No, my dad's 3 week suffering before he died was not a blessing...

[cynatnite]

It wasn't a blessing to me or my family who had to watch it.

I was told this by a religous nutbag coworker during a discussion about cancer. She had a relative who had fought her cancer for over a year before passing away.

She told me that gawd had blessed my dad since his suffering was much shorter.

I really wanted to punch her in the face.

[pokerfan]

1. Nor was my mother's eight weeks

She made it known that she had no need of any of that mumbo-jumbo as the cancer ran its course. Even still, I had to chase some priests away from her bed. Granted, I'm an atheist, so it's obviously not what I would want, but had she wanted them there, I would have welcomed them, cordially, but she didn't, so I ran them. The damned ghouls. My job, as I saw it, was to ease her mind as best I could and to make sure she got the best palliative care possible. My brother and I were with with her to the end, our father having died several years prior.

[intaglio]

2. ...

[JNelson6563]

3. I'm glad you didn't

Of course she sounds deserving of it, no doubt it would have ended badly for you.

I'm sorry about your dad, I've been down that path and it's the most difficult experience of my life.



Julie

[beam me up scottie]

4. I wanted to punch more than one person at my mom's funeral.

Seriously, my brothers had to take me outside. One woman actually hit on my dad...

I am so sorry you have to go through this.

[Curmudgeoness]

5. I am sorry you lost your dad.

Cancer is a difficult way to go, and losing someone close to you is always hard....especially so when you have religion thrown at you while you are grieving. There are no "blessings" when someone dies.

But try to be more understanding---as humans, we all seem to have a difficult time finding what the right things to say are when someone has had a death in the family. I do think that this person was just trying to be sympathetic, even if she botched it up. You are right, his suffering was difficult for him and for your family....but I will give this woman a pass. Many people run and hide from you when you have lost a love one, since they don't know what to say. She at least tried.

[Kolesar]

6. You stated that so well

I heard some strange stuff when my brother died last summer. I force myself not to forget what I heard. Otherwise I can't get on with life. I have a lot of nightmares .