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where the OP responds to every post? I'm not fond of that practice. It's not the worst offense of forum etiquette, by any stretch of imagination. But it seems to scream "Look at me," especially when some of the OP's replies (or many of them) are simply an acknowledgement that you posted.
Just curious how others perceive it.
rug
(82,333 posts)True Dough
(17,320 posts)that this ground has been covered before. I realize the DU has been around for a long time and I haven't (at least not as part of this discussion board).
Anyway, it's not a "die on this hill" sort of issue, of course. I just wanted to stick my finger in the air and see which way the wind is blowing.
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)I think it is good manners to reply to anyone who responds to your OP.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)Unless the thread is very old, i try to respond to anyone who takes the time to post to me.
OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)At at least, if the reply warrants a response and I can do it with something more substantial than a "yep".
For instance:
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: Yep!
I wouldn't likely respond to that yep.
But
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: I agree! What's your favorite flavor?
I'd respond with "why, chocolate lab of course!"
Or
OP: Puppies are the best!
Reply: Kittens only you dickbag!
My response would be "what are you? Communist?!"
But mostly i appreciate when people take the time to reply to my ops and I want them to know it.
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)hermetic
(8,310 posts)If I start a conversation, when someone replies I will most certainly acknowledge them, when possible. Not to is rude, IMO.
irisblue
(33,023 posts)I felt it was necessary& polite to say thank you to those who sent condolences. If I'd asked for ad ice & DUers answered, again I'd say thank you, seems polite. Just my opinion.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,699 posts)I used to post a lot more than I do now.
People often chimed in and I felt as several folks have said today, that it's the nice thing to do to respond to everyone.
I felt that if people were nice enough to chime in on my OP, the least I could do was respond.
So I did.
I always tried to have intelligent responses.
annabanana
(52,791 posts)has a good word for everyone!
Skittles
(153,193 posts)more power to them
ProfessorGAC
(65,168 posts). . .when the poster of an OP never joins back into the discussion. This seems far worse than in participating in one's own OP.
Skittles
(153,193 posts)NJCher
(35,729 posts)Just the opposite. It is a nice, friendly touch to the forum and I, for one, appreciate it. As long as the person has something to say in response, I say more power to responses.
I remember when SCE used to respond to each post on the Sunday LOLkatz thread. I understand why he doesn't do that anymore, but I miss it.
Cher
It's friendly and nice.
Iggo
(47,565 posts)shenmue
(38,506 posts)Jamaal510
(10,893 posts)as a way to keep his/her thread kicked so more people would notice it.
astral
(2,531 posts)A person may feel interested in an engaged conversation, may have an interest in the replies, may just post to find out what others think, or may post and be busy with other things and just neglect, or forget, to come back to the thread.
I really dont think its bad etiquette one way or another.
lindysalsagal
(20,730 posts)but not out of obligation. I like to see where it goes on its own.
Sometimes my fav posts die on the spot. Go figure?
betsuni
(25,614 posts)Some have something to say for every response and it's interesting, others are obviously responding just to keep their post kicked. I feel guilty when I post something and can't think of anything to say to comments and also when I post something and reply to comments just to keep it kicked. This is why I don't do OPs very often.
Fla Dem
(23,741 posts)But I do get a little peeved when someone starts a controversial post that creates a lot of give and take and the original poster just checks out and never joins in the debate.
True Dough
(17,320 posts)If the individual has a penchant for winding people up, then I understand where you're coming from.
But some people may occasionally broach controversial subjects to "check the temperature" or to better educate themselves, then it's not offensive to sit back and absorb the replies rather than to advertise one's rather limited grasp of the subject matter.
A HERETIC I AM
(24,376 posts)"Thanks for this. That was really funny/sweet/interesting etc, I think it is perfectly fine to respond to each with a "You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed it" or similar.
After all, if you are in a crowd and people say those sorts of things to YOU, don't you respond to each individual?
True Dough
(17,320 posts)There's a middle ground. Most DUers find it.
A HERETIC I AM
(24,376 posts)No need. I don't read every thread, so that point is irrelevant. Do you read every single thread on this website? That must keep you VERY busy!
Yeah, but so what? That's what the ignore function is for. If there are certain posters who consistently post in a manner that you find annoying, place them on ignore.
Problem solved.
Look, I get the point you are trying to make, but there are things that people do on DU that I find MUCH more aggravating.
Responding to others on a thread they started is not high on my list.
True Dough
(17,320 posts)A HERETIC I AM
(24,376 posts)I answered. You responded with what I consider an absurdity that deserved a response. Now we are having a conversation.
If you don't want to have a conversation, or don't care to read a facsimile of one, then I would suggest there are better ways to spend your online time.
True Dough
(17,320 posts)I know you don't mind the inane replies, you already said so!
Algernon Moncrieff
(5,790 posts)If you post, and just let others respond, you get accused of "post and run." If you respond to everything, you get accused of "look at me."
Honestly, it depends on the thread.
ohnoyoudidnt
(1,858 posts)who took the time to give you response/feedback on your OP. It is something I need to work on myself.