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Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:05 AM Apr 2012

Am I unusual, I've never met another atheist?

By which I mean not that I've never actually interacted with another atheist, I'm sure I have but I have never knowingly done so, I've never had someone say "Hey, you're an atheist, so am I" or something like that..

I've lived around this area for a big chunk of my sixtysomething years and have no clue where I might go to deliberately meet another atheist.

Anyone else here never knowingly meet another atheist in the flesh, so to speak?

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Am I unusual, I've never met another atheist? (Original Post) Fumesucker Apr 2012 OP
Last nite I went out with a group of liberals, and I met TWO! Sarah Ibarruri Apr 2012 #1
Me too. rrneck Apr 2012 #2
I wonder if a Christian in the USA can even conceive of never meeting another Christian? Fumesucker Apr 2012 #9
Not likely. The world isn't built that way. rrneck Apr 2012 #11
Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #12
You probably have. trotsky Apr 2012 #3
As I said in the OP, I'm sure I have.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #5
Easy to find izquierdista Apr 2012 #4
No car... Fumesucker Apr 2012 #7
The vast majority of my friends are atheists. ZombieHorde Apr 2012 #6
I know several people who have no use for religion... Jokerman Apr 2012 #8
I bet they avoid talking about it entirely until they are very comfortable with people.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #10
Try a science fair... AlbertCat Apr 2012 #13
The closest B&N is 25.3 miles and I have a bicycle.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #14
About half the members of my safeinOhio Apr 2012 #15
I meet them frequently. In fact, I meet more of them than I do self-identified religious people. cbayer Apr 2012 #16
I really didn't now any until JNelson6563 Apr 2012 #17
You probably have without either of you knowing it. Odin2005 Apr 2012 #18
I mentioned that in the OP although I could have worded it more clearly. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #19
DOH! Odin2005 Apr 2012 #21
You probably have and just didn't know it. laconicsax Apr 2012 #20
Thanks for that.. I didn't word it very well when I look back at it.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #22
Obviously, you've never lived in Oregon Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2012 #23
But how does it come up in normal conversation? Fumesucker Apr 2012 #25
It doesn't. laconicsax Apr 2012 #28
No need to assume with Christians, with rare exceptions they let you know very quickly.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #29
Never having been one, I wouldn't know. laconicsax Apr 2012 #30
How did you know they were Christians? Fumesucker Apr 2012 #31
I found out the normal way. laconicsax Apr 2012 #32
As I said, they usually let you know very quickly.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #33
Only in the good parts of the state. laconicsax Apr 2012 #27
Huh? ButterflyBlood Apr 2012 #37
It's the default position in Portland Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2012 #48
I'd be surprised if that was the case even in Portland ButterflyBlood Apr 2012 #49
Which area is "around this area"? Silent3 Apr 2012 #24
The Bible Belt.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #26
I rarely meet a new person who identifies as an atheist. MineralMan Apr 2012 #34
What church do you go to is usually the second question.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #35
Not where I am, apparently. I guess it could be different in MineralMan Apr 2012 #36
I'm a bit of an oddball in that I probably know more closet Christians than closet atheists ButterflyBlood Apr 2012 #38
You would be unusual in England. LeftishBrit Apr 2012 #39
I have family in the UK I've never met.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #40
If people keep their beliefs hidden you'll never know. rug Apr 2012 #41
Why should something which is a minor part of my life be a subject for casual discussion? Fumesucker Apr 2012 #42
If it does come up do you discuss it? rug Apr 2012 #43
Not everyone reacts really negatively of course, however.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #45
Thanks for your response. rug Apr 2012 #46
Well put.. Fumesucker Apr 2012 #47
A cliche phrase, of course, yet my best friend is an atheist. For real. pinto Apr 2012 #44
I hadn't til fairly recently, and I'm about your age. nt raccoon Apr 2012 #50

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
9. I wonder if a Christian in the USA can even conceive of never meeting another Christian?
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:42 AM
Apr 2012

I can think of a dozen churches around here and I don't even pay attention to them, Jehovah's Witnesses have a big new Assembly Hall about a mile away and there's at least one church on the direct route between here and there.



trotsky

(49,533 posts)
3. You probably have.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:13 AM
Apr 2012

In real life, most of us try not to mention it. Good Christian folk tend to treat you differently once you do, most notably in certain areas of the country.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
5. As I said in the OP, I'm sure I have..
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:21 AM
Apr 2012

But it's also not a subject that arises often in conversation, "Oh, by the way I don't believe in God"..

As you say, Good Christians tend to treat you differently once they find out.

 

izquierdista

(11,689 posts)
4. Easy to find
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:15 AM
Apr 2012

Just look for the people that are NOT wearing yarmulkes, NOT wearing St. Christopher medallions, do NOT have tattoos of praying hands, do NOT have a cross&dove lapel pin, are NOT carrying a Bible or copies of the Watchtower, do NOT have WWJD keychains in their pockets, and do NOT have some sort of cross on the back window or license plate frame of their car.

But if you really want them to find you, put a 'Blessed Be' bumper sticker on the back of your car and they will come out of the woodwork and say hi.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
7. No car...
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:33 AM
Apr 2012

At least for now anyway..



And I can't find anywhere big enough on my bicycle or motorcycle to fit a bumper sticker.

But thanks for the tip, I'd heard the term but had to Google for the meaning..



Jokerman

(3,518 posts)
8. I know several people who have no use for religion...
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:40 AM
Apr 2012

but they avoid self-labeling as an atheist because of the social stigma and potential backlash.

The only other "out" atheist I know is my sister.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
10. I bet they avoid talking about it entirely until they are very comfortable with people..
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:45 AM
Apr 2012

Being an atheist, it's kind of like being the only sober person in the car and the others will beat you up if you mention it..

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
14. The closest B&N is 25.3 miles and I have a bicycle..
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 11:12 AM
Apr 2012

No insurance on my motorcycle right now..



I wasn't really looking to meet anyone, I'm thoroughly used to my situation, just wondering if I'm in a unique position.



safeinOhio

(32,688 posts)
15. About half the members of my
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 12:21 PM
Apr 2012

Unitarian Universalist Church are atheist and proud of it. A great place to meet like minded folks.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
16. I meet them frequently. In fact, I meet more of them than I do self-identified religious people.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 12:29 PM
Apr 2012

It may be because of my lifestyle and the kind of *community* I live in.

The place I spend most of my time doesn't even have any kind of place of worship at all.

Except for the handful of overtly *hostile to religion* people, I enjoy discussing religion with many of the people I know. I find most atheists to be very willing to talk about their views of the world and most are also interested in mine.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
17. I really didn't now any until
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 01:14 PM
Apr 2012

I joined my local Dems after the 2000 coup. I was surprised and delighted at how many fellow atheists I met.

Julie

Odin2005

(53,521 posts)
18. You probably have without either of you knowing it.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 08:15 PM
Apr 2012

Many Atheists are reluctant to tell anyone except their most intimate relations out of fear.

 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
20. You probably have and just didn't know it.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 08:43 PM
Apr 2012

Everyone else is ignoring your first sentence, so I thought I'd jump on the bandwagon.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
25. But how does it come up in normal conversation?
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 09:34 PM
Apr 2012

I doubt even people in Oregon walk around with Darwin fish pendants..

I tried putting a Darwin fish bumper sticker on my truck once, that was an expensive mistake I will not repeat.

 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
30. Never having been one, I wouldn't know.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 10:30 PM
Apr 2012

Most of the Christians I've known just assumed that I was one of them and were repeatedly shocked to find out that I wasn't. Yes, repeatedly. As in, learned, forgot, and learned again.

 

laconicsax

(14,860 posts)
27. Only in the good parts of the state.
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 09:59 PM
Apr 2012

i.e. Portland and Eugene.

Almost everywhere else I've been in the state is awash with god-botherers...except Ashland which is full of new age spiritualists and goddess worshipers.

ButterflyBlood

(12,644 posts)
37. Huh?
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 12:08 PM
Apr 2012

By the last survey, Oregon was 67% Christian and 27% "Unaffiliated". That's obviously far less Christian and religious than the nation at large, but it's not even close to being majority "Unaffiliated", much less atheist, which would be the case if it was the default position.

Lydia Leftcoast

(48,217 posts)
48. It's the default position in Portland
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 10:48 PM
Apr 2012

and Oregon, and the Pacific Northwest in particular, is noticeably less religious than the Midwest.

ButterflyBlood

(12,644 posts)
49. I'd be surprised if that was the case even in Portland
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 10:58 PM
Apr 2012

The rural areas in the west too also have a surprisingly high amount of "Unaffiliated" (even Wyoming and Idaho), so it'd be tough for even Portland to be majority "Unaffiliated" if 27% of the state is and remember "Unaffiliated" does not necessarily mean "atheist" (probably not even majority atheist with all those "spiritual but not religious" people around.)

Silent3

(15,234 posts)
24. Which area is "around this area"?
Fri Apr 13, 2012, 09:22 PM
Apr 2012

That could have something to do with it. I live in one of the most atheist parts of the country (New Hampshire) and, although I know a few "out" atheists, it's not like it comes up all that often that someone is an atheist, even around here. If you live in other parts of the country, especially the "Bible Belt", there are likely fewer atheists, and those atheists who are around you will be more reluctant to publicly identify as atheists.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
34. I rarely meet a new person who identifies as an atheist.
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 10:26 AM
Apr 2012

It's just not a subject that comes up right away. Just as I don't ask people I meet what church they go to, people don't usually inquire into others' religious beliefs or non-beliefs until the acquaintance becomes more complex.

That said, I know a number of atheists. They are friends or people I've known for some time. It's just not the first thing that comes up when you meet someone.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
35. What church do you go to is usually the second question..
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 11:02 AM
Apr 2012

Right after what do you do..

Determine social status and religious persuasion in only two questions, usually within the first minute or two.

It never even occurs to people here that you might not be a Christian.



ButterflyBlood

(12,644 posts)
38. I'm a bit of an oddball in that I probably know more closet Christians than closet atheists
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 12:12 PM
Apr 2012

The latter are somewhat common in the whole punk and indie rock scene, one of the few social circles in the US where this is the case, (Perhaps not closeted to acquaintances outside that scene, but that often means a good chunk of their friends.) In fact in that sense I am basically a closeted Christian myself.

LeftishBrit

(41,208 posts)
39. You would be unusual in England.
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 12:15 PM
Apr 2012

I knew two atheists (my parents) from birth; and know plenty of atheists, plenty of religious people, and plenty of people who wouldn't care enough to know themselves which they are, which is common in England.

Atheism is not a taboo here. 2 of our 3 main party leaders are atheists.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
40. I have family in the UK I've never met..
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 12:24 PM
Apr 2012

I do know that a couple of them at least are atheists, we converse sporadically via email but it's hard to nurture relationships with people you're never likely to meet face to face even if you are related.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
42. Why should something which is a minor part of my life be a subject for casual discussion?
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 02:32 PM
Apr 2012

I don't feel the need to proselytize atheism and constantly declare publicly that I'm an atheist.

The same way I don't feel the need to announce my sexual orientation to everyone I meet, "Oh, by the way, I'm heterosexual"..

Of course, that one is fairly obvious, I'm far from fabulous..

I was raised a Christian but with the philosophy that an individual's relationship with god is a private matter as laid out in Matthew 6:6 , talking about it is in the same league taste wise as talking about your sexual relationship with your spouse or significant other, not done in polite company.



 

rug

(82,333 posts)
43. If it does come up do you discuss it?
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 03:23 PM
Apr 2012

I ask because it's been posted here that there are negative consequences if one's atheism is known.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
45. Not everyone reacts really negatively of course, however..
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 09:40 PM
Apr 2012

Like any other range of human behavior it's a spectrum, there are some that don't care at all shading to those who think I must worship the devil and all but run away screaming..

I mean if I really was a minion of Satan but was still me I wouldn't want to scare people by telling them Old Nick was my boss if I didn't have to.

That Golden Rule thing, some people take it as an insult so I mostly keep it to myself until we know each other well enough that I think it won't be a huge issue. With a few people that's basically forever.

Very similar to the way I hear gays say that if they get to know someone as a person it's harder to pin the evil label on them..

I suck at prayer, no practice and I get self conscious and feel hypocritical if I even think about trying, but I'm an outstanding Bible reader and I like to read the King James aloud and get all the words right in a deep, sonorous tone. I'm a bit like Jim Nabors, but rather than singing it's reading for me that changes my voice for the better. I don't have to worry about what I'm going to say and making sense, just concentrate on saying the words on the page and making them sound good.The language of the King James really is poetic and powerful far beyond colloquial modern English, I can hold an audience of Christians rapt with it if I'm really "on".

Is that bad of me?

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
46. Thanks for your response.
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 09:49 PM
Apr 2012

It's interesting how different people react to the same information.

Keep reciting. You don't need to be a drinker to play the piano in a saloon.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
47. Well put..
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 10:11 PM
Apr 2012

I'm reminded of the blind men and the elephant, everyone sees things from a bit different perspective, that's why people react differently.

pinto

(106,886 posts)
44. A cliche phrase, of course, yet my best friend is an atheist. For real.
Sat Apr 14, 2012, 06:03 PM
Apr 2012

We joke about it at times. As we do other personal things. Often pointedly. Friends do that.

We both share progressive political / social values. And we've been friends for eons.

She's gone with me to a few Christmas midnight masses (Catholic). Our mission does it as a high mass - the priest sings the mass, in Latin. She doesn't join in on the mass procedures. Doesn't kneel when others kneel, doesn't make the sign of the cross, etc. etc. Yet she loves the ritual, visually and viscerally, as I do. It simply is what it is for her. And she knows I've no expectations of her at all - except we support each other in our interests when we can. I feel and do the same.



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