So I finally filed to get the squatter out of the Mother in Law section of my house!

[Maraya1969]

Last edited Thu Mar 21, 2024, 10:59 AM - Edit history (1)

I had hired a guy to do some work back in Oct that was needed from Hurricane Ian. (It was so hard to get anyone to work) He found out I had a mother in law section and asked to move in in exchange for the work and I thought it was a great idea. But he also moved a woman in with him.

After a couple weeks I could not stand the guy and told him to leave. He did but the woman stayed. And I told her she could stay because I found out that she was homeless and I thought it wouldn't hurt anything.

But let me tell you something about this woman. First she has never, once ever said, "Thank you" for anything. And she is a bitch of the first order. She has been here since Oct and I at first tried to help her with a bunch of things. I have since found out she is a prostitute and has had men come into my house to service them AND found them coming out of my shower.

A couple days ago I heard the shower running in the morning again. I also have an issue with my shower from someone that I rented to who was taking 2 showers a day, each 1/2 hour and I ended up having to have my septic tanks pumped out 3 times in the year she was here!

So I opened the door, (which I did very infrequently because she would scream at me) and it was her this time in the shower. I think I was so fucking mad by this time that I wanted her to lose it but in the end I lost it and there was an altercation with me getting kind of out of control with her.

So that was it. I finally got the initial papers. It cost me about $350 and it may cost more. I am still confused about the process. (They had me address an envelop that will come to my house, (she does not get mail here) and I have to give it to her. I am not quite sure how it works after that and I am so damn tired of it all I don't want to read the rest of the papers.

I am reminded of that old saying, "No good deed going unpunished" I'm glad she has become a first class bitch because I do not feel guilty about making her leave now. Up until about a month ago I felt bad about throwing someone out.

I don't think I have ever felt so used. I read that this is happening a lot lately and it happens with rentals. So you have to be very careful now. I am going to put in some sort of not to expensive security system.


EDIT - Amazingly a sheriff's officer was here to give her some sort of notice this morning. Not at all what I thought was supposed to happen. The sheriff told me not to go in there or have any contact with her and that it should only be a couple days before they are back to tell her too get out. Of course she was screaming, telling them that she has some legal report against me and blah blah. And there was a cardboard box in the lawn almost to the road that had been there for a couple days and I took the opportunity to try to get it and put it in recyclables and she yelled then about how it was hers. There is junk in the lanai and from what I have seen she has never once cleaned the kitchen floor. I could hear here a little bit after a while and she was complaining about how she can't get a place to live, which is true. But damn if you want someone to help you you should at least say, "Thank you" and offer to help in the yard or something. She hasn't just stolen a place to live she acts like she deserves to be there!

I am looking forward to her being gone and then starting the process of cleaning and making the place nice. I was also told to get new locks and maybe a security system.

[Afrocat]

1. Good Luck

I have no idea how long it takes for something like this to work its way through the system but I hope its works out relatively quickly.

[AZSkiffyGeek]

2. I have a couple friends who have been burned by squatters

Unfortunately tenants rights can be abused - and the ones who abuse them know exactly what they can get away with. My one friend ended up being unable to remove his sub letter and ended up moving and forcing her to take over the lease. But there was a good year of legal wrangling trying to evict her before he got resolution.

[moniss]

3. Years ago I worked for a moving company

who did evictions. Each state is different but in mine the cops notify the moving company to be at such and such address at a time and date. The cops are there when you arrive in the truck. The cops go in, force the door if needed, and inform the person they are being evicted. Prior to this of course there are paper notices given to them. The cops usually give them a couple of minutes to get their immediate belongings like a purse etc. but they are not waiting for a bunch of time while you "pack" or make phone calls for arrangements etc. Get your bag and then they escort the evicted one out physically if necessary. The other cops on the scene see to it there is no interference with what comes next.

The next thing is the cop in charge comes out to the moving crew and describes what they have inside for moving. Usually pretty much junk etc. and clutter. Then we go in and haul everything out. The clutter and stuff is just tossed into garbage bags and loaded in the truck with anything else. Then everything goes back to a storage locker. After eviction the one evicted is told where their stuff is and they have to pay the storage fees. If they don't, then based on the laws for that state, after a certain amount of time the moving company puts a notice in the paper that the crap belonging to John and/or Jane Doe is going to be sold for storage costs.

Sometimes people are stupid enough to go back to where they've been evicted and try to get in or raise hell. So be sure to change the locks immediately that same day as the eviction. If the person is stupid enough to come back and give you problems a call to the cops will land them in jail in a heartbeat. At least in my state that's how it goes. Working evictions is horrible with people screaming, crying cussing, making verbal threats etc. The conditions inside are usually horrendous as well. I remember one where we had to stand in the hall and take a deep breath and hold it and then open the door and run inside with a garbage bag and scoop up what you could until you couldn't hold your breath any longer and you had to get out. The combination of garbage, old newspapers/magazines, left over rotted food etc. was overpowering when combined with a bathroom with a stopped up toilet that hadn't worked in months, a shower that took the place of the toilet etc. But state law in my state says you have to grab it all within reason. So you can't just not pick up the papers/magazines that are a foot deep in the living room and whatever is there is going to be grabbed up when you scoop with your gloved hand. I made minimum wage for that job. Thankfully I was able to move on.

[JoseBalow]

4. Sometimes all you need is gentle persuasion

[Maraya1969]

7. I kind of tried that and that's why I ended up going to the court house and filing.

A cop was just here to tell her she had X amount of days to get out and even she told me not to go in there be I would be breaking the law somehow. I actually thought if I could make it uncomfortable for her she would leave but I have found out that She Has Rights in my damn house!

[Fla Dem]

5. I don't understand. Does she have a signed lease?

If not why can't you just tell her to get out and if she doesn't have the police come to remove her? I'm very naive about this type of situation, so please excuse me if this is a dumb question.

But I would just tell her she has to be out in X number of days and then you're changing the locks and putting all her stuff outside and reporting her for prostitution. Finally tell her if she tries to break in you'll call the cops and have her arrested.

[Maraya1969]

6. Unfortunately there are now, "squatter's rights" She has no lease and has never given me a penny

Like I said this guy was going to do work around my house and asked if he could stay in that mother-in-law side and I said OK. He brought her. I told him to leave and he left but she didn't. It all started in Oct. I told her initially that she could stay because she was homeless and I felt bad for her. But now she is like a monster and I don't feel one bit bad about putting her out on the street. If she wants help from people she needs to learn how to be a little bit of a nice person.

[Fla Dem]

11. Thank you for the explanation. Another situation similar to yours posted today in General Discussions

Just doesn't seem right that a person who owns the property cannot evict someone that does not have a lease or signed agreement. What the heck!

NY homeowner arrested after changing locks on alleged squatters, report says
When officers arrived, they asked the men to prove their resident status. While Andaloro had the property deed in hand, neither individual could present leasing documents to back up their claims.

One man showed the outlet bills for work he claimed to have done to the house. He also claimed to have moved into the house with the help of a realtor, but would not name that individual. Officers then escorted the two men out.

After that encounter, Andaloro reportedly called a locksmith to change the locks on the house. Minutes after having the locks changed, the two men returned and called police, reportedly saying Andaloro had illegally evicted them.

https://democraticunderground.com/100218797355

More at link.

[Fla Dem]

10. Deleted Duplicate post.

[Marthe48]

8. My neighbor

let her son move in and by it did not work out. He was an abusive alcoholic and treated her terrible. She called the law, and he told them she was batty, so they took his side. We told the same cops that she wasn't batty and told them things we had witnessed. But they still took the son's side. I helped her file a complaint with elder abuse and that worked differently than how I thought it would work. She ended up talking to an elder abuse counselor while he continued to live with her, so the office just basically monitored her situation. She ended up selling the house and moving to a smaller place because it was the only way she could get him out.

So I wish you good luck. You sound like a nice person who doesn't deserve this.

[Maraya1969]

9. That is just horrible! I hope she is happy where she moved.

And thank you for your kind words. That saying, "No good deed goes unpunished" kept popping up in my mind yesterday.

[Marthe48]

12. It has been several years, and she loves her new place

I miss her as a neighbor, but we stay in touch. She is part of my morning text circle

The son has improved his lifestyle, not sure if it'll last this time.

[Aristus]

13. Sounds like the problem I had with my grandson and his significant other.

I adore my grandson, and was happy when he moved in with us back in 2021. It was only supposed to be for a few weeks. Then he moved his SO in with us, and same problems: Never a thank you, and lots of long hot showers running up the bill. They stayed for nearly three years.

They finally moved out late last year. Mrs. Aristus and I are still thrilled to have our house to ourselves again.

[Maraya1969]

14. It seems like sometimes not having to be responsible breeds itself and people get worse, not better

I think I mentioned that had this woman been nice and maybe even thanked me once I might not have gotten to this point because I don't use that side anyway and I thought originally I was just helping someone. But she developed an attitude that she deserved to be there and was just a nasty bitch so now I do not feel bad that she may end up on the street again.

[XanaDUer2]

15. Our exp at my last job

There were many homeless. Many were decent ppl who hit a few bumps in the road of life, fell on hard times, and were doing their best.

One shelter wanted residents to be responsible and work a 3 crummy hrs a week volunteering to do something. You sign off on their paperwork, as proof. Our big job at the library was dusting a few books. Nothing strenous and we were very lenient. But there were some homeless who absolutely rudely refused to do this one thing 3 HOURS A WEEK, FFS. They were rude and abusive and demanded staff sign the paperwork even if they didn't dust or do anything.

I was so burned out Id end up signing the fucking paper to make them go away.

There are lots of ppl you can bend over to help. And they'll still shit on you. They've probably alienated friends and family. This woman should have thanked you constantly. But she just accepted you PROVIDING HER A HOME like you owed it to her. And you finally got tired of it and, rightfully, got rid of her ungrateful ass. Good for you.

[XanaDUer2]

16. Kick nt

[XanaDUer2]

17. Kick for setting boundaries nt

[red dog 1]

18. New locks and a security system sounds like a good idea.

Good luck!