Another DU member suggested I check out this group.

[catbyte]

By way of introduction, here are two recent posts:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181213040

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10181214870

Thanks for reading.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. This is a good place to be, my dear catbyte!

There are links scattered around in the various threads and you will find support here.

I lost a very close friend 4 years ago, and the support I found here helped me so very much.

I hope it will be the same for you.

[catbyte]

2. Thanks so much. I'm still reeling. Every time I think I'm getting a grip, something bubbles up.

Such is the way of grief. And it's still so raw. Thanks again.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. That's how grief is, and it's awful. I found this article (see below) and it will help:

https://www.tickld.com/heartwarming/1848120/old-man-explains-death-and-life-to-grieving-young-man

[sinkingfeeling]

3. I posted in your DU Lounge thread by mistake.

[mopinko]

5. anger and grief make a tight knot to undo.

my sister is 1 year out from a similar situation to your. more complicated, but a sudden heart attack. turned out that his arteries were blocked, and it was a known complication from harvoni.
he should have been monitored, but instead was cleared for a hip replacement surgery, and died a week later.

she is suing the pcp who dropped the ball, and also the surgeon, who told her the truth, at least, but also should have caught it. her heart is not particularly in it, but says he would kill her if she didnt.

i had a miscarriage many years ago where the hospital nearly let me bleed to death. the grief was so much worse tied up w that anger. such a very difficult combination.

i wish i had some good advice or comfort for you.

just try not to beat yourself up. we cant make other people be who we think they should be, so dont be mad at yourself that you didnt.

(((hugs)))

[IADEMO2004]

6. It's worth the click here if only to vent feelings. I keep returning on the sad days.

Only advice I ever offer is having food and water. It was weeks before I could enjoy food again.