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Omaha Steve

(106,480 posts)
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:32 PM Apr 2025

I was diagnoised in 2013...


I have frontotemporal dementia: https://www.theaftd.org/what-is-ftd/disease-overview/

It is getting worse. I saw my doctor Friday. He decided it is time to take a driving test. That will be Thursday after noon.

https://www.theaftd.org/posts/uncategorized/driving-and-ftd/

I will check in with the results. Wish me luck.

OS

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I was diagnoised in 2013... (Original Post) Omaha Steve Apr 2025 OP
I wish you the best Shellback Squid Apr 2025 #1
Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 2025 #59
I'm sorry to hear it is progressing, Omaha Steve. Truly. And I wish you all the luck I can find... hlthe2b Apr 2025 #2
Oh man. Scary news. MontanaMama Apr 2025 #3
Good luck in your driving test. magicarpet Apr 2025 #4
thinking about giving up driving CountAllVotes Apr 2025 #5
Be sure to NEVER use cruise control if pavement is damp or wet. Attilatheblond Apr 2025 #50
Thanks for the advice CountAllVotes Apr 2025 #73
Understand completely Attilatheblond Apr 2025 #77
Best of luck to you! KT2000 Apr 2025 #6
You have done remarkably well jmbar2 Apr 2025 #7
golf cart. my family had one for a while. just a thought Tetrachloride Apr 2025 #8
The family at the top of the hill uses one in the neighborhood, especially as the dad's health declined Hekate Apr 2025 #53
I'm using Uber more often. Costco occasionally has Uber deals. I'll take an Uber to the train station, and AnotherMother4Peace Apr 2025 #58
You are taking this well. 1WorldHope Apr 2025 #9
Immanuel Rehabilitation Institute Omaha Steve Apr 2025 #12
Well, good luck. That is a more thorough test compared to 15 min with the dmv tester. 1WorldHope Apr 2025 #13
3 hours? Akakoji Apr 2025 #36
I wondered this too. An in-depth assessment TommyT139 Apr 2025 #80
I was about to say DFW Apr 2025 #94
You can't tell it from your posts. Good luck! 👍🍀 surfered Apr 2025 #10
My Exact Sentiments DallasNE Apr 2025 #23
Count me in on that comment too. I enjoy his valuable voice here. Nt lostnfound Apr 2025 #75
thanks for the brief education on this OS peacebuzzard Apr 2025 #11
That is a beautiful and heartfelt tale of your own. Thank you for sharing. erronis Apr 2025 #21
thank you! it is a minor freak out of mine when I forget things, peacebuzzard Apr 2025 #63
Praying you do well. My husband had to quit driving recently; I understand what a Ziggysmom Apr 2025 #14
Wishing you the best of luck! jgo Apr 2025 #15
Holding you in light and love, my friend. niyad Apr 2025 #16
Keep checking because I swear I have heard recently that they have made strides in these Maraya1969 Apr 2025 #17
Best wishes Omaha Steve. You got this 😍 Evolve Dammit Apr 2025 #18
Good luck, OS gademocrat7 Apr 2025 #19
Wishing you the best, Steve. As others here have already said, no one reading your posts would ever highplainsdem Apr 2025 #20
Best of luck 🤞 I hope you will be ok 🙏 TommieMommy Apr 2025 #22
You've got this, Steve! no_hypocrisy Apr 2025 #24
I like this for a mantra. peacebuzzard Apr 2025 #65
Oooooh, I like that too! calimary Apr 2025 #89
Good luck 🫂 benfranklin1776 Apr 2025 #25
Best of luck Duncanpup Apr 2025 #26
As someone above stated, you are a D.U. treasure. 3Hotdogs Apr 2025 #27
I wish you luck. barbtries Apr 2025 #28
Best of luck to you! SheltieLover Apr 2025 #29
Omaha Steve, I'm sending you all the luck I can find, along with a lot of positive thoughts. Dem2theMax Apr 2025 #30
Good luck and take care of yourself. multigraincracker Apr 2025 #31
I really wish you the best. May the good angels of The Universe stay by your side. LoisB Apr 2025 #32
For so many years BComplex Apr 2025 #33
I wish you the very best Steve JMCKUSICK Apr 2025 #34
I wish you love and luck.Omaha Steve. debm55 Apr 2025 #35
You are surrounded by your DU family who know, love, and support you, OS. wordstroken Apr 2025 #37
praying. Groundhawg Apr 2025 #38
Good luck Steve! Emile Apr 2025 #39
I wish you nothing but the best... Mad_Dem_X Apr 2025 #40
Sending best wishes and best of luck by air mail expedited special delivery. Permanut Apr 2025 #41
FTD. LizVerite Apr 2025 #42
All the best Wild blueberry Apr 2025 #43
Best of luck Steve! GoneOffShore Apr 2025 #44
Good luck Figarosmom Apr 2025 #45
Good luck! nt Shipwack Apr 2025 #46
Driving tests are scary enough no matter one's age or health status. 3catwoman3 Apr 2025 #47
I'm wishing you all the luck in the world, Steve! whathehell Apr 2025 #48
Did you see the article about the link between liver function and.... bee_peaceful Apr 2025 #49
Best of luck to you. beveeheart Apr 2025 #51
sending you the best vibes I can stillcool Apr 2025 #52
I hope you are still road-worthy, Steve True Dough Apr 2025 #54
I wish you the best, amigo JoseBalow Apr 2025 #55
Dear Omaha Steve ReRe Apr 2025 #56
Hang in there, Steve! Good luck. Ocelot II Apr 2025 #57
Steve, you're a DU gem. hamsterjill Apr 2025 #60
Good luck Steve. boonecreek Apr 2025 #61
Good luck !!!!! Karadeniz Apr 2025 #62
You're our Act Blue fundraiser organizer here Niagara Apr 2025 #64
I definitely wish you good luck and anything else that may help! liberalla Apr 2025 #66
Good luck! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 2025 #67
Wishing you the best and good luck, my friend. HeartsCanHope Apr 2025 #68
Steve sent you DU mail BonnieJW Apr 2025 #69
Much good luck Omaha Steve 🍀🍀🍀🍀 Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #70
Hang tough. cachukis Apr 2025 #71
I am sorry Omaha Steve. You've been a stalwart member of DU for almost 21 years. ------- Fla Dem Apr 2025 #72
Phosphatidyl Serine might help - here is a link Nigrum Cattus Apr 2025 #74
Research in England shows that Trazodone helps slow the advance Omaha Steve Apr 2025 #76
Hoping that all goes well for you. love_katz Apr 2025 #78
Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 2025 #79
Good luck. elleng Apr 2025 #81
OmahaSteve I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you much luck FakeNoose Apr 2025 #82
Driver's Written. kgray96057 Apr 2025 #83
Very tough. Best wishes Easterncedar Apr 2025 #84
So sorry. applegrove Apr 2025 #85
Good luck! Dorothy V Apr 2025 #86
Been pulling for you for years, I will continue pulling. marble falls Apr 2025 #87
I have faith that you will pass this! Stay present. Best to you! 58Sunliner Apr 2025 #88
Our thoughts are with you. Grumpy Old Guy Apr 2025 #90
Good luck... BigmanPigman Apr 2025 #91
Good Luck! electric_blue68 Apr 2025 #92
Wishing you every success, Steve! Lots of those powerful DU vibes will see you through! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2025 #93
I am so sorry, Omaha Steve. Bumbles Apr 2025 #95
I too see my day coming Be The Light Apr 2025 #96
I spoke with a doctor in our now walking group malaise Apr 2025 #97
Wishing you all the best luck and results. Moostache Apr 2025 #98
Im so sorry. You must be so scared :( My husband had an MRI last week.. samnsara Apr 2025 #99
Best of luck Steve! Polybius Apr 2025 #100
I turned 68 in January Omaha Steve Apr 2025 #101
All the best to you Steve. JohnSJ Apr 2025 #102

MLAA

(19,365 posts)
59. Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:48 PM
Apr 2025

I admire you and sending good vibes to you.

hlthe2b

(110,795 posts)
2. I'm sorry to hear it is progressing, Omaha Steve. Truly. And I wish you all the luck I can find...
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:34 PM
Apr 2025

THAT as well as all my hopes for advancements in FTD. You are a treasure and we all want to keep you around, sharp as ever, and active.

MontanaMama

(24,510 posts)
3. Oh man. Scary news.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:37 PM
Apr 2025

I’ll be thinking about you this week and waiting to hear about your test.

CountAllVotes

(21,907 posts)
5. thinking about giving up driving
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:47 PM
Apr 2025

Numb feet, numb hands.

Need to use cruise control a lot.

If it comes to this, it will.

I've been able to drive for almost 55 years now and if it isn't safe to do so any longer, so be it.

Best of luck Steve!



Attilatheblond

(6,767 posts)
50. Be sure to NEVER use cruise control if pavement is damp or wet.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:05 PM
Apr 2025

Less friction with the pavement means Cruise Control can think you're going slower than you are and it might speed up more than is safe. At least that is what a car guy told us and it makes some sense.

Hope you get to drive a while longer. I fear my time to hand over the keys is coming sooner than later, for similar reasons. Arthritis in spine making for poorer nerve impulses to arms and legs.

CountAllVotes

(21,907 posts)
73. Thanks for the advice
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:04 PM
Apr 2025

Typing is difficult now.

My medication is "no longer available" is the status.

I'm slowly going down. Sad.



Attilatheblond

(6,767 posts)
77. Understand completely
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:24 PM
Apr 2025

Hope we ALL have lovely memories to savor as our worlds shrink and options lessen

jmbar2

(7,100 posts)
7. You have done remarkably well
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:48 PM
Apr 2025

I would have never guessed from your posts that you were dealing with this. I am so sorry you are facing such a scary diagnosis. Peace be with you.

Hekate

(98,674 posts)
53. The family at the top of the hill uses one in the neighborhood, especially as the dad's health declined
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:10 PM
Apr 2025

AnotherMother4Peace

(4,795 posts)
58. I'm using Uber more often. Costco occasionally has Uber deals. I'll take an Uber to the train station, and
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:32 PM
Apr 2025

the train up the coast. It makes for less stress.

1WorldHope

(1,480 posts)
9. You are taking this well.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:06 PM
Apr 2025

My husband would look for another doctor or just stop going to any doctor. I wish for your well being whatever the outcome. Who will test you? Is he sending you to the DMV or like Madonna?

Omaha Steve

(106,480 posts)
12. Immanuel Rehabilitation Institute
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:10 PM
Apr 2025

First there is a written test. IF I pass that, a driving test will follow. It takes about 3 hours.

1WorldHope

(1,480 posts)
13. Well, good luck. That is a more thorough test compared to 15 min with the dmv tester.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:16 PM
Apr 2025

I'm pretty sure I could fail the written test on a good day. Good luck to you Steve!

TommyT139

(1,655 posts)
80. I wondered this too. An in-depth assessment
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:11 PM
Apr 2025

...allows for consideration of more factors in the driver's condition, skills, possible deficits, and other more tangential aspects (other chronic health conditions, vision, if any medications affect driving, etc).

A longer assessment can also help to provide the driver with any possible assistance -- there are evidently occupational therapists/driving coaches who may help fine-tune or suggest workarounds. They can also educate the driver and any family members about things to look out for over time that might suggest a change in ability.

I got most of this from an excellent general article on the topic:
https://drivingtoindependence.com/a-guide-to-driving-assessments-for-seniors-with-dementia/
And also a more technical summary of research -- I did some grad school in psych, so I tend to nerd out.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187703/

Omaha Steve, I too have benefited from your posts...and will continue to do so! Best of luck.

DFW

(58,584 posts)
94. I was about to say
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 10:25 AM
Apr 2025

Granted, you have had a long time to get adjusted to this, but that begs the question whether it is possible to really get "adjested" to something that remains a moving target.

One of my best friends in Dallas has a B-I-L who gravely damaged his frontal lobes in a motorcycle accident when he was 20 (about 50 years ago), and whereas he is fully cognizant, he has little capacity for logic and no emotional stamina whatsoever. He flies off the handle if the shower water is off by 5 degrees in either direction, so obviously he hasn't been able to drive at all. Road rage gets you killed in Texas. If he sees a problem (the latest is black mold), if he decides it has been present in a car, he will never set foot in that car, whether or not there is any factual basis for this. My friend's wife is his twin sister, and she has been putting up with this as his unofficial caregiver for fifty years..

People can make light of this kind of affliction, but it is burden on both the caregivers and the victim, at least, as long as the victim is aware of the situation.

Kudos for your coping, no matter what the result this time. Far from everyone that travels this road does so as calmly.

DallasNE

(7,830 posts)
23. My Exact Sentiments
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:29 PM
Apr 2025

We have been blessed with Omaha Steve's frequent, cogent contributions over the last 12 years. I look forward to many more, and good luck with the driving test OS.

peacebuzzard

(5,618 posts)
11. thanks for the brief education on this OS
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:09 PM
Apr 2025

My family is down to 3 of us remaining siblings. We are all seniors, and from my end, both of my sisters have cognitive impairments (one is diagnosed as such and has been all of her life; the other sister is undiagnosed as far as mental, and it is my speculation alone. But she lives in a state that has legal and medical marijuana, and she is a daily patient because of aches and pains, so I know much of what I experience of her personality could be the use of medical MJ, and I don't judge her or have an opinion; it is her choice.
I have had recent trauma from a concussion and, most recently, a slip/fall that jarred my whole body. It was an accident that put me off work for a few weeks, so I have been on DU more than ever.
I am really sensitive to our situation because, as seniors, major decisions need to be made, and wills/documents should be in order so that it is not a mess for the survivors.
It is especially difficult because I am the only one lucid enough to realize these circumstances, and we don't have anything in place to protect the vulnerability that can occur at any time to any one of us.

I wonder at times if I suffer from the initial stages since it can come on slowly and progress.

You are a treasure I have always enjoyed your input and hard work on this site. Best wishes, OS, I look forward to reading your Thursday update.

erronis

(20,745 posts)
21. That is a beautiful and heartfelt tale of your own. Thank you for sharing.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:28 PM
Apr 2025

Many/most of us have been or will be in similar situations. It's good to share our own experiences so others can be a bit more prepared.

peacebuzzard

(5,618 posts)
63. thank you! it is a minor freak out of mine when I forget things,
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:42 PM
Apr 2025

like walking into a room and forgetting why I went there.
But then I think I have been doing that for decades and especially after cocktail hour. ( I don't do that often, but I enjoy a Pilsner or organic cab at times)

Ziggysmom

(3,840 posts)
14. Praying you do well. My husband had to quit driving recently; I understand what a
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:17 PM
Apr 2025

loss of independence it can be. Safety of you and other drivers is #1 though.

Maraya1969

(23,315 posts)
17. Keep checking because I swear I have heard recently that they have made strides in these
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:21 PM
Apr 2025

diseases. In the meantime,:I'll be sending you white light and love.



highplainsdem

(57,553 posts)
20. Wishing you the best, Steve. As others here have already said, no one reading your posts would ever
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:26 PM
Apr 2025

imagine that you have FTD. I'm hoping that your doctor is just being extra cautious (a good thing for a doctor to be) and you'll pass both tests easily.

peacebuzzard

(5,618 posts)
65. I like this for a mantra.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:51 PM
Apr 2025

I tend to rush too much. Always running everywhere,
I think slowing down and focusing more is good for most people at any stage.
less is more.

calimary

(87,160 posts)
89. Oooooh, I like that too!
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 01:12 AM
Apr 2025

"Slow, steady, focused."

And you've got us, too, Steve. We're with you on this journey. Seems to me there are many valuable things to learn, in the process.

Dem2theMax

(10,803 posts)
30. Omaha Steve, I'm sending you all the luck I can find, along with a lot of positive thoughts.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:53 PM
Apr 2025

I'm hoping for the best outcome possible for you. To me, you are one of the pillars of DU, and we need you here.

multigraincracker

(36,036 posts)
31. Good luck and take care of yourself.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:00 PM
Apr 2025

I just hit my expiration date. I’m good with it. It’s all extra now.

BComplex

(9,497 posts)
33. For so many years
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:11 PM
Apr 2025

you have helped people on DU, through good times and bad, getting people on ballots, helping raise funds, just doing the good work of helping people stay sane through republican mismanagement of everything. You have to know that we love you and support you in everything you do.

Best of luck with your tests, my friend!

JMCKUSICK

(3,269 posts)
34. I wish you the very best Steve
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:12 PM
Apr 2025

I pray your transition is gentle and takes forever. You are far too important to us.
Thank you for all you do and the energy that you offer all of us.

wordstroken

(1,258 posts)
37. You are surrounded by your DU family who know, love, and support you, OS.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:20 PM
Apr 2025

The thing that works best for me during challenging times ever since kidhood, is to truly believe that little voice inside my head that whispers, “I can do this!

And mostly that voice is right.

You got this, OS!

Wild blueberry

(7,780 posts)
43. All the best
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:41 PM
Apr 2025

You are a treasure, and all your DU friends are with you.
Come what may, you and your loved ones will figure it out.
Big hug!

3catwoman3

(27,247 posts)
47. Driving tests are scary enough no matter one's age or health status.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:48 PM
Apr 2025

Wishing you strength and serenity and good luck.

 

bee_peaceful

(84 posts)
49. Did you see the article about the link between liver function and....
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:57 PM
Apr 2025

brain function.

Sending you all the best my friend.

True Dough

(23,777 posts)
54. I hope you are still road-worthy, Steve
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:13 PM
Apr 2025

and if not, I hope there's a viable option to help get you around whenever you need it.

All the best to you, and thanks for all the fundraising you promote around these parts!

hamsterjill

(16,145 posts)
60. Steve, you're a DU gem.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:50 PM
Apr 2025

Wishing you the best of luck with this. I admire your courage and acceptance, and I always want good outcomes for good people!

Niagara

(10,804 posts)
64. You're our Act Blue fundraiser organizer here
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:48 PM
Apr 2025

You keep track of everything and you do a great damn job of it too!

I don't know how you do it, OS. I'm not sure if I'm that organized to keep track of it all.

I admire you for doing this selfless act for us, so thank you for all that you do.

I'm sending you the best of luck as always, OS.



liberalla

(10,612 posts)
66. I definitely wish you good luck and anything else that may help!
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:52 PM
Apr 2025

Get a good night's sleep. Do some stretches to loosen the muscles and relieve some tension. Deep breaths... Imagine or "see" in your mind a pleasant drive on a beautiful day and a positive result on your driving test. I wish this for you!

Fla Dem

(26,916 posts)
72. I am sorry Omaha Steve. You've been a stalwart member of DU for almost 21 years. -------
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 07:14 PM
Apr 2025

May you continue for many more years.

Omaha Steve

(106,480 posts)
76. Research in England shows that Trazodone helps slow the advance
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:21 PM
Apr 2025

I've been on that a couple of years now. Thanks for the tip.

OS

MLAA

(19,365 posts)
79. Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:53 PM
Apr 2025

Sending healing vibes your way. I admire you.

I accidentally replied to another’s reply earlier.

elleng

(140,253 posts)
81. Good luck.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:38 PM
Apr 2025

Dad was smart enough to stop driving, and give me his car; I was thankful for both.

FakeNoose

(38,021 posts)
82. OmahaSteve I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you much luck
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:44 PM
Apr 2025

FTD is something that runs in my family also. For us it's a genetic inheritance from our mother, and her father, and we're not sure how far back it goes. It's lucky to be living now because new research is being done on FTD like never before. We're hoping and praying for a breakthrough. Good luck, dear Steve.

kgray96057

(29 posts)
83. Driver's Written.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 10:04 PM
Apr 2025

The DMV has a practice test online. The practice test is drawn from the bank of questions asked for the actual test. I set it for 99 questions and ran it for 2 weeks, daily, until I felt confident. They ask far fewer questions on the actual test. By the time I took it, they were all old friends.

BigmanPigman

(53,405 posts)
91. Good luck...
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 02:26 AM
Apr 2025

I am rapidly getting dementia. Simple words and simple math have become more difficult within the past year. My Prim Care Doctor wasn't alarmed but I can tell there is definitely a big change.

I tried to find out how to renew my Dr License last week and after 2 1/2 hours on the useless DMV web site I gave up on trying to figure out why they would not let me make an appointment. Finally I went to Reddit for some decent info. It seems that you can renew it on line only 2 consecutive times in CA. Why doesn't their web site say that?!?!?!?

Then, to make "an appointment" there is more confusion (naturally). I have no idea what to do and I live only 2 blocks from the DMV. I "think" you have to go in to the DMV with some secret code on your phone and once you get into the DMV you show someone/something your cell phone secret code and that is supposed to be your "appointment". It sounds bogus. I assume that I will have to stand in line for 2 hours just to be told that it is incorrect and I need to stand in at least one more line. Since I literally live a 5 minute walk away it would be easier to wait at home and walk over once my "secret appointment number" at my appointment time. Since this is the CA DMV they do NOT make sense at all and love to torture people. The DMV are sadists!

I hope your local DMV is run better than mine. I have to get a new photo and eye test. This will take an entire day since the DMV lines are literally around the block and have been since 1988 when I moved here.

Bumbles

(407 posts)
95. I am so sorry, Omaha Steve.
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 10:25 AM
Apr 2025

My former husband had the same diagnosis. It is a difficult condition to deal with. You seem to have had many good years since your diagnosis. My ex learned at 76 and deteriorated quickly. I wish you the best in dealing with it.

Be The Light

(110 posts)
96. I too see my day coming
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 11:09 AM
Apr 2025

when they will take my car away. I'm 69 and been driving since 16.

So I'm rooting for you man! Just remember, most driving is like riding a bike.

Hard wired. Keep me updated!

malaise

(287,119 posts)
97. I spoke with a doctor in our now walking group
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 12:16 PM
Apr 2025

and had her take a good friend off the road. He was a danger to himself and others.
All the best but sometimes we have to police ourselves.

samnsara

(18,590 posts)
99. Im so sorry. You must be so scared :( My husband had an MRI last week..
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 02:38 PM
Apr 2025

..his brother and dad passed of a brain tumor. No news yet.

Please take care.

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