And now I'm single.

[Gravitycollapse]

Apparently people just fall out of love with ZERO explanation. Absolutely nothing. Poof, it just disappears like some sort of magic trick.

So here's to Jagermeister, Camels and frustration.

L'Chaim

[Bertha Venation]

1. I'm sorry to hear it, Grav

I wish you the best.

[Gravitycollapse]

2. Just chugged half a bottle of Jagermeister. This can't end well.

[Wait Wut]

3. Bah!

Carpe diem! Rediscover the person inside you. That book you've been wanting to read...it's right there. That old friend you've been wondering about? He wants to have a BBQ with some old friends. That stupid comedy that the 'other' never wanted to watch? You can watch it.

You can eat what you want. Sleep as late or get up as early as you want. Your plans are your own. Turn up the music and dance in your living room to the music you like!

Until the 'real one' comes along. By that time, you'll have done all the things you've been wanting to do. Read the books that you wanted to read. Eaten a lot of food that's bad for you. Rediscovered some old friendships.

The 'real one' will wonder how someone so secure and well-adjusted has been able to stay single for so long.

You're way more important than another person makes you feel.

[Gravitycollapse]

4. I'm not secure though. I just chugged half a bottle of Jager.

I'm really sad, Wait Wut. Really sad.

[Wait Wut]

7. Of course you are.

Jager won't help. It'll make you puke and you'll feel like shit tomorrow. Too shitty to do anything productive or remotely fun.

It's normal to be sad. Allow yourself that, but abusing yourself doesn't need to be a part of it. Don't let sad swallow you.

You're filled with doubt, sadness, insecurity, etc. I've been there a few times. I think probably everyone here can say the same. Make yourself do things. Get up in the morning and take a shower. Go run some errands.

You will be okay. I promise. It's going to suck for a bit. It's going to hurt. Eventually, it will become a memory and you will have moved on to something more promising.

Try not to finish that bottle.

[applegrove]

5. Cry a little. Makes you adjust your path in life a little. And you get closer to finding the right

one.

[SwissTony]

6. Agreed. Don't be scared to experience grief.

We've all been there.

It might take a few months (and a bit of Jagermeister - not too much now!!!). And, hopefully, soon you'll find the one you want.

[Pholus]

8. If that's the case, you're better off! :)

There is always an explanation -- it is likely just one that she can't actually articulate if she wants to continue to think of herself as a good person.

Hang in there -- I'll bet you anything that you'll conclude one day soon that was a good, not a sad, moment.

Take care of yourself!

[Gravitycollapse]

9. Went to the corner store. 30 pack of rolling rock, two packs of smokes and some oreos.

Let's have a good time, y'all.

[fizzgig]

10. make sure you keep watered up

i'm sorry you're hurting.

[Gravitycollapse]

11. I gave her everything. I was always there for her.

One of the last things she said to me before I got out of the car was "We never should have dated." That fucking hurts, fizzgig. Like all we had was nothing for her.

I loved her. I really did. And she blew it. I still love her. Now all I can do is cry and drink.

[fizzgig]

13. it's not necessarily the best way to handle things

but sometimes it's the only way you can, i understand being in that place.

it fucking hurts and i don't want to give you any bullshit or platitudes about it, but i'm here to talk for a bit if you need.

[Gravitycollapse]

15. She helped me overcome a lot of shit in my life. Now I'm back where I was.

I thought I had overcome a lot of my demons. Now they're back and they want to let me know.

[fizzgig]

24. give yourself time to grieve

then the time to confront them again

[HeiressofBickworth]

12. I hear you

My husband came home from work one day and said he didn't want to be married any more. We had been together for 17 years. No reasons given. He was gone the next day. Six months of grief counseling taught me that I didn't need to know the reason -- the fact was that he didn't want to be married any more and he left. The task was to pick up the pieces and move on.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. you type purdy good for a drunk ...

just sayin'


and ...

[Gravitycollapse]

16. I want her back. I'm not over this. I can't be.

I want this to be like it was not to long ago. When I went over to her place and we would read critical theory together and make love. I want that back. But I know it's never coming back.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

17. I know. I am sorry you are hurting but, dang!

your mad drunk typing skillz are impressive

Have one on me, bro

[Gravitycollapse]

18. I'm a lightweight. So I get drunk really fast and sober up really fast.

What this means is that the usual motorskills you lose while shitfaced are not always gone for me until the very edge. Don't worry, I'll get there though.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

19. ok -- if you say so ... for you:

[Gravitycollapse]

20. Thank you...

[LeftofObama]

21. I gave this advice once before and it might fit here. If not just ignore it.

Go ahead and be sad for a day or two. That's perfectly normal.

After a couple of days think about this: You are not mourning the loss of a person, you are mourning the loss of the way you thought things were going to be. You might have had visions of the house with the white picket fence and a couple of kids and a dog or two. The exact same things you had visions of with this person you can have with the "right" one! I'll close by paraphrasing a quote from the show, Frasier..."Just because things didn't work out the way you wanted them to doesn't mean they don't have a way of working out anyway."

[alarimer]

22. I'm sorry to hear it.

Sort of what happened to me a few months ago.

[MerryBlooms]

23. ((hug))

You are loved... maybe not in the way you expect or hope for, but you are loved.

Hold your head high.

A spring in your step.

A smile on your face.

[Mojo Electro]

25. Hang in there, bro.

What you are going through WILL pass, and something else amazing will come along.

[ZombieHorde]

26. Breakups suck.

I've been through them. I drank too. Fortunately, I was wise enough to not call or text her while drunk.

The pain will decrease. You will meet someone new. You will find the love you deserve. However, you will probably have to heal yourself first.

Take care.

[u4ic]

27. .

[walkerbait41]

29. Sorry to hear it

So my wife wanted to send you a hug

[LWolf]

30. Been there.

It's kind of a shock.

When it happened to me, it took me about 4 months to quit looking under the bed and behind the fridge to see where it went, and get angry.

I eventually got past it. Mostly.