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Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 02:37 PM Dec 2012

Hi, friends.

Sorry for the drama, but I don't take kindly to being told my name belongs on a criminal database next to sex offenders and convicted felons because I happen to be bipolar and therefore have a "mental health issue" as do these psychotic shooters. NOT the same mental health issue by miles. They sit around plotting to kill people, I sit around worrying if my job performance is adequate even if my boss or a client praises me. NOTHING IN COMMON WITH THESE KILLERS.

It's hardly the same thing, my mental health issue and theirs - it's like trying to equate a brief spring thundershower to Superstorm Sandy. i have NOTHING in common whatsoever with these killers other than the fact we are all members of the same species, Homo sapiens. Like Tobin, if I don't explicitly tell someone I'm bipolar, they don't have a clue. And I don't wear a sign on my back announcing my condition. I'm pretty "normal" except that I tend to be overly sensitive to certain situations, such as hurtful remarks. Even then, I keep my reactions to myself - this summer during my crisis, I got really good at holding back the tears and anxiety until I could go somewhere completely private. No one even knew except me that there was a problem.

Frankly, the tragedies disturb me deeply, too, but please don't punish me for something I didn't do, nor am I even capable of doing.

I was REALLY touched by everyone's comments, publicly posted or via pm or email.

I would just like to be able to come out and play with my Lounge and DU friends without being called a monster by some ignorant bigot.

So, is it safe to come out now?

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Hi, friends. (Original Post) Denninmi Dec 2012 OP
Probably as safe as is possible...so glad to see you back! NRaleighLiberal Dec 2012 #1
Do your very best to ignore the ogres annabanana Dec 2012 #2
Glad to see you back. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #3
Welcome back! In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #4
Just accept that you are going to have a few extreme ups and downs initially siligut Dec 2012 #5
Hey, welcome back! CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #6
Really glad to see you back! dawg Dec 2012 #7
Just stay here in the Lounge! We don't let that fly here. Lady Freedom Returns Dec 2012 #8
You're BACK! Aristus Dec 2012 #9
I think you made a difference. For the positive! Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #10
Glad you decided not to stay away for long. GoCubsGo Dec 2012 #11
I can't promise you ignorant bigots won't show up OriginalGeek Dec 2012 #12
It's good to see you MrScorpio Dec 2012 #13
Welcome Back, Fellow Lounge Lizard Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2012 #14
It's great to see you back out here, man. Tobin S. Dec 2012 #15
Welcome back. Neoma Dec 2012 #16
There are ALWAYS going to be ignant assholes out there... MiddleFingerMom Dec 2012 #17
Hi again. Denninmi Dec 2012 #18
You are among friends in the lounge. Would a cookie help? femmocrat Dec 2012 #19
Yes, as long as the dietician overseeing my fitness program doesn't find out. Denninmi Dec 2012 #26
LOL femmocrat Dec 2012 #32
Welcome back... Xyzse Dec 2012 #20
C'mon in. rrneck Dec 2012 #21
As far as I'm concerned you will always, always be safe solara Dec 2012 #22
The Lounge, safe? We are all going to hell. Major Nikon Dec 2012 #23
Well, you know what Billy Joel said Denninmi Dec 2012 #27
Glad you're back. Pull up a stool. How 'bout a Fresca? bluesbassman Dec 2012 #24
Actually, I had a diet Fresca today. Denninmi Dec 2012 #28
I hope so. I have depression myself: usually OK.Don't want to be in anybody's database. nt s-cubed Dec 2012 #25
You know what, somehow after seeing the reaction our buddy at the NRA got ... Denninmi Dec 2012 #29
YAAAAY! elleng Dec 2012 #30
Hi. Denninmi Dec 2012 #31
Welcome home. I have a present for you rurallib Dec 2012 #33
Thanks. Denninmi Dec 2012 #34
LOL, how come every time I hear something by ABBA I get the urge to ... Denninmi Dec 2012 #35

annabanana

(52,791 posts)
2. Do your very best to ignore the ogres
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 02:44 PM
Dec 2012

for they are few and insignificant.

You have lots of friends here.

siligut

(12,272 posts)
5. Just accept that you are going to have a few extreme ups and downs initially
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 03:10 PM
Dec 2012

This one was warranted and as you said, timing was the culprit. Glad to have you back.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
7. Really glad to see you back!
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 03:18 PM
Dec 2012

It's pretty safe in here. Just stay out of GD until you are feeling more thick-skinned! I can hardly stand it in there myself.

Lady Freedom Returns

(14,120 posts)
8. Just stay here in the Lounge! We don't let that fly here.
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 03:55 PM
Dec 2012

And if someone really becomes a problem, use caps a post for Skittles.
She knows how to kick tail. Or do the same thing, but call for me instead better yet, PM me.

GoCubsGo

(32,086 posts)
11. Glad you decided not to stay away for long.
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 04:33 PM
Dec 2012

Just stay away from GD and Meta, and it will be okay. It's safe here. No fanatics like in those places.

OriginalGeek

(12,132 posts)
12. I can't promise you ignorant bigots won't show up
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 04:45 PM
Dec 2012

But I can promise you I am on your side and will do whatever I can to help you if they do.

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)
15. It's great to see you back out here, man.
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 05:22 PM
Dec 2012

I was just telling someone in a private message how I wish you would start posting again. The ousting of one of those bigots who harassed you was a good victory for those of us who have suffered from mental health issues, but a greater victory is to see you back here and being yourself on the open board. You are still here, that other asshole is gone. I know it wasn't just him, but I think, because of you, we have set a precedent here that bigotry toward people with mental health issues will not be tolerated. That's a beautiful thing.

It may have caused you some distress, but you have made DU a better place. And you are back. So...Cheers!

MiddleFingerMom

(25,163 posts)
17. There are ALWAYS going to be ignant assholes out there...
Sat Dec 22, 2012, 06:23 PM
Dec 2012

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... but that doesn't mean that YOU have anything that needs some serious wiping.
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Ew.
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I'm a little rusty with my metaphors. but you know what I mean.
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I'm gonna work on THAT one a little bit more.
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In the meantime, we are here with you and of you and for you and we are glad to see you whenever you show up.
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Fuck those fucking ignant idiots... just fuck 'em. They are pointless. They are meaningless.
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Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
26. Yes, as long as the dietician overseeing my fitness program doesn't find out.
Sun Dec 23, 2012, 12:48 AM
Dec 2012

Shhhh! It was delicious.

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)
32. LOL
Sun Dec 23, 2012, 06:17 PM
Dec 2012

Christmas cookies have negative calories! Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays, Denninmi. I'm glad you are back and feeling better.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
27. Well, you know what Billy Joel said
Sun Dec 23, 2012, 12:50 AM
Dec 2012

"I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the Saints.
The sinners are much more fun
Only the good die young"

Seems to me Saints outnumber sinners on DU by a wide margin, I just had to be shown that.

Saints can have fun, too.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
34. Thanks.
Sun Dec 23, 2012, 11:59 PM
Dec 2012

I'm pretty sure I've heard this before, when I was in high school, probably around 1980. It sounds familiar. Very moving, actually.

Thanks for "taking a chance on me"' btw.

ABBA - Take A Chance On Me



Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
35. LOL, how come every time I hear something by ABBA I get the urge to ...
Mon Dec 24, 2012, 12:03 AM
Dec 2012

... Drive down to Ikea in Canton, MI and have Swedish Meatballs?

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