William's thread got me thinking...who are the most important people in your Gay life?

[WillParkinson]

Like William my Mom is #1. She knew before I came out that I was gay (the "Kiss Me I'm Gay" button I picked up at PrideFest in Chicago MAY have had something to do with it). She never judged me. She never rushed me to tell her. She waited patiently for when I felt comfortable enough and secure enough to come out.

Also Kenny, my best friend. We've known each other since we were 5. He was the first person I ever came out to. I was so freaking nervous. I had no idea what his reaction would be. I didn't know if he'd reject me. When I finally worked up the courage to tell him his words are something I don't know I can ever forget...."So? What about it?" 43 years later it's still a non-issue for him and he remains my best friend.

Paul. What can I say about Paul? He's the most important person in my life after Mom. When I was growing up I was so confused. I was so hurt and angry all the time. I never thought I'd find love. I never thought anyone would be capable of giving it to me. Sex? Sure. Love? Heck no. Then came Paul. When he first uttered the phrase, "I love you" I was over the moon. Years of anguish melted away. I admit that I'm not sure HOW he can love me, but I won't ever take it for granted.

So those are the most important people in my life. What about you?

[HillWilliam]

1. I wish I could say I had ever been particularly close to my parents

It has been said that the family you keep is the family you make. There is one fellow I've known over 30 years and is a dear friend to me. When my last ex became violent and I had to leave my home, he had a couch and consolation ready for me. He saw me through the court case and calmed my nerves.

When Rob and I went through a rough patch a long time ago, Evan was there again, stopping by often to make sure I was still upright and breathing. Rob and I left south Florida and Evan and his two partners (yes, there are successful, long-term 3's) moved to the NE coast of Florida. We're still in touch and I expect we always will be.

Another fellow who was a long-time friend of my partner's is someone I regard as an older brother. If I could have picked a brother, David would be the one. I feel lucky and blessed to have not one but two bestest friends.

Then there's the love of my life, DUer HillbillyBob (aka Rob). He's the one person in the world I can tell anything to and get an objective response. He's my love, my friend, my confident, my prankin'-buddy, sharer of life's adventures and quiet moments. We're like two halves of the very same thing.

[BillStein]

2. Family and friends

My husband, Rich, most of all.... I think I'm lucky to actually know what it's like to love, and be loved...

My siblings and nephews, who love me, and love Rich, just 'cause they see how happy he makes me.

[Rowdyboy]

3. My mom, who gave me unconditional love and support every day that she lived...and Michael,

whogives me a reason to get out of bed every morning. I have close friends going back 40 years but none even come closse to what he means to me.

[closeupready]

4. I haven't been having much luck in my interpersonal relationships of late.

There is one friend I have, John, who is older than me, but totally gets me when we talk about stuff. He is completely supportive and has always been there for me.

As to family, I would say two things: William's post captured my thoughts, but also I have an older female cousin who has ALWAYS been there for me, when I really needed her, and I will always have a special place in my heart just for her, no matter what. She helped me through the most difficult period of my life (by far), even though I'm not sure she realizes that - maybe she does, but we don't talk about that period, because it's just too painful.

[beyurslf]

5. My kids, my parents and siblings.

A couple very close friends who have always been there, especially when I needed them. And even when i didn't know I needed them.