A love story.
My wife lost her job recently. My initial response was to try to find a better paying job of my own so she wouldn't have to work. And I found one. However, it would involve me being out on the road 5.5 days a week. I talked to my wife about it and she thought that would be alright if I thought it was the right thing to do. I accepted the job. I'm supposed to report for training on March 30th.
As soon as I got off the phone with the new company, I felt strangely troubled. I called them to accept the job feeling confident that I was doing the right thing, but as soon as I hung up I didn't feel that way any longer. I felt like I was losing something that was very important to me. I became afraid.
As the evening wore on, I became more and more filled with a sense of dread. That was Thursday of this week. By the next day, I realized that I could not in good conscience accept the new job. I love my wife too much to do it. I have grown accustomed and comfortable in my new way of life that started four years ago. I suppose this is selfish in a way. I want to be with my wife so much that I cannot do what would make at least one aspect of her life easier. But I am afraid that I would be miserable without her. And even though she said she was okay with me accepting the new job, I think she was agreeing to it for what she thought was my benefit.
The money simply isn't worth the sacrifice. I don't know if any amount of money would be. I would lose my heart in the deal.
I'm going to call the new company and tell them that I've changed my mind and why and apologize to them. I can't give up my love.
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I think you're doing the right thing by calling them to let them know why you've changed your mind.
Good luck to you both...
No, I don't have any brothers. 
I have three younger sisters. That might, in part, explain my empathy for women.
you have been through so much, if your instinct is telling you that this isn't the right move, trust in yourself.
I have read, and often not commented on, so many of the posts of your life travels here over the years that I know when you share something like this you probably have more faith ins yourself than you know.
You know your beloved wife better than anyone. You know yourself just the same, I assume. The door closing (he losing her job will lead to another opportunity and if you viscerally feel — as it seems you do — that this is not the right one, I say go with that.
I would not say that if I did not feel a strong identification with what you are going through.
You will find a comfort zone. All I can suggest is to do nothing unless you absolutely have to. I believe that something will come to you and your wife. You won't have that feeling of dread — that is a terrible feeling.
Peace,
Raine
...in you. What woman would not thrill to know that her husband felt this way about her?
It takes a great deal of courage to listen to that voice, to the feeling you had that it wasn't right. A great deal. 