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lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 10:42 PM Dec 2012

What Christmas traditions did you start with your children?

Last edited Wed Dec 5, 2012, 07:52 PM - Edit history (2)

We would have our kids write a letter to Santa and then have a fire in the fireplace , burn the letter and tell them santa would get the letter in one piece from the embers.... we would also have a friend write a Thank you note for the cookies so the kids wouldn't recognize the writing....

I know there are DUers that think lying to your kids about Santa is wrong .. but the smiles and excitement in my kids was priceless and I am happy to say my daughter is making memories for my grandson and I hope they go on for generations. hey my kids turned out ok AND they are not mad at us... They still talk about those Christmas mornings and they are 35 and 29

edit to add:I would like to hear all kinds of traditions from any DUers

I Believe.....

lost

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What Christmas traditions did you start with your children? (Original Post) lost-in-nj Dec 2012 OP
Who can knock the tree over first. cliffordu Dec 2012 #1
I had dogs.... lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #2
A totally goofy combination of my husband's Christmas and mine as kids. nolabear Dec 2012 #3
Awesome! lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #5
What????? AnneD Dec 2012 #15
That is awesome! Kids are so cool. nolabear Dec 2012 #21
There were so many.... I loved being a SAHM. femmocrat Dec 2012 #4
wow I think I need to check out lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #7
We've tried many Lokey Dec 2012 #6
the wonder in their eyes lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #8
We detraditionalized... reACTIONary Dec 2012 #9
I would have been sad if I'd missed out on the Santa magic as a kid. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #10
Whoa.... I have children?! Shit. harmonicon Dec 2012 #11
sorry... lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #23
Pass the salt TrogL Dec 2012 #12
You'd think grandpa would be the voice of reason but nooooooo...... TrogL Dec 2012 #19
Stealth. It was really important. Ikonoklast Dec 2012 #13
At Thanksgiving we would select a country.... AnneD Dec 2012 #14
We're not believers so instead of saying grace at the feast riderinthestorm Dec 2012 #16
Honestly when I realized my parents were 'lying' it never bothered me LynneSin Dec 2012 #17
But but... AnneD Dec 2012 #25
Steak and eggs for brekkie on Christmas morning MissMillie Dec 2012 #18
Christmas pajamas. grntuscarora Dec 2012 #20
The tradition of not having Christmas. Myrina Dec 2012 #22
An accidental tradition - we lit some Hannukuh candles and one of the cats got too curious - hedgehog Dec 2012 #24

lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
2. I had dogs....
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 10:57 PM
Dec 2012

the bottom of the tree was always bare. they would eat the tinsel and knock the decorations off...


I feel your pain!!



lost

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
3. A totally goofy combination of my husband's Christmas and mine as kids.
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:01 PM
Dec 2012

I will note at the get-go tht we are not believers but like Christmas and its stories.

So, he grew up with this really sweet primitive nativity set from Jamaica, but somewhere along the line he decided that the Baby Jesus looked lonesome, so he put another little plastic baby in the creche with him. With me, Christmas involved a King Cake, really a Twelfth Night thing but it was always a Christmas treat. And all King Cakes come with, of course, a little plastic baby. Get the piee with the baby you have good luck (and if it's Mardi Gras you throw the next party but that's another story). Every Christmas for years my stepmother would send us a King Cake, and the boys continued the tradition. We now have a nativity scene with basically a litter of Saviors. I LOL every time I put it out, and the now grown sons just raise their eyebrows at me as if it's all my doing.

I'm thinking of taking it on the road and baby-bombing some of the local churches...

lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
5. Awesome!
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:08 PM
Dec 2012

I know about the King cakes.... I always wondered if anyone broke a tooth .. as for the creche, well we had lions and monkeys... us kids got to the nativity LOL


lost

AnneD

(15,774 posts)
15. What?????
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:23 PM
Dec 2012

no dinosaurs or cowboys and Indians at the manger with the rest? The neon soldiers protecting the nativity scene were my fav. Mom would laugh her head off at our daily offerings.

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
4. There were so many.... I loved being a SAHM.
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:04 PM
Dec 2012

One was "Silverspurs". It was from a book that we read. They would decorate a paper bag and the elf, Silverspurs would leave them a little treat for every night... I think it was for a week before Christmas.

We always baked cookies, made gingerbread houses, read special Christmas books, wrote letters to Santa, etc.... We had a lot of traditions that I want to re-create with my granddaughter now. Wonderful memories.

lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
7. wow I think I need to check out
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:12 PM
Dec 2012

the Silverspurs story! hope you get to re-create all those memories with your granddaughter... I can not wait to make cookies with my grandson... and so many new traditions



lost

Lokey

(108 posts)
6. We've tried many
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:12 PM
Dec 2012

It's fun, even eventually watching the kid's figure it out. We would leave one cookie with a bite out of it. I would have my father write the gift tags.
My daughter was very observant--as grandpa would dress up as Santa. He would go to the extent of putting on old glasses and trying to hide his dark hair. She however noticed his watch one year that he forgot to take off. She still didn't have it all figured out but just asked me why grandpa dressed up as Santa.
It is nice seeing the excitement in their eyes.

lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
8. the wonder in their eyes
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:18 PM
Dec 2012

is wonderful.....

I actually kept my kids believing for at least one year longer by telling them that we couldn't afford all the presents... we really couldn't but my parents helped us, it was a magical time.

especially now when we can help other people enjoy Christmas that couldn't afford it ... paying it forward is the best feeling


lost

reACTIONary

(5,770 posts)
9. We detraditionalized...
Tue Dec 4, 2012, 11:40 PM
Dec 2012

...no santa, no elves, etc. We buygifts, but we sort of just start using them without wrapping, etc. My gift this year is a Nook ereader and I've been using it since Thanksgiving.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
10. I would have been sad if I'd missed out on the Santa magic as a kid.
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:08 AM
Dec 2012

I'm not mad at my parents, and my kids aren't mad at us now that they're older.

One tradition I've done for a long time is I get both of my kids a new ornament every year. When they are on their own they'll have a nice collection.

I'm not religious and I'm not a huge Xmas person, but I do enjoy some aspects of the holiday.

lost-in-nj

(18,339 posts)
23. sorry...
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 07:48 PM
Dec 2012

I really didn't mean to leave anyone out.... that was thoughtless of me.

I was feeling nostalgic


lost

TrogL

(32,822 posts)
12. Pass the salt
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:54 AM
Dec 2012

Whoever asks to having something passed to them first ends up with everything on the table stacked in front of them.

"Toss me a roll" is taken literally.

Whoever says "pass the butter" better be prepared to catch it or will end up wearing it.

TrogL

(32,822 posts)
19. You'd think grandpa would be the voice of reason but nooooooo......
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 03:31 PM
Dec 2012

He'd be the one starting the food fight.

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
13. Stealth. It was really important.
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 02:08 AM
Dec 2012

Lockpicking was also a very useful skill, and I made them practice 'til their little fingers bled, but they did it willingly after explaining to them where their Christmas presents were going to be coming from, and how we were going to get them.

Loved those nimble little pinkies.

Ten-pin tumblers? HA!

Child's play....literally.

They got pretty good at disabling even the most sophisticated alarm systems, and could defeat video surveillance methods in a flash.

AnneD

(15,774 posts)
14. At Thanksgiving we would select a country....
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:17 PM
Dec 2012

and celebrate Christmas the way they do in that country. It was a blast. We learned about the country and customs. I got recipes and fixed the holiday dinners of that country. We had Dutch, German, French, English, among others but the best by far was Finland. The country even had a live cam website of Santa's work shop.

My grown daughter still waxes nostalgic about those trips around the world that she and her poor single mom took. We have traveled around the world since then and always feel comfortable with other customs and cultures. I am sure this tradition helped give her a curiosity and tolerance of others.

 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
16. We're not believers so instead of saying grace at the feast
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:44 PM
Dec 2012

everyone has to go around the table and say something, or some things, they are thankful for.

Also, my mom always bought a plum pudding. I make my own from scratch. I buy either a small antique silver ring or a small antique silver key each year and bake it into the pudding. Whoever gets the piece from the pudding with the key or ring, gets to keep it and will have the "good luck" in the coming year. Everyone's gotten it at least once. My niece has gotten it 3 times and keeps hers as "charms" on a silver chain. One year the ring actually fit her. She wore it for the entire year....

Otherwise all of my traditions are carryovers from when I was a child and none of THOSE were new to our family either. We still put the tree up on Christmas Eve (its a big party too). Still have roast beef and yorkshire pudding (I always have tons of vegetarian dishes as well for the vegetarians).

My oldest daughter was one of those who was seriously angry that we "lied" to her all those years about Santa when she discovered the truth so we definitely dialed back on the "Santa magic" with my youngest pretty early on.

Alas.



LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
17. Honestly when I realized my parents were 'lying' it never bothered me
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 01:55 PM
Dec 2012

I discovered where they hid the stash in the basement.

But I still enjoyed it all!

grntuscarora

(1,249 posts)
20. Christmas pajamas.
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 03:40 PM
Dec 2012

I like to sew, so each of my kids gets a hand-sewn pair of flannel pj's from mom on Christmas Eve. It involves a trip to the fabric store in November, so they can pick the material of their choice.

Myrina

(12,296 posts)
22. The tradition of not having Christmas.
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 05:01 PM
Dec 2012

For us, its just a nice long break from work/school to sleep in, go to a couple movies, and chill.

hedgehog

(36,286 posts)
24. An accidental tradition - we lit some Hannukuh candles and one of the cats got too curious -
Wed Dec 5, 2012, 08:36 PM
Dec 2012

and set his fur on fire ........two years running.

He had a fringe of guard hairs extending past his main fur, so he was never harmed.


More deliberate traditions -

- I never bought sugared cereals, so for Christmas breakfast, each kid got to select a box of their very own.

- we never went to see Santa Claus, but the kids left their letters out with their shoes on the eve of St. Nicholas' Day. The letters were replaced with small treats overnight.

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