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Related: About this forumHow Not to be Defensive When Accused of Transphobia (A Guide For Cis People)
By Lisa Harney
QuestioningTransphobia.com
5) Dont Make It About Your Accuser. ...Dont tell them theyre trying to silence you theyre not, theyre trying to tell you how your words and actions hurt them. Dont tell them theyre driving you away. Dont make the accusation that any disagreement with a trans person is labeled as transphobia. None of these things are true, and trying to claim they are is simply an attempt to stop others from pointing out your transphobic behavior. ...
6) Dont "Hate the Sin, Not the Sinner." Dont try to justify your actions by claiming youre opposed to transgender politics. Just dont. Youre rationalizing your transphobia and imposing your worldview on trans people, by assigning motives and politics to them that they may not themselves have. ...Youre not dealing with theory, youre dealing with human beings, and their lives. To you, the question as to whether trans people have valid identities may be a matter of theory. For trans people, its a matter of life and death.
Link:
http://www.questioningtransphobia.com/?p=2632
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)bookmarked.
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)I'm going to try to remember that when thinking about or addressing all subjects, not solely TG issues.
xchrom
(108,903 posts)I think that would be good.
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)Honestly, I can see where some might see the article as confrontational, and would tend to react... well, defensively.
Then I would feel compelled to... um, defend the piece from criticism I considered unnecessarily defensive.
Don't wanna go there tonight.
I certainly wouldn't object (and, really, would have no right to!) if you'd like to re-post elsewhere, though.
NMDemDist2
(49,313 posts)I probably am one and don't even know it
TheWraith
(24,331 posts)Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)IOW, opposite of transgendered.
You'll sometimes see the term "gender-normative" for the same thing, but "cisgendered" avoids the implication that this status is a norm (although obviously it is more common than trans).
More information: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender
Must confess, I don't find the word rolls easily off the tongue, and I haven't tended to use it often, myself.
But here's (another) case where having a wider vocabulary makes it easier to just plain think about a topic, let alone discuss it.
Thanks.
William769
(55,147 posts)La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)..."Finally, I concluded by suggesting that whatever card claims of racism may prove to be for the black and brown, the denial card is far and away the trump, and whites play it regularly: a subject to which we will return"
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)I had contemplated cross-posting in General Discussion, but felt that the potential for skirmishing was too great.
Or just more than I wanted to manage right now, at least.
Hopefully the discussion can be a bit more focused in a small group.
And I really like the way you phrased it:
Emphasis added, 'cause I think that's a real aha! moment way of thinking about it.
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)in my opinion, all of this involves supporting women's rights. right to no longer be seen as a women and the right to be seen as a woman and the right to be seen as more/less of a woman.
Initech
(100,080 posts)God, if I had a dollar every time I heard a Christian conservative utter those words I'd be fucking rich.
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)I'm not a sinner.
And I'd go a step further: There's no such thing as "sin."
Only cruelty, so reflexive and habitual, so casual in its contempt and so satisfied amid the harm it causes, that it rises to the level of Evil.
Real evil.
Which is an entirely human attribute or artifact, no god or gods required.
marginlized
(357 posts)Only cruelty, so reflexive and habitual, so casual in its contempt and so satisfied amid the harm it causes, that it rises to the level of Evil.
I'll remember that.
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)Initech
(100,080 posts)Are the ones most likely to get caught doing it. It is cruel. I would like to think that at some point in our evolution we will put this crap aside and take things like this seriously but I doubt it will happen at least in my lifetime.