Men who have married women: a question

[Recursion]

My fiancee will not let me see her dress before the wedding. Is this really a thing?

[OffWithTheirHeads]

1. Yup

[Recursion]

2. So I really can't see it?

I'm writing the music for the wedding; I'd like to know how the dress looks to do that.

[marzipanni]

6. Has she heard the music?

If she's heard parts of it, ask her for a trade of a hint about the dress.

[Recursion]

8. OK, suddenly I "get it"

No, she hasn't, because this is something I'm making for her and I want it to be a surprise. And suddenly it makes sense.

[uppityperson]

10. Perfect. 2 parts made for each other to come together as a surprise. How sweet.

[Shrek]

3. Yes

I never saw my wife's dress unti she came down the aisle.

[Recursion]

7. Fair enough. I see she isn't making this up.

Thanks.

[sakabatou]

4. It's more or less tradition in marriages.

It's considered unlucky if you see the dress.

[Taverner]

5. Me and the wife (rather, she bought it and dragged me along) picked out hers

But I don't believe in wedding traditions and neither does she

[Lady Freedom Returns]

9. It is believed that it is really BAD luck for you to see it before the wedding.

If she is superstitious, forget it! If she is and you try to go behind her back to see it and she finds out, she WILL call off the wedding. And she could go as far as dumping you for the betrayal. It can be THAT important for some brides. Treed lightly.

[Recursion]

12. Good to know. I do not despise superstition

She's Hindu so there's that whole thing there (though she's only wearing the sari for our Indian wedding next winter.)

I do think we're past dumping one another, but your warning is noted!

[Lady Freedom Returns]

15. Hindu?

Take double caution! I was writing from Western European outlook. But they have a very similar belief and it is very touchy.

[Recursion]

16. Hindu, Ma'am

She has been a foreign service officer for as long as I was a U.S. Marine. We both love this country deeply and serve it as we are called to. She is basically the American success story: her parents were immigrants from India who legally obtained citizenship, and she got into Berkeley based on how unbelievably smart she is. And now I get to represent the country with her. Life is good.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

21. Congratulations by the way!

My Husband served 8 years with the Marine Corp. I read this and told him you were getting married, he said to tell you "Hoorah! Simpli Fi!"

[Lady Freedom Returns]

14. Oh, if is that superstitious.

And you do get a glimpse before the wedding, don't ever let her find out you did. She WILL divorce you because she will not want to be in a cursed marriage. Beware. She may not show signs of being that superstitious, but this is very different case for many women.

[warrior1]

11. Because she wants to see your reaction to the first time you see her...something like this

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mattbellassai/24-grooms-seeing-their-brides-for-the-first-time-6z51

[Recursion]

13. I cry easily. I'm a southerner.

She likes that about me. I have no doubt I will.

I did talk her into morning dress for the wedding, at least, so I will be appropriately dressed, unlike those chumps who wear tuxedos before noon. What are they, farmers?

[davsand]

20. Shoot, I was just happy he didn't vomit in the altar flowers.

Our wedding was probably not "typical" in most ways. Come to think of it, after almost 20 years I think it's safe to say our marriage hasn't been run of the mill either...

Love him still and marrying him is one of the best things I've ever done in my life.



Laura

[HereSince1628]

17. Maybe.

It's hard enough for her to make a decision about the dress, trying to please mom sisters and BFF and the bridesmaids, without worring about what you might say.

Giver her a break. It's OK to be surprised at the "big show"

[DFW]

18. My wife asked me to pick our hers with her.

Different strokes for different folks, as they say.

*on edit--my wife is from another continent and culture as well, and we speak her language at home.
Here is a pic from our wedding with her dad waiting to "give her away," which after eight years of putting up with me, I guess he was good and ready to do!
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[Major Nikon]

19. Even if it isn't you will have to learn to pick your battles

Might as well get started early.

[Kaleva]

24. Pick your battles? Just accept the fact one will lose every time.

[Major Nikon]

27. I manage to win one every now and then

That's why I save mine up for the really important shit like which side of the bed I get to sleep on (when I'm not on the couch anyway).

[Joey Liberal]

22. Don't do it!

Kidding. Cool pic of Lou Reed.

[Kaleva]

23. Yes. It was in mine.

The first time I saw my bride to be in her wedding gown was when she was walking down the aisle.

[kwassa]

25. A bigger question: when you do the Hindu wedding, do you get to arrive on a white horse?

A popular tradition.

[rug]

26. Can you see her dress after sex?

[RedCloud]

28. Count your lucky stars!

Wait til you see how many closets are just for dresses!