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slightlv

(7,782 posts)
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:22 PM 5 hrs ago

Is it just old age?

Last Sunday (3/15), I tried to nudge a queen sized bed a little bit more away from the wall with my leg. It's nothing I haven't done for decades. This time had dramatic effect, tho. I immediately fell to the floor, feeling like I'd broken my leg! After yelling for some time and no one hearing me, I crawled to my bedroom to at least be able to sit on a rug. My grandson finally found me, lifted me up and put me on the bed for the night. I had him get crutches I'd stashed in a closet from the time my dog broke my leg on a walk. This time around, tho, I found the experience completely different. Using them had me nearly on the floor three steps out of four. This pain WAS different from when I broke my other leg.

Problem was, hubby was getting out of the hospital the next day and coming home. After frantic phone calls all around, my sister (a teacher on spring break), and my grandson went to get my hubby, and my friend around the corner called the EMS on me. I wasn't much for a trip to the ER, because last time it took a visit to my rheumatologist to diagnose my broken leg. The ER missed it completely! And, all I could think of was one more EMS and ER bill I was going to have to figure out how to pay. (Hubby's made several trips over the last few months).

ER said the leg was broken, but I'd torn ligaments around my knee, torn and basically otherwise screwed up all the arthritis that was in the knee, and said something about water on the knee (I'm still not sure what that is, or how it fits in). Told me they'd give me the name of a specialist to see, but I never got the name or number. Didn't even remember it until long after I was back at home.

I've been taking it easy all week... barely walking and using a walker when I do have to get up and head to the bathroom, e.g. But the pain just doesn't go away. On an every minute view, the pain is a sharp ache around the knee, and it's now paining me all the way down my shin to my ankle, as well as moving upwards to my thigh. If I move from a semi-standing or sitting position, the pain in the knee/leg nearly throws me to the floor. It's not only frustrating, it's demoralizing and depressing. I deal with chronic pain enough with my back and my autoimmune disease. This just takes it over to the top... and my "pain meds" aren't doing a darned thing to dampen it.

I have to take hubby to the doc tomorrow (45 minutes away from home) for a follow up to his tachycardia on the Friday before I did this to my knee. I'm terrified about driving, let alone walking for all this. Hubby can take over driving if it's impossible for me, but he really shouldn't be driving any more, and I know if he does, it's just going to set my nerves on high edge. My doc is in the same area as his, so I'm hoping I can see her (or someone) to get the name of a specialist and to let her know what's happened, and maybe beg something stronger pain med-wise. I've been planning for months to go to the No Kings 2 protest on Saturday, and I still want to be there, but I'm going to need help to do it.

Has anyone done to their knee what I've done? What am I looking at? Is surgery the only option? Is there anything I could be doing to speed up healing? I'm doing the wrap/unwrap and ice/heat as well as gentle flexing when I'm in my bed. Also keeping it elevated with a pillow at a height that doesn't make it hurt more.

Decades ago, I suffered really bad arthritis in the other knee. A shot of Synvisc and I've never had trouble with that knee since. Would a shot in this knee help? Or are the "torn ligaments" a problem that's not going to be easily remedied?

I have his med appt in the big city tomorrow, a court date for him on Thursday (at least that's here in town), and the No Kings on Saturday. I really need to be able to move! (LOL) Any ideas or suggestions you could give me would be very much appreciated! I hate to say this non-healing is just because I'm growing older. Between hubby's dementia, and my body screaming at me all the time, I'm ready to give up the ghost. It's just all become too hard, especially since the MA jacked up all the copays and deductibles.
Thanks, ya'll....

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Is it just old age? (Original Post) slightlv 5 hrs ago OP
Healing vibes on the way to you & hubby, V SheltieLover 5 hrs ago #1
I hope both you and your husband are soon restored to good health. I don't know what to say LoisB 5 hrs ago #2
That sounds so stressful. One problem after another. applegrove 5 hrs ago #3
Need X-Rays. multigraincracker 4 hrs ago #4
Got em... i just dont trust slightlv 3 hrs ago #6
Oh boy - when it rains it pours - no? I have no medical advice, just this: Marie Marie 3 hrs ago #5

LoisB

(12,964 posts)
2. I hope both you and your husband are soon restored to good health. I don't know what to say
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:38 PM
5 hrs ago

about your knee (sounds like torn ligaments). Best to get a professional opinion.

applegrove

(132,039 posts)
3. That sounds so stressful. One problem after another.
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 09:47 PM
5 hrs ago

I would not let your husband drive if he has the beginnings of dementia. He is probably not allowed to. Maybe your sister can drive you to the appointment if she is on Spring Break this week (?). There are people who drive seniors to the doctors as a hobby in retirement so maybe look online for them in your area? Call them and explain the multiple emergencies.

I did something to my knee on a walk down a slight slope in the forest known as Pine Hill and didn't go to the ER. It hurt when I put weight on it but not enough that I couldn't walk but I needed a cane so I bought one, I think. My doctor suggested I see a physiotherapist. I went. They knew what it was and it wasn't a torn or broken anything and gave me some exercises to do. I had about 3 or four sessions. Then I was healed and no longer needed a cane. Since I bought the cane on my own I apparently used it on the wrong side but that worked for me. I would definitely go to a specialist. Listen to what feels good for you and your body. Maybe having a third person drive you is good if your husband has dementia and you need to see your own doctor on that trip.

My sympathies to you and all the issues you are facing. Take care of you.

slightlv

(7,782 posts)
6. Got em... i just dont trust
Mon Mar 23, 2026, 11:46 PM
3 hrs ago

This hospital on reading them since they screwed up so much last time.

I dont let hubby drive by himself anymore, and I don't drive after dark. He's into the early stages of dementia... just far enough at this point to drive me crazy. He's never lost sight of his deep hatred of trump... he just can't remember where anything goes in which cabinets, and has lost all thought to put stuff on lower shelves so I can reach them.

I figure it's the torn ligaments that's causing me pain, I just don't know what the healing answer is. And I don't know what kind of surgery I could be facing. I do know my brother said getting his knee replaced was the worst pain he'd been thru... and he's had tons of motorcycle accidents.

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