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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI have a fear of public speaking: glossophobia.
It's something I'm going to have to overcome.
I thought I would tackle it head on last night in my math class at school. We were asked to try a difficult practice problem. The professor said that whoever got up in front of the class and solved the problem correctly would get some bonus points. Fewer bonus points would also be rewarded simply for trying even if the solution was wrong.
I was confident of my solution, but much less so of getting up in front of the class and explaining it to everyone. I've had a fear of public speaking for as long as I can remember. It's much more intense when I'm actually standing in front of a group of people. I have less trouble speaking up when I'm seated with the class.
I'm going into a field where I will probably be required to speak in front of groups, so I'm going to have to find a way to get over this. I do have to take a public speaking class at school. I suppose that might help, but I really need some tips to help me get over this fear.
I made it through my solution in front of the class alright and got the correct answer for maximum bonus points, but I was probably obviously nervous and I stammered a bit. Is this one of those things that you feel more comfortable with the more you do it? Is the key just to speak publicly more often?
Wounded Bear
(58,670 posts)Even in your Public Speaking class, that's what you'll probably spend a lot of time doing, getting up in front of the group and speaking.
You'll get useful tips from the class, but nothing beats just doing it. In time, the nervousness should dissipate, assuming it's not a deep seated phobia, which doesn't sound like it's the case. Toastmasters used to be an organization that helped people deal with this. Don't know if they're still around, but they helped a lot of people. Mostly, that's what they do, have you write a speech and then deliver it to a group.
Congrats on gettin up in front of the class and solving that problem.
One thing to think about is that most of the listeners actually want to hear what you have to say, and generally don't want you to fail.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)But the more you do it, the better you'll get.
I've done a lot of public speaking (mostly to college classes), and I still get nervous at times. Somehow, miraculously, I've survived. You will, too.
The first time is the scariest, but it's all downhill from there. With practice you'll just get better and better. You'll still be nervous at times, but but you'll still deliver your presentation effectively.
This is not something to worry about. You'll be fine.
lastlib
(23,248 posts)Start out speaking to small groups if possible. Know exactly what you're going to say--that will help your confidence. Remember to think of yourself as the superior force in the room when you're speaking--that's why you're up in front. And if you try to visualize your audience in their underwear, it will help you do that.
Yes doing it more often helps you acclimate to it. The more experience you get at it, the more natural it will feel. Remember, unless you're at a Tea party rally, no one is going to throw eggs at you.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)sharp_stick
(14,400 posts)When I was an undergraduate I realized that I was going to have to learn to speak in front of a bunch of people quite often if I was going to be successful.
It terrified me, even speaking in front of my class gave me the shakes and dry mouth. I think you may be in the same boat.
A professor suggested Toastmasters when I asked for advice and the University had a club. It took some work but honestly it was one of the best things I ever did.
I still get nervous, but I can stand in front of hundreds of people now and deliver a lecture or a speech without puking on the floor and that's a plus for any career.
I don't know what the fees are like anymore but our club dues were pretty reasonable back in the 90's.
http://www.toastmasters.org/MainMenuCategories/WhyJoin.aspx
graywarrior
(59,440 posts)He turned his fear of public speaking into a career doing seminars and workshops. He also does a Laugh Yourself Healthy program that incorporates telling jokes to an audience.
The cost of Toastmasters is approximately $100 per year that includes the initial fee of $20, then $36 a year, and possible rent for the room.
What area are you in. Mr. G could get you a contact.
Avalux
(35,015 posts)It takes changing your internal message and giving yourself a pep talk. Know your material (practice in front of a mirror), and use breathing techniques to stay calm right before speaking. At least that's what works for me.
When I was younger, I would start to speak and feel my throat tighten, like I couldn't get the words out. I'd somehow manage to get through it but when finished, couldn't remember anything I had just said - was a blur. Horrible.
I don't get nervous anymore speaking to small groups. I have learned to make eye contact with my audience, use open body language and 'move' around the room. When I have to speak to large groups, it takes a lot of prep work on my part, but I know what works for me now. It will take time but eventually you'll get more comfortable. Hang in there.
Tobin S.
(10,418 posts)I appreciate the pointers and the recommendations for toastmasters.
rug
(82,333 posts)staring at pictures of MFM.
If only it were as easy as DU.
MiddleFingerMom
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... I had terrible, TERRIBLE stagefright -- worsening the closer we got to the gig. Fifteen SECONDS into the
first song, I was having a great time and was ready to boogie all night long.
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I had a radio show and I was not nervous at all speaking to all those people out there.
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But speaking in front of a crowd? I'd get pretty nervous. I did a twist on the naked thing. I'd tell the audience
that I was "nervous and trying to picture you naked, but I ALWAYS goof it up, so I hope none of you are
offended by my imaginary nudity right now".
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Then I would actually picture myself naked and you know I can take on the WORLD like that.
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elleng
(130,974 posts)Had to make a speech to attain my b.a. degree. I forget the course, but it was my last endeavor, and the title: The Pepsi Generation, that much, I recall. I passed!
Chan790
(20,176 posts)I still stammer and feel like I'm on fire. You just have to cope with it.