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Opting out of Communion is not easy in Ireland. We wouldnt segregate children by their parents politics. So why are we segregating them by their parents religion, or lack of it?
Sat, May 20, 2017, 06:09
Jennifer O'Connell
Some parenting confessions. I choose what my children eat and when they go to bed. I choose for them not to interact with people they dont know on the internet. I choose to teach them right and wrong. I do not choose a political party for them. I do not choose who they will one day have a romantic relationship with. I do not choose their religious affiliation.
None of these should be controversial decisions theyre simply pragmatic parenting choices, ones with which most people would agree. All except one. Choosing their diet and bedtimes: good. Choosing to set boundaries around their use of technology: good. Choosing to help them distinguish right and wrong: good. Choosing their political party: weird. Choosing their future partner: really weird. Choosing not to give them a religion: not just weird, but selfish and possibly negligent.
In Ireland, to admit that your child wont be making their communion is like saying youve signed them up as a junior member of a political party, something that would quite rightly raise eyebrows. But I fail to understand why were so comfortable publicly nailing our colours to the mast, to our kids masts, when it comes to religion.
Im a pragmatist. I appreciate the myriad reasons parents of all shades of faith, and none, are opting into communion. Perhaps they see it is a natural expression of their Catholic identity. Perhaps it is a meaningful spiritual celebration. Or a harmless tradition keeping them in a club which for all its flaws theyd rather remain part of. Or they want to do it because everyone else is doing it. Or because its easier to do it now and let the child decide later. Or they dont want their child singled out as different. Or they just want to throw a party.
http://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/people/choosing-not-to-give-your-kids-a-religion-is-seen-as-weird-and-selfish-1.3082616
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Reduce religion in school and increase instruction on things that matter in the real world.
Very interesting.
Thirties Child
(543 posts)They each found a different way:
Oldest Son - Athiest
Oldest Daughter - Catholic
Youngest Daughter - Metaphysics
Youngest Son - Not Interested
mhw
(678 posts)Bravo
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)My kids were never subjected to any religious teaching, nor, for that matter, any atheist teaching. If they wanted to ask something, I'd try and give an even-handed answer. But they were free to explore themselves. As far as I know, none (out of 3) has followed a religious path, but I don't know if they'd describe themselves as "atheist". Maybe "disinterested". I don't know.
In the comments, tomnewnewman.org says "@Ashie People are Catholic because they want to be and want their children to be as well." No, they don't, Tom. I was Catholic because I was very young and didn't know about alternatives. You pretty much get it foisted on you by your parents...as the second half of your comment suggests!
rug, this is an interesting article. It illustrates (to me, at least) that personal religious status has different effects depending on where you live.My atheism has never been a "problem" in the countries where I've lived (Australia, Netherlands). But I wonder if that's true in e.g. Ireland.
rug
(82,333 posts)None of my kids say the Pledge of Allegiance so I have an idea what she'a talking about.
msongs
(67,406 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)guillaumeb
(42,641 posts)So by your logic, religion should have withered away in both countries. However, beliefs that seem to go back many thousands of years do not seem to wither away no matter what.