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Spazito

(50,338 posts)
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 11:34 AM Feb 14

As lighthouse keepers, we've kept our love alive through endless storms

When people discover that my husband and I were lighthouse keepers together on the Pacific Coast for 13 years, their facial expressions betray horror at the idea of living in isolation on some remote island. Or their eyes droop to half-mast, followed by a dreamy smile, as they perhaps imagine a burly lightkeeper wielding a telescope, while a willowy young woman is propped on a rock gazing out to sea, yearning for someone — or something.

Enter reality: my husband, Jeff, wore foul-weather gear. So did I. Romantic pheromones consisted of a whiff of diesel or gasoline laced with salt spray and an undertow of healthy sweat.

Jeff is an early bird, whereas I'm a night owl, so he worked the morning shift, rising at 4 a.m., while I radioed my last weather report at 10:40 p.m. from Lennard Island, B.C. We worked seven days a week for months on end, often without anyone else's companionship for long stretches. How do love and romance survive this and the endless days of rain, fog and nearly constant winds?

When lighthouse couples work together, sometimes the relationship can devolve into a power struggle. Self-awareness slips away when eroding mental health is an issue. More than a few people have confided in me they could not live in such close quarters with their spouse, let alone work with them. Perhaps what they don't realize is that the beauty of shift work is that you do have time and space to yourself, and Jeff and I both liked those quiet hours.

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https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/first-person-lighthouse-keepers-romance-1.7114362

Happy Valentines Day Everyone!

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As lighthouse keepers, we've kept our love alive through endless storms (Original Post) Spazito Feb 14 OP
I have lighthouse keepers in my family. LakeArenal Feb 14 #1
I have had a life-long love affair with lighthouses... Spazito Feb 14 #2
I worked with my husband for 15 years in our MOMFUDSKI Feb 14 #3
What a great story! Loved reading all about how you live and work. Is this your story? flying_wahini Feb 14 #4
It is not my story, I just loved reading it and... Spazito Feb 14 #5
I grew up in the shadows of lighthouses. OldBaldy1701E Feb 14 #6
Love the photos! Spazito Feb 14 #7
Home. OldBaldy1701E Feb 14 #8
Sounds wonderful! Spazito Feb 14 #9

Spazito

(50,338 posts)
2. I have had a life-long love affair with lighthouses...
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 11:40 AM
Feb 14

they fascinate me as do those brave souls that operate them. From all that I know they are, indeed, a tough group.

MOMFUDSKI

(5,537 posts)
3. I worked with my husband for 15 years in our
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 11:43 AM
Feb 14

siding biz. Folks would comment on how well we got along. After a lifetime of office work and politics I felt I had the best corner office being outdoors. Nailed soffit and cut siding and could stand back at day’s end to see what was accomplished. I was happy to be there with him. Happy for you two.

flying_wahini

(6,594 posts)
4. What a great story! Loved reading all about how you live and work. Is this your story?
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 11:55 AM
Feb 14

Questions to ask if it’s you….

How did Jeff find this work? Did he do it before you married him? Is he as solitary as you are? I presume that you have all the bells and whistles to keep you entertained like internet, and all but does it ever go down and then for how long? Are you from there? How long do you work on and off?

Many questions as I have always been fascinated by this lifestyle.

Otherwise Thanks for posting!

Spazito

(50,338 posts)
5. It is not my story, I just loved reading it and...
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 12:00 PM
Feb 14

thought it was a perfect love story to share on Valentines Day. I, too, have always been fascinated by both lighthouses and those who operate them.

OldBaldy1701E

(5,128 posts)
6. I grew up in the shadows of lighthouses.
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 01:51 PM
Feb 14

Two, mainly. Bodie Island and Currituck. they were a part of my childhood that was magical. And, yes, we knew a couple to tended. Always a great place to see. Back to you, Captain! (Back in the day, lighthouse keepers were addressed as 'Captain', even though they held the actual rank of Chief bosun's mate, as I recall. Don't quote me on that.)





OldBaldy1701E

(5,128 posts)
8. Home.
Wed Feb 14, 2024, 02:05 PM
Feb 14

Well, we did not live next door, but Bodie Island was not too far down the beach.

Just remember... very few people have ever lain in the sand, in the dark, staring up at the night sky while the waves crash and just reach your toes. (And you remembered to apply mosquito repellent or they would carry you off... LOL.)

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