Oy. The exGF sent me a dozen white roses at work.

[Bucky]

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We're agreeing to stay friends. She's a sweet girl. She's smarter than a cat-O-nine-tails on a wet buttcheek. But it's just too intense to drop a pound of flowers on someone two days before VD and expect it to be cleanly recieved. What subtle signal can I possibly send her to chill out without also saying "Scram, I don't wanna be friends"? I ain't that cold. Is there some secret code in the world of womanspeak that conveys the sentiment "I want to be in your rolodex, but not centerpiece of your life"?

[AsahinaKimi]

1. You're lucky

Bucky Sensei, I heard there is a service that sends out dead and rotting flowers..I don't know the name of it..but its really out there. I should say I know, cause someone I know, got some.

[Bucky]

2. Oh, I reckon I could be a little grateful

I think my problem is guilt. After she impulsively called it off, she's now sending signals that I could win her back. I'm feeling a little like a bum for not pouncing on the implied offer. I'm just not demonstrative. But you're right, I should be grateful for the gesture, even if it is a little too much.

Side note: I thought you were in SF. What's the deal with the Oakland icon? Are transBay loyalities kosher?

[AsahinaKimi]

5. In the Bay area...

There are two types of fans. 49ers and Raider fans. I used to be a 49er fan till the Owners, (The Yorks) said they would move the team down to Santa Clara and stated "There is better money in Santa Clara, and the Fans are Better.. its a great place to go." This was a snub on all the (City) San Francisco fans, in my opinion who supported and bought season Tickets. The Raiders were always my second favorite team. I didn't root for the 49ers in the Superbowl only because, according to the Yorks, they had Better Fans in Santa Clara. My dad had season tickets for years, and recently this past season I gave up those seats out of protest for the owners stupid, crass comments. (My dad goes to Giants and Jet games now.. He wasn't happy either over what the Yorks stated.)

I am exclusively a loyal Raiders fan now. I have liked them for years.. and loved the fans attitude. They are passionate and love their team win or lose. You have to respect fans who love their teams, even during the tough times.

[Brigid]

8. *Points to avatar*

Have I got the team for you!

[AsahinaKimi]

11. I know about the CUBBIES!

The Cubs used to (still may) have their spring training in Scottsdale Arizona (I think, if not the Phoenix area.)and many times used to, after a game come into the Italian Restaurant that I worked for. It was called Petrini's. (The owners were from Chicago.) I waited on a few of the players, and they were all very nice. Some even signed autographs.. and the owner loved the Cubbies very much!

It was unfortunate that a year later, he retired and sold the Restaurant to a couple of brothers from New York, who were Extreme Yankee Fans. I am sure, it was shortly after, that the Cubs players stopped coming. The owner constantly wore a Yankees cap during baseball season, and had the typical loud and boisterous attitude about how no other team in the world existed. The Restaurant lost money big time... and I left Arizona before the place went broke. The food and the company was never the same after Mr. Petrini retired.

[Bucky]

16. Oh, that story broke my heart.

Don't DO that in the middle of February, Kimi! I'm hanging lower than an armadillo's butt and now you're just depressing me.

[AsahinaKimi]

24. Not to Fret..

They Still have a Restaurant in Santa Barbara. http://www.petrinis.com/



And one in Goleta, California as well.

[graywarrior]

3. LOL, who knew?

[AsahinaKimi]

19. I believe this is the company

http://www.thepayback.com/getrevenge.html

[graywarrior]

23. Oh, that is priceless!

Thanks, I can really use that!

[AsahinaKimi]

27. Some of the gifts are very mean...

But hey, if it works...

[graywarrior]

29. The people I'd send them too would get the joke.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

4. I want some

[AsahinaKimi]

20. seriously?

http://www.thepayback.com/getrevenge.html

[Tuesday Afternoon]

22. ha! that is great! thanks for the link -

[AsahinaKimi]

26. You are most welcome

I can't imagine getting the dead fish wrapped. ew.

[Moondog]

6. Depending upon the lady's background

and her sense of history, white roses could have several seriously different meanings.

I suggest you look into that before you respond. FWIW.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

7. how victorian of her --

ROSE (WHITE) - Innocence and Purity, I am Worthy of You, You're Heavenly, Secrecy and Silence

http://www.800florals.com/care/meaning.asp

[Bucky]

13. Great list!!

Sadly, in all those flower connotations, I couldn't find the right message.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

18. unless you want to hook back up with her there is No Flower to send.

see what I mean ...

do not send her any flowers unless you want to start back up "something" with her.

[Sekhmets Daughter]

21. White roses are popular in funeral and sympathy arrangements.

My son would be able to sympathize with your situation. His girl friend broke up with him the night of his law school graduation and has spent the last 2 years trying to get him back. LOL. He's moved on.

[Brigid]

9. Peace offering, maybe?

[NewJeffCT]

10. If she's that intense a person

there might not be much room for middle ground, sorry to say.

[KG]

12. sounds a little wierd...be careful going home...

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[Moondog]

14. That would be my point . . . .

[graywarrior]

25. Or...

[Avalux]

15. Well, do you want her back or not?

I read through the thread and I'm sensing ambivalence....if you don't want her back as a gf and just want to see her every now and then as friends, then don't respond in any way to the flowers. She wants a reaction - positive or negative.

If you want her back, then let her know. But if she's the type to 'call it off' on a whim then change her mind, you probably should pass; you deserve better.

[Bucky]

17. Oh, you're right.

I drew a real clear line. My ambivalence is all about guilt, not about regrets.
I may not deserve better--no one did anyone wrong here--but I do deserve different, and a maybe a little time off.

[MrScorpio]

28. If she starts asking for "Misty", that's when you need to get worried nt