer you warm arms and a steady shoulder even for a moment. You deserve support and comfort.
brer cat
(24,567 posts)Cosmo Blues
(2,486 posts)To give you as many hugs as it takes for you to decompress.. My habit now when the day is done, a little wine, a little grass, and on particularly stressful days comedies on TV
gademocrat7
(10,658 posts)of hugs and good vibes. Take care. We are with you.
bluescribbler
(2,117 posts)CanonRay
(14,103 posts)and there are direct flights London to Portland if you want the real thing!
2naSalit
(86,636 posts)iluvtennis
(19,861 posts)pazzyanne
(6,556 posts)ancianita
(36,060 posts)Lonestarblue
(9,998 posts)Sometimes, just putting one foot down after the other is all you can do, but youre still moving forward no matter how slowly. Hang in there. The DU community is with you.
Evolve Dammit
(16,736 posts)2 Meow Momma
(6,682 posts)littlemissmartypants
(22,680 posts)multigraincracker
(32,685 posts)I've had some really bad things turn into the best when the the dust settled. Im pulling for you.
Scrivener7
(50,950 posts)Lunabell
(6,082 posts)I wish you well and am sending you my heartfelt positive vibes and thoughts. Good luck with what you are going through and I hope you get an outcome that is beneficial.
IrishAfricanAmerican
(3,816 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,430 posts)This is the third time Ive tried to post this, so triple the hugs and love, darlin!!
duhneece
(4,113 posts)Coming your way from La Luz
BumRushDaShow
(129,053 posts)Sending those good vibes across that big pond!!!
TheBlackAdder
(28,204 posts).
And a hug. Audits aren't nice, and then there's the weeks of follow-up questions. Grrr.
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Leith
(7,809 posts)I've been having a bad time recently, too. Between about 5 panic attacks in the past couple of weeks (due to several smallish things going wrong at once and my inability to make them right), the onset of seasonal affective disorder, and the opposite of any emotional support, it's been a rough ride.
I hope that things go well for you. I enjoy your posts here and you seem like a terrific person. Please accept a virtual hug from me.
All the best to you.
XanaDUer2
(10,680 posts)Hope you're doing better
rurallib
(62,416 posts)and are here for you!
livetohike
(22,144 posts)peace .
irisblue
(32,975 posts)femmedem
(8,203 posts)I lost someone very dear to me over twenty years ago, and I remember how hard it was to handle the simplest aspects of everyday life, much less an audit.
cate94
(2,811 posts)Skittles
(153,164 posts)we are here for you
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,627 posts)Hope it will get better very soon!
c-rational
(2,593 posts)majdrfrtim
(318 posts)Please be gentle with yourself.
TFRD
(205 posts)💜🤗💜
tfr
barbtries
(28,797 posts)I just went through a terrible anniversary and it was really hard, but i did get through, so will you
dawn5651
(604 posts)you really needed your vacation...will be thinking of you over the next little while....stay strong....
Aristus
(66,380 posts)Were with you, Soph.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Stressing over something thats happening to you can be paralyzing. What I do in these situations is tell myself, I can do this. Repeat it as you see fit. I dont know why but it works!
area51
(11,909 posts)berniesandersmittens
(11,343 posts)(((((((( ))))))))