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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI think I just accidentally went on a date with a republican...
I mean there were red flags, he wanted to meet earlier in the evening, he wanted to meet at an Outback, and he didn't hold back the first thing he ordered was the Bloomin Onion talk about excess! I figured heck I'm on the date I might as well enjoy myself so I just started drinking... And an hour and half later I am lost, dazed, and confused.
Has this ever happened to you? What did you do the minute they admitted they voted for McCain (and by default Palin)! I mean to put I bluntly I am a gay male, and I just don't even comprehend how you can separate that and vote against your self interests.
And just FYI we split the check but I think he ended up taking a subsidy from me, go figure.
TexasTowelie
(112,252 posts)It doesn't sound like you had any contagious contact.
FWIW, was he carrying a Log Cabin Republican key chain?
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)I took my glasses off so I didn't even have to see what was going on my coping mechanism!
UTUSN
(70,711 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)UTUSN
(70,711 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Sweet Freedom
(3,995 posts)Just to be safe.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)elleng
(130,974 posts)Don't hate me!!!
He did NOT vote for W (my daughter told me. We were separated at the time.)
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)elleng
(130,974 posts)he knew my points of view, and when he was annoyed that I had contributed something (small) to Wes Clark, I just said, 'He needs it more than we do.' As I said (edited) earlier, he did not vote for W.
And, interesting, years before we met, he was elected to Ohio House (from Cincinnati,) and his 'maiden' speech was in support of the ERA. (I was not a total fool, to marry him.)
UTUSN
(70,711 posts)elleng
(130,974 posts)which is what its all about, and didn't have to agree all the time. He was intelligent, articulate, and had a good sense of humor.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)GreenPartyVoter
(72,378 posts)never discuss politics or religion.
elleng
(130,974 posts)We had lots of common interests, so the fact that he was repub (NOT repuG at the time) interfered very little. Other crap interfered.
As to religion, we agreed! He was raised Catholic, rather doctrinaire, I Jewish, not doctrinaire at all, and neither of us was observant, but when it came to finding schools for our daughters, we found a 'liberal' Catholic school which we all loved. And he was surprised that he decided to send his kids there due to less than great experiences himself! And we 'observed' holidays, ALL holidays, Eastover, Chanukamas, etc etc etc!
GreenPartyVoter
(72,378 posts)Chan790
(20,176 posts)I never date Republicans...I just sleep with them. It's kinky...I make them read me Keynes (and Piketty) in bed, tell me all the ways Ronald Reagan was a traitor to the American public and we can even role-play "America's Awesomest President and his adventures in the Oval Office helping people have better lives!"...if they're good, I let them call me "Barack"
Who's a naughty supply-sider!
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)... but then you might not be kidding?
Skittles
(153,169 posts)I'LL MAKE SURE YOU NEVER DO THAT AGAIN; yes INDEED
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Although I'd rather direct your anger towards OkCupid, I mean c'mon how was that even a match!
pink-o
(4,056 posts)Both speak to the fact that he is working against his own best interests. Sorry, don't date masochists!!!
I am a straight woman, and Republican men disgust me. I can't imagine my liberal friends who are interested in women enjoying the company of an R chick either.
So no, I don't believe you're being shallow or too rigid by not associating with whack jobs. No matter how cute they happen to be!
Solly Mack
(90,773 posts)Hug?
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)But that's the only thing outback makes I can stand I think their steaks are rubbish.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Meanwhile I took food home with me for lunch today...
Typical liberal!
Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)raccoon
(31,111 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I don't wamt to talk to them.
LynneSin
(95,337 posts)I'd walk out on a date after that!
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Libertarian! Ahhhhhhh!
LynneSin
(95,337 posts)Tea Party is starting to get a bad reputation and I think more of their members are straying away from that term and starting to use Libertarian. Which I feel bad because I've met some nice Libertarians and they may be gun nuts and no taxes but they are also for marriage equality and women's rights (since they feel no goverment should interfere with who you love or what you do to your body). You can tell the tea party ones because they will be anti-choice homophobes.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)But who knows, I know I dealt with some internal homophobia for a bit so maybe he is as well.
LynneSin
(95,337 posts)wow, didn't think that was possible
It kinda reminds me of the opening scene of the first episode of the TV Series 'True Blood'
Two horny human teenagers drive by a liquor store that says 'Tru Blood sold here' and they are excited to see if they could actually meet a vampire (and get some Vamp blood which is a drug for humans). The guy working behind the counter looks all goth with the pitch black hair and the goth getup and funny accent so the kids assume he is a vampire. Whilst in the background some redneck, overweight looks like he came from a Tea Party rally guy is perusing the liquor selection.
In the end it turns out the goth guy was nothing more than a Vampire wannabe and the redneck - turns out he was the vampire.
Can't judge a book by it's cover.
redwitch
(14,944 posts)Who maybe smoke weed.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Remember the scene in GATTACA... Basically that happened.
Avalux
(35,015 posts)I see this guy at work every now and then...he's attractive, likes to be active outdoors, educated. When he asked me out for a drink I said yes because my initial impression didn't set off any alarms.
Soooo......we met for margaritas after work. About 20 minutes into our conversation, my companion blurted out that Obama is an idiot; a Harvard idiot who doesn't understand how to run this country. He kept talking and veered into crazyland - claiming he's examined Obama's birth certificate and it's a fake, so he shouldn't even be president. Keep in mind, we don't know each other, it's early in our 'date', and he starts with this! I asked how he examined the birth certificate, if he actually held it in his hands and what gives him the expertise to claim such a thing. He said he examined it online and he believes the reasons given by 'experts' who say it's fake.
So I realized what I was dealing with, downed my margarita and ordered another. Since he had ruined any chance at all with me, I decided to stick around a bit and mess with him. I'd never actually talked to someone so extreme and being the researcher that I am, asked him question after question...to which he gladly provided enthusiastically disturbing answers.
Did I mention I live in Texas? Anyway....this guy loves Ted Cruz and is going to do whatever he can to make sure he becomes president. He attends Tea Party rallies and has lots of guns, loves the idea of open carry anywhere you want. Eventually I got bored and changed the subject; right after he told me he hates his mother I decided it was time to go.
I got up from the table, smiled and shook his hand, then said "I don't think we're very compatible, so let's not do this again." He just stared at me and I walked out.
He did text me after that (WHY??) but I ignored it. When I see him now I only say hello as a professional courtesy.
Like you, I can't separate politics from relationship; could never date or be friends with someone so wrong-headed and in opposition to my views.
Oye! A Ted Cruz fan!
You have more skill than I do, all we did was shake hands and I think he understood that was it but you provided such clarity at the end. I have to get better at that!
Avalux
(35,015 posts)Did he think I didn't really mean what I said? Probably.
All we can do is frame encounters with idiots like these as adventures; and I did learn how the mind of a tea partier works. Hopefully both of us will never have to go through that again!
Shankapotomus
(4,840 posts)I'm nothing to howl myself at but I couldn't reward a right winger with companionship either, especially on the level of romantic attraction. It would feel like an enormous betrayal.
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)bigwillq
(72,790 posts)LOL
That place is just awful.
Went there once...waited 45 minutes to get a table and the food was awful.
Had it again (takeout at work): Again, awful.
Generic Brad
(14,275 posts)There are people with taste impairments who can only taste excessive burning salt. Outback is a viable option for them.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)as I normally do most restaurants. Just thought it was crap. Don't see the appeal. But the place is always packed.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)Then she accidentally married him.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)ailsagirl
(22,897 posts)At least, people who were nice (seeming), then I'd find out they were rethugs!!! I always beat a hasty retreat. It's like taking a swig of milk, only to find it's sour!!!!!
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)We never married and broke up. Moved in together (unmarried) and lived in sin for a couple years. It was a lot of fun...corrupting. She was one sick cookie when I got done.
irisblue
(32,980 posts)you may have saved my femme self. UGH... a republican.... I am soooo sorry this happened to you.
better luck my friend!!!
Iggo
(47,558 posts)Agschmid
(28,749 posts)kairos12
(12,862 posts)Riftaxe
(2,693 posts)rings or blooms! The rest might be an indication the was republican, you did pass up an opportunity to spend the rest of his life setting him straight tho...just sayin'.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Riftaxe
(2,693 posts)Him/her lord in the end, it not matter anyways
(made me think for a second too)
But on the battered onion products i am prepared to fight you to the death!
>> inserts star trek video of kirk vs spock in pon far<<
<looked but not find the video, then again it been a few decades, i might have misremembered>