Why do people assume a guy who isn't married is gay?
If I was, so what.
Since I'm not, also so what.
But I'm 53, and have never been married.
Had three sisters go through divorces, 2 of them nasty.
No "bad" kids or grand-kids.
So why do some of my older relatives, (like an aunt today,) look down on me for having never married?
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SHE IS JEALIOUS !
" we had a two ring ceremony = the wedding ring and the suffer-ing "
Good one!
you want to or not. Everybody else does it; it's the rules.
Oh, and 
....I am also a singleton.
Social pressure can be brutal. Though they won't admit it, there's probably some festering resentment over the free time singletons have that they don't.
The "whether you want to or not" part is the worst. One exhausted coworker was explaining why they had so many kids so soon: He said ( of he and his wife ) "we just wanted to get it over with". WTF? Like it's a necessary evil or a root canal or whatever. 
I know how you feel. I've been married before, but unmarried for almost 20 years and raised my kids on my own. The women I work with are all married, and my parents, who have been married for almost 50 years, can't relate to my life. It's my choice and I'm perfectly happy being single, but they seem to think I'm lonely and need to get married to be 'complete'. I get tired of my married friends trying to fix me up with men who are looking for a wife.
I don't let it bother me though. Not everyone's path in life is the same. 
We are part of the vanguard. Now that women don't need to marry to get food or a roof over their heads, the number of voluntarily single women AND men is jumping pretty steadily. Where I live, the single and childless adults outnumber those married with families.
I have to say that a lot of my women friends, who are in apparently happy marriages, are very frank about the fact that if they had to do it over, they would remain single and/or childless.
I don't care if people think I'm gay or not.
One of my grandmas was Hollywood. She'd have been happy to set me up with a cute young woman or man. (Although we had entirely different ideas about "cute."
I grew up in a very gay friendly household. As kids my siblings and I learned to keep what we knew to ourselves, which is sad, but gay couples could be themselves in my parent's house.
These days among my family, and my wife's family, it's entirely unremarkable to be a straight couple, a gay couple, or middle aged and never married. Among our siblings and cousins we've got all.
