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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsA text from our younger son that I will cherish forever.
About an hour ago, my husband and I each got this text message from our younger son. He is 31, a self=employed photographer/videographer, and has been married to a delightful young lady since September 8th, 2022.
Thinking a lot about you guys today and how much you've done for me and allowed me to do growing up. I hope you know how much I appreciate you both. Love you!
What more could a parent hope to hear?
debm55
(25,453 posts)appleannie1
(5,070 posts)One of my step daughters once called me after she was an adult and said "Mom, as a teenager, I used to think you were too strict. Now I am just grateful that you were. I don't think I could ever cope with the battles of real life or a budget, had it not been that you had the strength to keep me on the straight and narrow and teach me survivor skills needed for everyday life. So Thank You". The others usually write thinks along those line in the cards I get on special days and in the many phone calls I get from them. So I guess somewhere along the line, I did something right.
MOMFUDSKI
(5,677 posts)You have a good kid.
nevergiveup
(4,764 posts)it doesn't get much better than this. You both obviously have done very good and should be very proud. .
Lonestarblue
(10,086 posts)LymphocyteLover
(5,654 posts)I long for the day when my son sends me that sort of message (and is independent and married)
captain queeg
(10,252 posts)I guess these kind of messages dont come too often so you want to cherish them.
SunSeeker
(51,728 posts)Niagara
(7,675 posts)What an amazing son that you both raised!
LoisB
(7,234 posts)Obviously, you and your husband did a great parenting job.
AllaN01Bear
(18,443 posts)blm
(113,101 posts)🥰
Chicagogrl1
(421 posts)Hope22
(1,870 posts)Well done mom and dad!😁💗💗💗
bobnicewander
(810 posts)you put out is coming back to you. Life doesn't get any better!
shrike3
(3,803 posts)Then, when Brother was in medical school, he called Dad and thanked him. "You taught me how to work." MADE him work, actually, but I digress. "My classmates just hung out and played video games (while they were young.) They don't understand how I can sit down, work hard, get it done, then have a life. Takes them all day to do what I can do. But it's because of you (Dad) making me work, you gave me a work ethic."
marble falls
(57,275 posts)... that have served me well:
1. The first machine I needed to master was the time clock. "Even a dummy can show up on time ready to work."
2. He told me doing a crap job out of being lazy was a mistake, I'd just have to do it again, that he was lazy and that the best way to get past work was to do the job quickly but correctly.
shrike3
(3,803 posts)FailureToCommunicate
(14,023 posts)When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around.
But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.
Kudos to both of you!
iluvtennis
(19,876 posts)twodogsbarking
(9,822 posts)cab67
(3,009 posts)"Oh, and by the way - we won the lottery, and I'm giving all of the winnings to you!"
(Crude attempt at humor. What you received really is lovely.)
cab67
(3,009 posts)"Oh, and by the way - we won the lottery, and I'm giving all of the winnings to you!"
(Crude attempt at humor. What you received really is lovely.)
yes - I know I double posted. Trying to delete this one.
marble falls
(57,275 posts)OldBaldy1701E
(5,162 posts)malaise
(269,188 posts)What really matters 😀
Lilaclady
(71 posts)That is definitely something to cherish. I wrote a letter to my mother in 1974. My 8 yr old daughter had just said when she grew up she wanted to be like me. It brought tears to my eyes and I thought Had I ever told my mother how much I appreciated her? I know I verbalized it, but did I ever sincerely explain to her why? I didnt even remember the letter until this past August. My mother died in June at the age of 100. I attended her birthday but was not well enough to travel to attend the funeral. I was able to watch through FaceTime. When my daughter brought some things home to me from my mothers house they included the letter I had written to her from 1974. It had been in the original envelope in one of her drawers all those years. I now have it in a keepsake binder. I miss talking with her.
Goddessartist
(1,881 posts)then that. So very sweet and heart filling!
marble falls
(57,275 posts)CrispyQ
(36,527 posts)Years ago I read some parenting "expert" column in the Sunday paper, but something he wrote made great sense to me. You're not raising a child, you're raising an adult. He expanded a bit on that, but the crux of it really hit home with me. I don't have kids, but I thought it was a proper perspective on parenting.
3catwoman3
(24,054 posts)...our two sons once said that your job as a parent is to civilize your kids so other people can stand them. That is, for sure, part of the job.