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NNadir

(37,953 posts)
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 07:51 PM 7 hrs ago

Well, last night my wife made the sweetest unreasonable request of me.

We were talking on the bed, and out of nowhere, she said, "Honey, can you please live at least five more years. I don't want to live without you."

I'm facing a health problem, something treatable but potentially serious, with some risk, and she said that to me, out of nowhere.

I know her 44 years, in two of which I was living the treacly lyrics of the pop song "Cherish," this while running into her with the latest in series of her boyfriends:

...You don't know how many times I've wished that I had told you
You don't know how many times I've wished that I could hold you...


...but unlike the wimp in the song, I told her and got to hold her...

...and here we are, all these years later...

...and she's so damned sweet...

I can't believe I got to live this life with her; she made it so damned wonderful.

Whenever my time comes, the last thing I'll think is how much I love her.

I'll try to honor her request, but really, I don't want to live without her, and selfishly, I'd prefer to die first.

It's not really under my control, this outcome.
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Well, last night my wife made the sweetest unreasonable request of me. (Original Post) NNadir 7 hrs ago OP
Well....... i completely understand. ... hugs and best to you both. Srkdqltr 7 hrs ago #1
How sweet. Congratulations to you both for finding each other. LoisB 7 hrs ago #2
Heheh. The words to Cherish were added to the first love letter blm 6 hrs ago #3
You both married up. TexLaProgressive 6 hrs ago #4
That's a great line. erronis 5 hrs ago #15
We want you both to be healthy and happy Tanuki 6 hrs ago #5
What lovely words..... democrank 5 hrs ago #6
Thank you so much for donating such humanity to all of us JMCKUSICK 5 hrs ago #7
In a just world, you would die in each other's arms, passing peacefully niyad 5 hrs ago #8
From The "I Didn't Plan To Cry" Dept: This Widow Wishes You.... ColoringFool 5 hrs ago #9
That's so wonderful when you get to live Figarosmom 5 hrs ago #10
I've warned my wife that I want to go first. "If you go first, I'll have you stuffed." Intractable 5 hrs ago #11
The best reason of all! Hang in there, buddy. Ford_Prefect 5 hrs ago #12
"...and she's so damned sweet..." 3catwoman3 5 hrs ago #13
I love that song! mgardener 5 hrs ago #14
The sweetness is overwhelming on both UTUSN 5 hrs ago #16
I've told my husband that I get to go first. HeartsCanHope 5 hrs ago #17
What a Sweet Wonderful Love Story.. Cha 5 hrs ago #18
This warms my heart. LuckyCharms 5 hrs ago #19
In that state, punch away at both eyes. I won't notice. (Actually... NNadir 2 hrs ago #23
Same here. I'm in my mid 70s. multigraincracker 4 hrs ago #20
One day at a time... jlshaw47 4 hrs ago #21
Here's to the Wives we've loved for many years! Turbineguy 4 hrs ago #22

blm

(114,642 posts)
3. Heheh. The words to Cherish were added to the first love letter
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 08:26 PM
6 hrs ago

I ever received. 7th grade. You picked a good one, NNadir. ☺️

erronis

(23,768 posts)
15. That's a great line.
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:50 PM
5 hrs ago

I think all of mine were in the other direction (for all the parties.

Tanuki

(16,438 posts)
5. We want you both to be healthy and happy
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:12 PM
6 hrs ago

for many, many years to come, dear NNadir! You are a wonderful human being, scientist, and friend, and you truly make this world a better place. I am so glad you found your soul mate so many years ago. You obviously live out what it means to cherish each other.
😊🥂💐

JMCKUSICK

(5,966 posts)
7. Thank you so much for donating such humanity to all of us
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:17 PM
5 hrs ago

With this post NNadir.

It's a love story worth many more. You know you're going to outlive her. For her sake, I hope you do.
God Speed

niyad

(132,148 posts)
8. In a just world, you would die in each other's arms, passing peacefully
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:19 PM
5 hrs ago

in your sleep, in maybe 25 years or so. I wish you and your lovely wife all the best.
And thank you for that lovely tribute to her.

ColoringFool

(660 posts)
9. From The "I Didn't Plan To Cry" Dept: This Widow Wishes You....
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:20 PM
5 hrs ago

Both many more years together❣

Intractable

(2,038 posts)
11. I've warned my wife that I want to go first. "If you go first, I'll have you stuffed."
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:21 PM
5 hrs ago

I tell her all the time, "I can't live without you."

3catwoman3

(29,340 posts)
13. "...and she's so damned sweet..."
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:33 PM
5 hrs ago

You seem pretty damned sweet yourself.

What woman would not cherish knowing this is how her man feels about her. Well done, sir.

HeartsCanHope

(1,663 posts)
17. I've told my husband that I get to go first.
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 10:05 PM
5 hrs ago

I love him more than life itself, so I completely understand where your wife is coming from.

Healing vibes to you and may you both be together for many, many years to come.

Cha

(318,799 posts)
18. What a Sweet Wonderful Love Story..
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 10:08 PM
5 hrs ago

I wish you both long healthy lives, NNadir. ☮️🌻🕯️🕊️💜

LuckyCharms

(22,560 posts)
19. This warms my heart.
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 10:10 PM
5 hrs ago

And if you die before me, I'll punch YOU in the eye (an inside joke between us).

You're a good man.

NNadir

(37,953 posts)
23. In that state, punch away at both eyes. I won't notice. (Actually...
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 01:14 AM
2 hrs ago

...when I kick off, I want my wife to donate the vitreous fluid as a bioanalytical blank for eye drugs, so there won't be too much eye to punch.

In my last dying breath, I'll tell her, get that vitreous fluid out before Lucky gets here.

multigraincracker

(37,590 posts)
20. Same here. I'm in my mid 70s.
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 10:23 PM
4 hrs ago

She’s 12 years younger than me. I’m shooting for another 6 or 8. I only have one family member and he’s 5 years older. She has tons of relatives that i have adopted and they have adopted me. I married into a great family.
Can’t worry about what I can’t control. That would cause too much anxiety.
Figure I’m the luckiest person in the world. Half of it is good luck and the other half bad luck it all equals out.

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