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3. You start questioning peoples sanity
At first, I kind of just shrugged religion off as some sort of ridiculous stories, meant to entertain the generations that didnt have video games or the internet. So imagine my surprise when this kid in school told me he actually believed in God, and prayed to him every day. At first, I thought he was joking, and when I realized that he wasnt, I reacted in about the same way as I would if someone told me he actually believed in Super man.
Needless to say, I got sent to the principals office.
4. You cant tell if religion is real or not
After getting in trouble for making fun of that kids religion, I was more confused than ever if religion wasnt real, then why was it such a big deal to make fun of it? So I asked my teacher about it, and she gave some halfhearted explanation about how it was sort of real, but still wasnt.
So on one hand, religion was a real thing, and on the other hand it was just make-believe. For a kid who was still struggling with basic math, this wasnt exactly the easiest concept to grasp.
http://thoughtcatalog.com/mathias-ostlund/2015/05/7-weird-realities-of-growing-up-without-a-religion/
cantbeserious
(13,039 posts)eom
on point
(2,506 posts)Your first reaction was right. Belief is crazy. But we give deference because
a) religion is still a powerful institution and in some places they still kill non believers
b) there is lots of horrible history pre-enlightenment of christian faiths persecuting each other over it. The compromise was live and let live.
c) people have a right to believe in superman, even if it is crazy, as long as they don't push it on others, or hurt others.
But yeah, the truth of children. It is crazy, and I'm sure once the deference to religion wears off in another century or so, will be properly classified in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as an some kind of self delusional illness.
Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)If your neighbor told you they think your satellite dish was absorbing alien mind control beams and reflecting them throughout the neighborhood, you'd probably think they were completely insane and be at least a little unsettled by it.
However, if your neighbor told you they think your other gay neighbors were being influenced by demons and are destroying the fabric of society, we must simply accept their lunacy or be accused of being intolerant.
Funny how that works.
Thirties Child
(543 posts)They're now in their 50s, and each chose a different path:
Son - athiest
Daughter - born-again Catholic
Daughter - spiritual but not religious
Son - says he's born again but it looks like lip-service
PassingFair
(22,434 posts)Thirties Child
(543 posts)Catholic married an Athiest. Born Again married then divorced a Born Again. I think he tried Christianity but it really didn't take, never goes to church, never talks about it. Before the marriage I would have called him my Disinterested child, still think of him that way.
For a brief period I took them to UU Sunday School. After my Athiest flirtation, when they were very young, I gravitated to Spiritual-but-not-Religious. They heard a lot about reincarnation, but that only took with one.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)Sounds like a terrible situation, if there's spousal or societal pressure to pretend to be born again. Anything he can to do change it?
Thirties Child
(543 posts)As I said in the previous post, I've always thought I should call him my Disinterested.
DetlefK
(16,423 posts)Just imagine how hard it would be if you handled religion as an "adult thing". Kids don't get to participate. This is super-important, super-serious adult stuff.
This is about a communion with the creator of the universe! You can't just let a kid pray, who knows what it would ask for?
Once you are old enough, then you are finally allowed to learn about Abraham almost killing Isaac or the israeli tribes enslaving and raping the girls of defeated tribes or giving birth without having sex or walking on water or coming back from the dead.
rug
(82,333 posts)gcomeau
(5,764 posts)...how I go through almost every day of my life feeling every time I look around at society.
"You people seriously believe this stuff? I mean, seriously? This isn't all some kind of Truman-Show-esque practical joke? Because I'd almost find that more believable..."
rug
(82,333 posts)beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)As an adult it's only gotten worse.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)From about the age of 4 on I was confronted with one wtf moment after another. I remain incredulous that anyone honestly believes the nonsense they profess to believe in.
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)and feeling like maybe there was something wrong with my family and I because we didn't.
I also felt like people who expected me to believe it were insulting my intelligence.
Still do.
AuntPatsy
(9,904 posts)Add up and make sense though the adults around me did not seem to care that it did not...I was basically self taught question everything, makes it more interesting...
But I do try to be respectful even though I do fail because I firmly believe some need to believe to help alleviate real fears they might possess....not all believers are fundy types which I gave no patience for....
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)most atheists don't go around looking for reasons to brawl with theists irl.
I usually try to avoid them but when my s/o's relatives get in my face...
AuntPatsy
(9,904 posts)Issues so Vet had to put him to sleep, not sure he looked similar in the face though, again love that picture..
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)And the attitude is priceless.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Someone takes their personal experience and then naively assumes that everyone else must be just like them.
This is one person's experience. It may explain why some people that grow up without religion come to see religious believers as confused and insane people who believe in fairy tales and why you eventually become terrified by them, give them the finger and spend the rest of your life demeaning them. It might even explain your particular position, muriel, but it doesn't speak for most people at all.
What if someone were to write a story about growing up with religion and came to the following conclusions:
1) The concept of god is not confusing at all
2) The stories that accompany your religion help you make sense out of life
3) You start questioning the sanity of those who do not believe
4) You are not sure if people without religion are just defective and you don't understand why you can't make fun of them
5) You are terrified of those who don't have religion and claim that you are insane
6) You realize that there are many different kinds of beliefs and that whichever one speaks to you is as good as those that speak to others
7) Eventually you realize that some people believe and some don't. You don't give the finger to those who see things differently, but embrace the diversity that you see among humans.
That would be someone's experience and others might relate to some or part of it. In this case, the outcome would be much more positive than that reached by Ms. Ostlund, who appears to be very angry, bitter and hostile towards those that are different than she is.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)or his article. It does describe what he felt about religious people when they first impinged on him when he was a child, but the 'terrifying' bit was just people trying to make him believe in hell.
He 'gave the finger' to religion, not the religious people; I'm amazed to see you make that mistake, when so much discussion over the years in this group has been about distinguishing between a religion and its believers. He doesn't 'demean believers' either.
I don't see that he is "very angry, bitter and hostile towards those that are different than he is"; he says "God" is not for him. He is dismissive of "vague, propaganda-like answers that just sound like blatant lies".
"The concept of god is not confusing at all"
Which concept? You think there's only one? The article points out there are different ones, and surely you knew that already.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I believe that this was his experience, I just don't think you can extrapolate it to anyone else.
The article is full of hostility towards the religious, not just religion. I'm amazed that you don't see that when so much discussion over the years in this group has been about distinguishing the two. Questioning people's sanity, making fun of other children because you think their beliefs are like fairy tales - this is about individuals. Are you being coy? If you really can't see how he is demeaning others, that would go a long way in helping me understand why you think you don't.
I'm fine with this being his experience and I would be fine with the one I proposed. Both are valid. The fact that you embrace one and find cause to dismiss the other is exactly why our positions are so different.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)not what he thinks as an adult. He says after their attempts to make him believe in damnation, he walked away from it all.
Where did I dismiss another experience? I asked which concept of god was involved, being surprised you referred to 'the concept' as if there's only one.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I think there are as many concepts of god as there are people on earth, including nonbelievers. I was referring to an individual's concept.
Stop saying you are surprised and amazed by what I say, mv. You not only expect me to say something you can object to, you hear me say it when it hasn't even happened. Disingenuous to say the least.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)"eventually become terrified by them, give them the finger and spend the rest of your life demeaning them"
" the outcome would be much more positive than that reached by Ms. Ostlund, who appears to be very angry, bitter and hostile towards those that are different than she is"
It's not 'disingenuous' to take your use of words and tenses to mean what they do, rather than what you're now telling us you meant to communicate.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)you are surprised and amazed at things I say. I can actually picture you with your look of astonishment, refusing to actually accept that I have said something that you don't think makes sense.
Which is hilarious, because you will object to anything I say and I think are probably only truly surprised and amazed when you can't find anything wrong with it.
Who is us? Are there some people doing some rah-rah as you engage in this intriguing debate?
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)This is not a private email exchange. Many people, including me, read your posts; therefore 'us' is the correct pronoun to use.
I'm not at all surprised that you've tried to divert the discussion to the use of pronouns, which seems to be something you pretend you just cannot get the hang of.
I will take that as a sign you don't want to say anything constructive in this thread.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)unless of course someone is stalking one of us.
Of course I can't get the hang of pronouns and I don't want to say anything constructive. I am completely cowed by you and your judgements of me are always so spot on.
Not really.
It is you that has diverted the conversation. There was much more in that post than my comment about pronouns, but you choose only to respond to that. That is generally what you do - ignore the substance you don't want or can't respond to and pick on one little rather innocuous thing.
We wish our initial impressions had been correct and we remain disappointed.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)But surely you can't be surprised it turned out as it did.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,367 posts)I thought she was making an honest mistake at first, and she doesn't always misinterpret things on purpose. If it's going to be her standard style from now on, I suppose I could put her on ignore.
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)cbayer tries to spin every observation about religion into a vicious attack on defenseless religious people.
Here's the part that demolished the irony meter:
Of course the hit pieces she regularly posts about Gnu AthIesTZ from condescending self-righteous prigs drooling for a chance to bash Dawkins are nothing like that.
She keeps using the word 'disingenuous', I do not think that word means what she thinks it means.
xfundy
(5,105 posts)How hard is it to believe in talking snakes, bushes and donkeys?!1!